oh, my dad...

kimberlykh

He is one of the most hard to read people I know. 
Today he called me and said that my aunt and uncle would now be coming.  They had canceled last week due to unforseen medical expenses.  I asked my dad if he is paying for them to come and he just said it is private, just note they'll be there.  I am pretty sure that my sister called my dad to tell him how upset I was that barely any of his side was coming and he offered to pay for their trip.  Very sweet.

Then, in the same conversation, he said he may miss the rehearsal because he wants to go to a baseball game in my hometown and board meeting for it on the Thursday night before the wedding. Therefore they won't leave for the long drive (10 hours) until Friday morning, probably missing the rehearsal.   Not so sweet.

Anyone else's parents driving them bonkers?

Jules5611

I know what you mean. What was your response when he said he may not be able to make it?
My nother is missing my rehearsal dinner cause she will be camping...an hour away. I told her the time date and location before I confirmed it with the resuturant and other people attending. So I was more than upset when my mother called me 2 weeks after I had made reservations and invited people to see if I could if I could change the date. She said she is already giving up a weekend of camping becasue I am getting married. Thank god I didn't have a bridal shower...that would have been more camping time missed.

mandi921vh

I love my parents and I am so grateful they are paying for our wedding, but it has made the process so much more stressful because whereas I would have loved to have everything booked over a year ago (knew what vendors I wanted), they were fine and merry to book everything at the last minute, making me worry about not getting my first choices on vendors. They planned my sister's wedding in less than 4 months so maybe they thought they could pull it off, which they did, but I would have been less stressed to have had everyone locked down a year ago. While my parents are slightly "in with it" in the 21st century they really have no idea how weddings go down these days and couldn't understand why I wanted my wedding photos to be amazing rather than mediocre., and that FI and I plan to have them displayed in our house forever, including our wedding photo album to be a staple on our coffee table. 

They have the mindset that although you care about your wedding in the days leading up to it, you won't care about it in the days after...it becomes just a day, not an important day that you carry with you forever. I had to beg my parents to show me their wedding pictures and never saw them until a few years ago! I want my children and other family members to have access to these photos. Ugh, I could go on, I think my parents just don't understand the importance pf photographs sometimes. If it wasn't for me, we probably wouldn't have a lot of family photos that we do have.

Melissa51212

My parents have been pretty amazing...little fights here and there.. We mostly paying for besides a nice donatio..so they keep out of it but my mo makes little comments about how big our wedding is...they don't get what weddings are now.

kushie77

My mom has been a huge support.  His mother on the other hand is going to make me take the nearest bridge.  She decided to tell me tonight that she feels that my FI should be wearing silver vest and tie not ivory and that I was wrong to not let him have the chocolate brown tux that he really likes.   Are you kidding me??  My MOH and BM are wearing black lace dresses.  REally?  choc brown tux with girls in black?   I have visions of duct taping her mouth shut.  So I just smiled and said well they are already ordered so what's done is done.

ravenray

Oh it's been my mother.  She has been very difficult about the decorating.  Oh well she is doing good in other ways that I didn't think were possible.

FI's dad wanted use to reorder our $15 a piece invitations because he didn't like that it had FI's Saint's name on it.  Sorry we are getting married in the Orthodox church, they are going to using our saints names. Sigh oh well.  We just told him that they had already been ordered and sent.