Monday's Random Wedding Question

jlbaxter33

What tradition are/were you determined to uphold at your wedding? Or oppositely, what tradition could you not wait to get rid of?

KimWard

Well, since I'm pretty traditional, I followed most of the typical wedding traditions. One of the most important was that DH and I not see each other before the ceremony. We held hands through the door and spoke for a minute or 2, but that's it. One tradition I did away with was having the man that caught the garter but it on the woman who caught the bouquet- way too awkward. We just all took a picture together instead.

jlbaxter33

I love all the Pittsburgh traditions, so we are doing all of them! cookie table, dollar dance with shots, polkas, etc. The only one I've considered scrapping is not seeing each other before the ceremony... I think this would be a great way to get pictures done, but my Mom is pretty adament about it.

cgyvhu

I am planning on skipping a lot of traditions - I don't like the bouquet/garter toss so I'm not going to do that.  I also want tons of pictures (and will likely be nervous pre-ceremony), so I'm planning on doing a first look.  

I do plan on keeping the old/new/borrowed/blue/sixpence tradition.

duqcheer04

There were certain things that I wanted to keep and others I did away with, even against my parent's wishes.

Didn't Do: garter/bouquet toss, traditional bridal party dance (everyone dances with their said "partners"), bubbles at the end of the ceremony,

Traditions I did do: Dollar dance, father/daughter, not seeing DH till I walked down the aisle, cookie table

The one thing that I added: dancing with my mom

Ash2985

I don't think I'm particularly traditional.  We're not doing the garter/bouquet toss, not doing a bridal party dance, no receiving line (kind of impractical), no bubbles or anything at the end.  We're going to do a first look because I want to be able to join everyone at the cocktail hour, and will likely spend the night before the wedding together.  I haven't decided yet whether I'm changing my name, though that's technically not really a wedding tradition.

We are doing a cookie table.

gmc22

I agree J - I love the Pgh traditions! Especially since my FI and his family are from Philly and everything is new to them!

Also, it is a tradition in my family for as long as I can remember for all of the men to gather around the bride and serenade her with a (acoustic lol) rendition of 'Oh Marie' in Italian I LOVE it and it's very special to my family.

I'm doing the bouquet and garter toss, but I'm not having the guy who catches it put the garter on the girl who catches the bouquet... I hate that!

I don't think we'll be doing the dollar dance either - I'm just not a fan...

kwynn

For me, it was a big no to the following:

Bride's parents paying
Single-sex shower
Not seeing each other before the ceremony
Matching bridal party dresses
Flower girl
Any kind of unity candle/sand/wine/etc.
Bridal party dance
Head table
Clinking glasses
Dollar Dance
Single guys/girls for tosses
Replacing the garter on the catcher's leg
Changing my name

Kept:

Escorted down the aisle by my dad (considered going alone, but decided to walk with my dad)
First dance

I really researched the meanings behind traditions and decided what I wanted to do and what I didn't. Some things just didn't fit who I was or what I stand for, others I was okay with.

Pirata13

We did not do a unity candle or anything like that, and no dollar dance. I was adamant about that one. H brought it up more than once and I said NO WAY! We also did not have a bridal party dance. 

We did pretty much everything else--stayed separate the night before, did not see each other before ceremony, receiving line etc. We did a garter/bouquet toss but did a combined one to "Take Me Out to the Ballgame". Made everyone at the hall sing while we did our thing, then threw to the girls/guys on "3" in the "For it's 1! 2! 3! strikes you're out" line.  Took the attention off the singles for the most part, made it a little more fun for everyone.

And we of course did the cookie table!

alainn15

No garter or bouquet tosses, no dances for the bridal party, just first dance and father/daughter and mother/son, no polka, no unity anything, no head table, no waiting to see him before the ceremony, no nunnles after the ceremony, no bells or clinking glasses on the tables, no bridal dollar dance, no parents paying for anything, and no receiving line. If I forgot anything else traditional it should probably be on the list. Basically if it's a tradition, we aren't doing it 

I will be wearing a peice of jewelry or handkerchief from my Grandmother, which isn't really a tradition, but it will start one in my family

Ash2985

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_pennsylvania-pittsburgh_mondays-random-wedding-question?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:116Discussion:2e663207-9bf0-4b92-bd77-9d60eb1c870dPost:deb5bba1-6478-4c9a-9e15-5d61b4675d8a">Re: Monday's Random Wedding Question</a>:
[QUOTE]no nunnles after the ceremony
Posted by alainn15[/QUOTE]

<div>Wait, what?</div>

duqcheer04

I think she meant bubbles?

Ash2985

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[QUOTE]I think she meant bubbles?
Posted by duqcheer04[/QUOTE]

<div>OHHH.  I couldn't for the life of me figure it out.  Thanks!</div>

alainn15

Lol, Sorry, I did mean bubbles, but I don't pay attention when I type and a co-worker was talking to me.