What are you doing to stay calm?

Tobeasimons

I had a mini breakdown while at work/driving home from work yesterday and i dont even know why, but it is Wr. I just wanted to go home from work and have a solo pity party and have a good sob. I took a nap instead , but woke up feeling the same. Fi and I go to counseling bi weekly to address some issues fi has/had, not couple related, I just go for support. It has slowly turned into couples counseling, not sure how but she gets me talking to. I was talking about stress levels and anxiety and she said "find some stress relieving activities to do". I feel like I need something. I find pedicures, facials, massage the most relaxing but they are spendy and temporary. So I figured who better to ask then the only large group of gals that may be stressed like me the. The may board! Anything you do to destress? Spill it!

fluttaby32

Exercise, listen to music, pray, bake, hike, (or anything outdoors!), get coffee with a friend.

Melissa51212

I tried everything that you are told to do but it wasn't working on top of wedding grad school and ,y work being at the most stress time I felt Ike I was losing. My doc put me on a very mild anxiety meds to get me through the next months. I only taken as needed the first week I took it a few times and haven't touched it since it got me out f the panic mode. Not sure if you feel your is this bad but you could talk to your doc.

mancila60

Personally I have a good cry! I know it sounds crazy but I feel like I could pull my hair out at any minute. Crying is the only thing I know to do. Nothing else seems to destress me. I do have pedicures which help but they can get pricey!

TopSecret12

what I have found works best is deep relaxing breathing, it tends to slow me down and relax me.  A hot shower is always a good idea and if all else fails trashy television and some ice cream....hope you feel better soon.

knottieeafa1bb2d69fa208

Well I rely on two things. I have had a prescription to mild anxiety meds which help when needed but I personallly worry about the big day because I'm not going to want to take them then because you can't really mix with alcohol. 

On thing I find extrememly helpful is reformer pilates. The kind on the machines. The reason I think this works better than mat pilates or yoga for me is that you are forced not to think about what you're stressed about because you have to concentrate on keeping control of pully's etc on the machine or you could all over (not get super injured fall over but it would be awkward). It's the only thing that forces me out of my thoughts completely for the length of the class. It has helped me through sooooo many rough times - wedding related, work related, etc. 

Good luck hun. I feel you. xo

Kelsee52612

I go to Zumba!  I find myself getting lost in the music, and I forget about everything else!  I just joined a new gym, so now I have the opportunity to go to Zumba 6 days a week... might be good with the wedding quickly approaching!!  What makes you happy?  You could walk you dog, go to a movie, even grocery shopping would help make you think of other things non-wedding related.  Good luck!

LOMLBOAT

This may sound crazy, but my FI lets me 'fight' with him.  I feel like when I let it all out, stress, frustration, etc, I feel better (along with wine, working out is super helpful and crying).  I tell him I'm stressed and he tries to get it out of me, I get to yell a little, no holds barred kind of thing (nothing mean), but at the end it's just nice to release it all. He usually makes me laugh afterwards for saying something silly or turns something around so I can see it more clearly, but he is such a good sport about letting me yell in a controlled way so that we don't actually fight.

It's not for everyone (things can get said and actually start a fight), but it certain helps me!

mildlymailyn

I have a really good cry and a heart to heart with FI. He is so wonderful and supportive. I would call my mom but she is so upset that she can't help us pay for it, she just feels like the stress is because of her It's not!

vineyard12

I go to Zumba. I zone out and get into the music.  Now that the weather is good, I can get back onto my bicycle. I pay attention to the sound of the tires on the pavement, listen to the birds singing, marvel at people's properties (good and bad!). I stop and take pictures of cows or horses that I pass, or stop in a park if I pass one. When I'm on my bike, nothing else enters my head. And I feel better when I get back, whether it's a 10 mile ride or 30. If's it 30, I'm too tired to care about anything else. lol.

I also like to drive. I used to live near the beach and that was my go-to place to take a drive along the coast. But I also like taking the "long way" home or backroads.

If none of those things work, have a good cry. Then let it go. There is nothing wrong with having a pity party for one, but don't dwell on it. You'll find something that works for you.

careydes

Honestly, I just keep reminding myself that at the end of the day on May 5th, no matter what, FI and I will be married.

That thought calms me like no other, and really helps me not to stress about the wedding stuff that is getting to me.

Of course, I also read, exercise (mostly elliptical) and call my mom

ymw6110

Distance runs outdoors. I zone out and pray while running along beautiful trails. There's a downside! I was stressed for an extended period of time, did this too often and lost too much weight. Looked a little stickly in the end but those runs really calmed me down!

arisia

I work out, but lists also help. I write down everything I need to do and any notes about each task. This stops it from running around and around in my head.

kimberlykh

I take long walks with my dog, call my girlfriends and talk about Non WR things, and take hot showers. I try (not always successful)  to think about work at work and wedding stuff only at home.

bpphoto785

Zumba, long walks with my dog, a good book, glass of beer/wine. Also, this might sound weird, but sometimes FI & I just yell about nothing. It's not yelling at each other or about anything, so we're not fighting. It's really silly so we're laughing and the yelling helps to let some steam off.

COSmitty

Long, fast walks with fi or friends. Then er do the wedding stuff our work rehash while walking. It helps and the conversations are less stressful while moving.

mandi921vh

I do things to distract myself or things that make me feel healthy like walking, talking with friends, getting out of the house, and watching tv.

COSmitty

Long, fast walks with fi or friends. Then er do the wedding stuff our work rehash while walking. It helps and the conversations are less stressful while moving.

littleshrink

All of the above.  I think I have and do every single one of those on any given day.  Last night we went out to dinner with some friends to a new restaurant and just laughed and enjoyed each other.  It's been a long time since we have seen them and so I told them they had 10 minutes to discuss/ask wedding stuff and then we were moving on.  They laughed but also understood and it was great.  I think it is terribly important to take breaks from wedding planning.  We give ourselves 1 night off a week not talking, planning or thinking (if we can help it) wedding.  That made a huge difference for us.
My everyday de-stress is working out.  It helps to clear my head of work, wedding and any other stress of the day/week.  I used to hate working out, but lately it's my get through.
I wish you luck.  If it gets super serious I would talk to your counselor about alternatives.  We counselors usually have other ideas then just to sit and listen and ask you questions!

AurorasEnvy

I have a pretty stressful job, so I don't think I'm as stressed out about the wedding because I've just learned to deal with it.

First, live each day and be done with it.  When you are laying down to go to sleep, rule #1 - clear your mind, no thoughts about what you did/what you could have done/what you need to do.  Go to sleep knowing that tomorrow will be a better day and that everything will eventually work out.  I used to bring my work home a lot so to speak, and it was really affecting my home life & sleep.

I also like to read/watch movies, etc - anything to give your mind "escape" from your troubles.  Exercising is good, too.

And kind of going with the first part about letting your mind go, it's looking at the big picture - let's face it, there are many places in the world where people are starving, living in war zones, enslaved, poor, sick, etc.  In the grand scheme of things, it seems really silly to get incredibly worked up over something so trivial when even on our worst days, we really are lucky, and it could be SO much worse.  That isn't to say that I don't get worked up over stuff sometimes, but this is one way I back off and say "you know, this problem I'm having kind of sucks right now, but it really isn't something I need to kill myself over."

Everyday, I do the best possible job I can for the given situation (whether it is work, home life, relationships, etc.).  I take solace in the fact that I've done what I can at any given moment, and if it doesn't work out, so be it - this too shall pass.

robinandtimmy

I talk to my friends mostly my MOH.  Also 2 weeks ago my friend won a 30 day membership for a pole dancing studio across the street from my house and she gave it to me. So I've been going to one or two classes a week.