Got my first one... ugh!

amanda14lynne

The majority of my invites went out on Monday.. a few more yesterday.  We gave our guests the option of RSVPing on our website or by mailing us the response card.

I have a friend whose husband left her about 3 months ago.  (They got married LAST MAY!)  It's been a big ordeal and very hard on her.  She is moving back in with her parents for a while... until she can get her feet back under her.  Anyway, I sent her invite to HER only.  Her parents are also invited as I have known them for a long time.  Anyway, I received notification that she RSVPd  Under name it says " "Amber and guest "
I know she is having a hard time, but I really want to tell her I hadn't factored in for a guest.  I also don't want her bringing some random guy out of principle....

So it begins!

comeongetdown

wow, you would think with her wedding being so recent she would know not to suck at RSVPing....

i'm not sure how to tactfully tell people they can't bring a plus one when they were the only ones invited, but it sounds like most of us are having this same problem!

you may just have to suck it up and talk to her about how you reserved only one seat for her and hadn't anticipated a plus one and yadda yadda yadda.... there have been some good examples of what to say in previous threads.

good luck   :-/

cpm1223

We ran into this issue with a friend of mine. I told her that we were at our limit of guests and that at this time we really couldn't give her a plus 1.

I think its strange that she wants to bring someone to your wedding at this point in her life but maybe she just doesn't want to be alone? It's still really rude of her to have added an &guest on the reply and she should have known better since she just got married less than a year ago.

I think that since her parents are going to the wedding too (so she won't be alone/not know anyone) that you can call her and explain that you can't afford or don't have room to add anyone to the guest list at this time.

DanniLynn88

We let everyone know we are having a VERY intimate ceremony. That the space was not adequate for everyone to bring a guest. Everyone seems to be pretty much okay with that, and understanding.  

cpm1223

I also should have said that if this woman has an actual boyfriend that she's wanting to bring, you may have to suck it up and let her bring him. If there's any way you can find out if this guest is a boyfriend or not before making your decision, you might be better off.

If she's just writing &guest with no one in mind, hoping she'll find someone by May, just say no!

ladychambers83

That sucks! She of all people should understand. I experienced the same thing with a cousin of mine who's recently divorced and wanted to bring a date....ummmm no! I told him I didn't really calculate for him bringing a guest and he TOTALLY understood! then he asked if I'll have any single friends there lol
Just talk to her about it, maybe she'll be cool GL

deeNseth

I've had FIVE unexpected "plus one's" pop up so far!!!  Not good!  One was REALLY ballsy and crossed out our "We have reserved 1 seat in your honor..." and wrote in the # 2 and then wrote "Janey and guest."  So annoying.  You'd think they'd at least write in the guest's name.  It's FI's family so idk if his parents told her it was ok and she might even be married and my FMIL just didn't know/didn't tell me (not great on the communication w/ FFIL's family...) but it's still really frustrating!

mandi921vh

Are you positive she isn't in a relationship? Just let her know that the invite was just for her, and that you hope she can still make it. If she then says she has a boyfriend then he should be invited...

amanda14lynne

She definitely doesn't have a boyfriend.  We are close friends.  She is actually doing the guestbook and programs at the wedding.  I think she is just hoping to find someone to bring.  She has lots of friends who will be there (some who are also single).  I think I will just mention the space issue to her and hope she understands.