RSVP no vent

Melissa51212

Ok I posted this last night but knot eat it... I work in a very close small office. We are very kind and family valued based. We all invited each other to big things so of course all my coworkers are invited to my big day..my wedding is considered destation being about hr away...however most of my coworkers either have a house or know someon who has a house so the expense shouldn't be an issue..anyway my one coworker was all about my wedding and then all the sudden yesterday I get his RSVP in the mail with. No...with no real explaintation I'm assuming it has to do with his own wedding coming up...but now it's so awkward becaus he should of talked to me Nd explained it...I came in early today and told the ladies at work and they were so upset too...it's just if you see someone everyday you would think to take a minute just to say hey sorry. but he a young guy they think different. Oh well...trying not to let it bother me but it's been tense work day.

vineyard12

Maybe his plans changed. But I agree, he should tell you in person "hey, I just wanted to let you know we can't make if after all." That's all. For some people, this kind of gesture doesn't cross their mind. Sorry he's not coming and hopefully he'll give you some kind of explanation.

RivieraBound

I got kind of the same thing...from someone that was all "I better be invited!" when FI's status changed on facebook.  It was weird.  They said they couldn't afford it.  But then wanted to know where we are registered so they could get us a gift.  Well, you can afford a gift but not to go to the wedding?  Its not like we are having a cash bar or a cover charge or anything lol.  We told them we don't need a gift just their presence...but they still aren't coming.  Oh well.

cpm1223

I understand your frustration, but I don't think that people necessarily have to explain why they aren't coming. It is weird though, if you are very close to this person, that they didn't want to say why they can't go.

Maybe he is having $ issues, or has some other personal reason for not being able to go and he's too embarrassed to have to explain it to you.

RivieraBound

If it was from anyone else, I wouldn't have given it a second thought.  But because this one person was so adamant about being invited I thought it was weird.  You are right though, they don't owe us an explaination!

mandi921vh

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_may-2012-weddings_rsvp-no-vent-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:f0ca0bc1-9255-4120-8042-b40e7f3e99c5Discussion:747b22ef-9256-4d2f-baeb-88bb5b849326Post:30e9420c-904c-402a-b87b-21b7efbbe860">Re: RSVP no vent</a>:
[QUOTE]I understand your frustration, but I don't think that people necessarily have to explain why they aren't coming. It is weird though, if you are very close to this person, that they didn't want to say why they can't go. Maybe he is having $ issues, or has some other personal reason for not being able to go and he's too embarrassed to have to explain it to you.
Posted by cpm1223[/QUOTE]

<div>I agree with this. He may also feel weird telling you 'no' now after orginally saying 'yes'.</div>

AurorasEnvy

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_may-2012-weddings_rsvp-no-vent-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:f0ca0bc1-9255-4120-8042-b40e7f3e99c5Discussion:747b22ef-9256-4d2f-baeb-88bb5b849326Post:25861d29-fd68-4986-b740-e93754dd5938">Re: RSVP no vent</a>:
[QUOTE]If it was from anyone else, I wouldn't have given it a second thought.  But because this one person was so adamant about being invited I thought it was weird.  You are right though, they don't owe us an explaination!
Posted by RivieraBound[/QUOTE]

<div>Yeah, this.  His loss though!</div>