Does anyone else feel pressured to do things at their wedding they don't necessarily want to do?
Yesterday my mom met with our venue's wedding planner. Not only did we come to find out we couldn't have the candy table I swear they said we could when we booked the place, but the woman also said the time I alloted for pictures after the ceremony was too long. The ceremony and reception are in the same place, and we had a cocktail hour planned in the middle while the wedding party took pictures. Since i really, really didn't want my FI to see me before the wedding, we alloted an hour and a half for pictures, and then a half hour of "prep" time before the reception, making the cocktail hour 2 hours.
The wedding planner and my mom both said that is way too long, and that people will get restless and resent having to wait that long. I am especially paranoid about people having a good time since we are only doing unlimited beer and wine instead of a full bar (full bar is $6000 more expensive... not worth it to me for the older men to have their scotch). The wedding planner, who works with my photographer all the time, said if we did the girl/guy shots before the wedding we should be able to get all the rest done after the wedding within an hour.
Well, talked to my photographer, and he basically said that would be hard to get it done in less than an hour and a half if we don't want to be crazy rushed
My mom gave me all the benefits of taking the pictures before the wedding.
I don't know what to do now. I don't want people to have to wait forever and get bored (even though we are having lots of wine and beer and food for them) but I had my heart set on him not seeing me before the ceremony.