parents meeting

kimberlykh

Are anyones parents meeting for the first time at the wedding or RD?  Ours are, and I'm nervous!
Well, my mom and stepdad have met his dad.  They are both the more "neutral" parents and got along really well.  They actually really enjoyed each others company when they met last December. 
But, my dad and Greg's mom are complete opposites and FI and I are both a little nervous about their meeting. 
My dad is conservative republican, he's a member of the NRA, and he's very into hunting/fishing.  Greg's mom is an artist.  She and her BF live on a villa in France, and she's as liberal as they come.  (I'm very liberal myself, but some of her ideas are even out of my comfort zone). 
Now, I know that my dad and his mom are both classy, they both know that they are there to celebrate our marriage, and I know that they won't openly have a debate at our rehearsal dinner. But, I cannot help but worry about this meeting, and any awkwardness that may ensue. They are both people that the other one would literally never encounter in their everday life! 

mandi921vh

I wouldn't worry too much. A wedding is supposed to bring people together and I bet everyone will be on their best behavior to make your wedding day a happy one  

I am worried that FI's grandmother, and two aunts will be rude at our wedding, and make fun of it, or complain about how much it cost them to travel. I hope I will not be around when this happens, but even if it does, nothing is going to ruin my wedding

DianaL616

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[QUOTE]I wouldn't worry too much. A wedding is supposed to bring people together and I bet everyone will be on their best behavior to make your wedding day a happy one :)  
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</div><div>I agree! It might be a little awkward but I'm sure it will all work out!</div><div>
</div><div>Our parents won't be meeting until the week of the wedding either. Both sets of parents are coming a week before the wedding so I'm glad there will be some alone time before everyone else gets in town a couple of days before.

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comeongetdown

our parents aren't meeting until the week of the wedding either.

i'm lucky though, FI's parents and my mom and stepdad have a lot in common and have similar religious and political views so i think they will get along really well.

but, if they don't get along then i know they'll at least be civil because they're all very respectful and anti-drama. 

LOMLBOAT

I was worried about my mother and FI's father meeting as they are pretty opposite.  My mom holds herself to a bit of a higher standard and expects other people to as well.  My FFIL was a chief of police and works for the sherriff's dept and he's a little rough around the edges (swears, scratches his butt (lol)).  I was TERRIFIED of them meeting, but my FFIL was a little more subdued and my mother didn't make a face or say anything, which she normally does.  Afterwards she made some comments, but she knew better to say/do anything and now (3 years later) they are actually very good friends and hang out as a group.  So I wouldn't stress too much as right now I think they'll be concerned more about your happiness than anything else.

Sorry this was long, but I just wanted to let you know that opposite doesn't necessarily mean conflict.  GL!!

mancila60

My mother and stepdad have met everyone except FI's dad. And then my mom and stepmom haven't met anyone. Everyone will meet on Easter as FI and I didn't want them meeting at the wedding except my dad and stepmom since they live OOT and my dad will be traveling for work that weekend.

FI's dad drinks a lot and this worries me about the parents meeting. Also FI's grandmother is very outspoken and my grandmother is conservative and religious. I never want them 2 to meet even though they were at the shower together!

I understand how you feel. But I would try not to worry about it as hopefully they know it is about the two of you.

deeNseth

Oh yeah, pretty nervous about this one, myself!  They will be meeting the day of the RD (we're in MD, my parents in HI, and FI's in NH).  Luckily FI's parents are coming in really early that morning so we will have lunch just the six of us before throwing everyone together that night and the next day!

Going to be interesting for sure.......