So as you gals know, i had a lot of family issues with the wedding planning...namely my 2 cousins. Both dropped out of my wedding for different reasons...one i suspect because she was jealous and the other because i wouldnt invite her BF at the time who had disrespected my grandmother and cursed her out. My Aunt and Uncle, Grandmother, and cousin Nicole will not speak to me...they are also very mad at my mother and father for defending me.
My mother has been very sick with POTs disease and a lot of blood pooling issues in her stomach. THe stress of not being able to see or speak to her own mother is driving her insane. I feel bad that the family is fighting but at the same time i want to stick to my guns. Nicole (my cousins) BF last week jumped out of her moving car and hit his head...he threatened my cousin yet again and they finally broke up again. I hate to say told you so...but i KNEW this would happen and i KNEW thats why i didnt want him at my wedding.
My cousin texted my father that she feels bad and wished she could talk to me but has not made any effort to call or text me so i havent made the attempt either. For all i know, she got back together with him.
At this point though, being like 6-7 months out from the wedding...im getting really upset that out of my 5 sets of aunts and uncles that only 1 is coming and that NONE of my cousins are coming to the wedding. These were people i was so close to growing up and did so much for. They dont want to respect my decisions as a bride and I wont have unnecessary drama the day of. I have too much other stuff to deal with. Obviously, my family has issues....but i dont want to always be the one bending over backwards and apologizing for not inviting my cousins BF.
The other cousin I mentioned (Amanda) has always had issues with me growing up and the jealousy thing. To her it was always some competition of who can do this and that better when i dont even care. Her parents have said some horrible things and have caused lots of fighting between the kids...mainly because them themselves have issues with my mother and father and have since they were all really young. I guess thats what happens when everyone in your family grew up together and have been friends for 40 or so years.
I just feel caught in the middle and i dont want to again, apologize because i really do not feel that i did anything wrong. But i hate to be called all these horrible names by family (vapid, bitch, bridezilla, selfish etc) when i did nothing but try and do the right thing in the first place (have my family as part of the wedding)
I have prepared myself to have no family at the wedding. Of the 200 people invited only about a third were mine...and now of that third, more then half the family is not coming and 4 friends are pregnant and due right around that time.
really sucks as i was ultra picky with my portion of the list and now im starting to see everyones true colors and im a bit sad over it.
Anyway, any advice as to what to do with this situation. Ive had anxiety over this for months. Havent spoken to anyone since April-May.
Thanks Ladies!