May 2012 Weddings

Seriously?!

My married friend who lives in Ohio sends her RSVP back to me in Atlanta today: Jane Smith and guest.  Ummm, "and guest" wasn't invited- your husband was invited!!  And, I honestly don't mind if she brings someone else, but she has purchased a flight so she obviously knows who her "guest" is.  It isn't like she can bring a random friend or family member, it is a flight away.  Just give me a name so I can keep my database updated. 
I am irrationally irritated by this...or maybe its rational, I don't know!

Re: Seriously?!

  • I would ask her who her guest is. Tell her you need specifics for the reception. If it isn't her husband I'd be a little worried.
  • I did text her, but haven't heard back.  I think she may be bringing her mom for a little family time.  Who knows?!  I'm not worried, she has a great marriage, I know her and her husband are good. I think maybe he is staying back with their son since kids are not invited.  But the weird thing is when I saw them at Christmastime they said they were both coming and her parents were watching the kids.  And, I know she got a flight, I just assumed her and her husband did.  I don't know, it is odd!
  • I would explain that her invite was for her and her husband and not a guest...
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  • I think I find this part of the entire wedding process the most stressful so far...RSVP's!  People writing in their own guests, not sending them back even when they yelled the loudest about when the invites would be coming, adding kids to the list, etc.  ARGH!!!!  My own mother hasn't RSVP'd yet...I mean, seriously?!?!?!!!  
  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_may-2012-weddings_seriously-3?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:f0ca0bc1-9255-4120-8042-b40e7f3e99c5Discussion:9fec3476-cfcc-47f9-aae9-79211c783992Post:33d5a369-29ee-4fa8-8baf-28a35506c165">Re: Seriously?!</a>:
    [QUOTE]  My own mother hasn't RSVP'd yet...I mean, seriously?!?!?!!!  
    Posted by classykat22[/QUOTE]

    I just didnt send my parents and wedding party RSVP cards... clearly they are coming. I just gave them invites so they had the information on hand.
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  • I'm not sure that I would be too mad about her bringing someone else. Maybe it's just me, but I know that if FI couldn't come to a wedding with me, I would probably want someone else to be my guest. Whether that be a friend, family member, etc. I can definitely see how it could come off as rude to you, but she probably didn't think anything of it. Since you already had two seats reserved for her & her husband, I'd just let it slide & try not to let it stress you out :)

    About the meal thing though, that would aggravate me! How the heck are you supposed to know who wants what? Annoying!
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  • edited March 2012
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_may-2012-weddings_seriously-3?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:f0ca0bc1-9255-4120-8042-b40e7f3e99c5Discussion:9fec3476-cfcc-47f9-aae9-79211c783992Post:33d5a369-29ee-4fa8-8baf-28a35506c165">Re: Seriously?!</a>:
    [QUOTE]I think I find this part of the entire wedding process the most stressful so far...RSVP's!  People writing in their own guests, not sending them back even when they yelled the loudest about when the invites would be coming, adding kids to the list, etc.  ARGH!!!!  My own mother hasn't RSVP'd yet...I mean, seriously?!?!?!!!  
    Posted by classykat22[/QUOTE]

    <div>This. Plus the fact that people are now RSVP'ing via email, FB message or texting....stamps are not cheap! Very frustrating :-(</div>
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    edited March 2012
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_may-2012-weddings_seriously-3?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:f0ca0bc1-9255-4120-8042-b40e7f3e99c5Discussion:9fec3476-cfcc-47f9-aae9-79211c783992Post:603ecd16-58f5-490d-9c73-49424c766fbb">Re: Seriously?!</a>:
    [QUOTE] And, last vent ( I promise):<strong> our RSVPs clearly state: "Please initial the entree choice of each guest."  Sound simple?  About 1/2 of the people are just checking two entrees instead of saying who wants what.  I've decided to just assign the steak to the men and the fish to the women when they do this.</strong>  (The vegetarian dish throws me off though, lol).  
    Posted by kimberlykh[/QUOTE]

    We did the exact same thing and most are coming back with checks.  I'm sorry, did I not state it clearly enough for you?  I'm tempted to give all them the children's chicken fingers meal!!  I'm also having people not sending them.  Excuse?: we just ASSUMED you knew we weren't coming.  Hmm...I guess being a bride also makes you guaranteed mind reader.  I stamped, put on address labels and return labels for each and every reply.  I'm not sure how much easier to make this for people. 
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