Last minute RSVPs?

mookow86

I just had someone ask me if he can bring his girlfriend to our wedding on Saturday. He previously told me she had to work and couldn't make it. We have already given all of our final numbers and paid for everything in full. There aren't any extra seats at any of the tables and we would probably have to rearrange the whole seating chart and rent a bigger table and an extra chair to be able to seat the two of them next to each other. Am I being a total b!tch if I tell him he can't bring her? Help! This is driving me nuts.

enchantedonyx

I wanted to tell people who changed rsvps late "no", too. they said they wouldn't be there and now they will. I threatened to make them sit on the floor and eat happy meals. But my mom wouldn't let me and said they could come.

I'm not sure what the right answer is here. My inclination is to say no, but it's probably really poor etiquette to do so.

Laurie109

This happened to me.

1) i had 2 nos turn into a yes and was able to change it - i just have one really tight table.

2) i had 2 yeses become nos after i submitted final count, and 1 yes ask to bring a friend. I was going to just have them move to the other table and fill that spot (even though escort cards were already done), but then the 2 yes-nos became yeses again today and the other guys date is no longer coming.

It is really crazy getting people to just do things the right way the first time. lol.

i would try to squeeze them in and talk to the venue about any extra charges you may incur...that was my plan.

caitlinc09

You aren't a B for telling him no if that's what needs to happen. Hopefully he is only asking on the off chance it won't affect the seating but since it will I am sure he will understand!

Laurie109

PS as PP said, you won't be a B for saying no. I'd just say make an effort and if it can't be done easily, then you know you did your best and they can live with that.

gpapale1

If it's not too much of a hassle (which that doesn't seem to be the case), I think it's okay for him to bring her.  If you have to expend a ton of extra money to accomodate her, I would politely tell him that it's too late to change your arrangements due to the caterer.  Easy as that.

mookow86

Ok, thanks ladies. After calming down I realized that it was more just the principle of the situation that annoys me more than anything. We're going to try to make it work, but I'm not happy about it. :-p

mandi921vh

If you are having a buffet then I think adding one person should be fine.