just a vent

DianaL616

My mom just text me that my younger brother (he's 23) is bringing a date to the wedding. 

Problem #1) we only wanted people to bring a guest if they are in a relationship with the person....no dates just for the sake of having a date. 

Problem #2) I'm not a fan of this girl....I've met her another time when she flew up to GA to be my brother's date for his friend's wedding. I hate to say this because it's really mean but she is just a skan*y girl. I didn't even know he was still friends with her since he lives in GA and she lives down here in FL. It's very random for him to bring her. I can think of a few other girls that could have come with him that would have been less random

I feel like I can't say anything about the "relationship only" policy because he's my brother and obviously my parents didn't say anything to him. If my brother wants to date girls like that then that's fine but why do they have to be part of my day that I consider to be very personal? I'm not trying to be a brat or a bridezilla and I know it on the day of the wedding I won't be paying attention to her but it still really bothers me. I know I sound like a terrible, judgemental person so I feel guilty now.

**end vent**

Thanks for listening!

mandi921vh

Are you paying for this wedding or your parents? If it's you I think you are well within your rights to explain to your brother that only people with S/O's are invited. I think it's kind of rude for your mom to spring this on you this close to the wedding!

caitlinc09

I completely understand what you mean, I had the same "relationship only" policy as far as dates go for us. The best man practically threw a fit over this and it's really annoying - he is like a brother to me as well. I think you should say something to him and explain that since it's your special day and you will have these photos forever it's really important to you to have people that are close to you and that care about you there. He is your brother so hopefully he will be understanding and respect your wishes. 

blahblah85

I was engaged to FI when his sister got married last August, but I was not in the bridal party.  There isn't one damn picture of me.  Don't sweat it.  She won't be in pics.

DianaL616

Thanks ladies! It was more the initial shock that set me off. I'm still not happy about it because of the no random plus one policy (not a budget issue, just a person preference). I know she won't ruin my day or anything but it's just the principle of it all. Sigh.

levanlaere

My brother just started dating a girl seriously like last week and I don't like her at all, but I want him happy on that day and I know I do not want to see him sitting along without a guest so I am fine with him bringing her.

I completely understand...we can secretly hope they don't work out. (Don't judge me!)

marisha115

Don't waste your energy worrying about her is the best advice I can give.  My FI's brother and best man has yet to RSVP (deadline was the 17th) because he's looking for a date.  And we had the same only if you're in a relationship policy.  It's just not worth the family drama to us to fight this one.  

AurorasEnvy

It's okay.  There are going to be some guests of guests at our wedding than I am less than in love with.  Just gotta roll with it!