Not a happy lady right now :( (vent, a little long)

gpapale1

So many things are effed up!  I'm really frustrated.

FI and I got our wedding bands in the mail this week.  He really likes his, but it's a tad too big, so I have to exchange it (it's tungsten and can't be resized).  I really wanted to like mine, but it's just way too thin.  It's also a bit snug, even though I ordered the same size as my e-ring, which is slightly loose.  I really don't understand how that happened.  I think I'm just going to have to suck it up and figure out how to pay for the original ring I found that goes perfectly with my e-ring.

I got my bridal shower dress in the mail today, and although I really like it, trying it on made me realize how uncomfortable I am in my own skin right now.  I am definitely not as fit as I'd like to be, but it's really hard for me to motivate myself to eat healthier and exercise.  I HATE cardio, but that's really the best way to trim down your midsection.  Blah.

The lanterns I purchased also came in the mail today, but I'm not sure if I really like them or not.  I feel like nothing I have really "goes" together, and it's stressing me out.  I really don't have the money to just keep buying more stuff, so I need to figure out how to make what I have just work.

Thanks for letting me vent, I'm just annoyed right now.  I just want to be frickin' married already and be DONE with all of this.

dland0201

I'm so sorry all these things are going wrong at the same time. Maybe step away from the planning for the rest of the day. And start fresh again tomorrow.

mancila60

I agree with PP! The rings obviously take care of that since that is a sizing issue. As far as the rest goes just step away give it a day or so and then go back and look at it again I'm sure you have plenty of things you could do to tie it all in together if it's not matching right now. Just give it some time. Sorry you feel this way.

LBug24

Ugh, crappy day! Sorry to hear that!

I get you on the "feeling uncomfortable" and yet unmotivated. i have no solution, but i feel for you!

My band was a different size than my E-Ring too. The lady said it had to do with the thickness of the band and how it changes your size, apparently..

Follow PPs-- take a few days off, come back with a better outlook

(and we're always here to bounce ideas around! Post pics of everything, let's see what we can do!)

mandydc0509

There was a weekend a couple of weeks ago when I dropped EVERYTHING wedding related b/c I had gotten sick of all of it. Nothing seemed to go together, I was confused, and stressed out. That weekend away from everything really helped, and I was actually able to get a clearer idea of what I wanted to do.

So I agree with pps - take a break from the planning and do something you loved during before you started planning a wedding. Then come back to it.

ETA: Btw, Ms. Date Twin, I've looked at your bio more than once, and I think what you have right is beautiful.  Don't doubt yourself.

gpapale1

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[QUOTE]There was a weekend a couple of weeks ago when I dropped EVERYTHING wedding related b/c I had gotten sick of all of it. Nothing seemed to go together, I was confused, and stressed out. That weekend away from everything really helped, and I was actually able to get a clearer idea of what I wanted to do. So I agree with pps - take a break from the planning and do something you loved during before you started planning a wedding. Then come back to it. ETA: Btw, Ms. Date Twin, I've looked at your bio more than once, and I think what you have right is beautiful.  Don't doubt yourself.
Posted by mandydc0509[/QUOTE]

Thanks :)  I think I will defintely be taking this weekend OFF from wedding planning.  I need to chill!

Mona8

aww Gabby! I'm sorry you're having a bad day    I agree with everyone else. Just take a step back from it all.

And for what it's worth- I think all your ideas/DIY/items/details are beautiful and go great together. 
I think it's really easy for all of us to get caught up in the details and not see the big picture. I know I've done it plenty of times.  But everything will come together and your day will be amazing!

mandi921vh

I am so sorry! I hate when you are excited to receive things in the mail (especially wedding related things) and you end up being disappointed. You can start fresh in the morning or take a break, you still have time to do things

mandydc0509

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Not a happy lady right now :( (vent, a little long) : Thanks :)  I think I will defintely be taking this weekend OFF from wedding planning.  I need to chill!
Posted by gpapale1[/QUOTE]

That means staying off of TK too :P  That was the hard part lol

leahstinson

agree with the day or weekend off from planning! i did that....for about 4 months

kimberlykh

Sorry to hear.  Love the idea of just taking some time off!  And, I am positive that your wedding will be perfect!

DianaL616

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[QUOTE]I just want to be frickin' married already and be DONE with all of this.
Posted by gpapale1[/QUOTE]

<div>I'm so glad I'm not the only one who feels this way! I cannot wait for these next three months to go by! A lot to do in the meantime, but I'm so ready for it!</div><div>
</div><div>It's okay to feel frustrated. I'm sorry you don't like your wedding band...I hope you can get the one you really want! And don't worry about things not "going together" I'm sure everything looks great!</div>

gpapale1

Can I just say you are all super awesome?  You are always so supportive and encouraging.  I don't know what I would do if I didn't have this board!

AurorasEnvy

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[QUOTE]  I really wanted to like mine, but it's just way too thin.  It's also a bit snug, even though I ordered the same size as my e-ring, which is slightly loose.  I really don't understand how that happened.  I think I'm just going to have to suck it up and figure out how to pay for the original ring I found that goes perfectly with my e-ring.<div>
</div><div> I just want to be frickin' married already and be DONE with all of this.
Posted by gpapale1[/QUOTE]</div><div>
</div><div>Generally: Sorry to hear about all the "blah" stuff!  Things will all work out in the end =]</div><div>
</div><div>The Above: 1) Have you thought about going to Kohl's and buying a cheap CZ/silver band to use at the wedding?  A friend of mine got married while we were still in school, and couldn't really afford the wedding band on top of the wedding.  She had a silver band with fake diamond she used at the wedding, and they planned on buying the real wedding band that matched her set on their 1st annivesary.  Just a thought, you'd still get what you really wanted in the end but without the money worry right around the time of the wedding =]</div><div>
</div><div>2) THIS!  I'm ready to be married & while I love wedding planning, I am definitely ready to stop spending all my free time and extra money on wedding related things.

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gpapale1

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[QUOTE]In Response to Not a happy lady right now :( (vent, a little long) : Generally: Sorry to hear about all the "blah" stuff!  Things will all work out in the end =] The Above: 1) Have you thought about going to Kohl's and buying a cheap CZ/silver band to use at the wedding?  A friend of mine got married while we were still in school, and couldn't really afford the wedding band on top of the wedding.  She had a silver band with fake diamond she used at the wedding, and they planned on buying the real wedding band that matched her set on their 1st annivesary.  Just a thought, you'd still get what you really wanted in the end but without the money worry right around the time of the wedding =] 2) THIS!  I'm ready to be married & while I love wedding planning, I am definitely ready to stop spending all my free time and extra money on wedding related things.
Posted by AurorasEnvy[/QUOTE]

Hmmm, I will have to see if they anything that works!  The band I have is 14K white gold, but it's just super thin.  I want something a little more substantial if I have to wear it for a while.

Tomorrow marks only 100 days until I'm Mrs. K! :)

dori851

I definitely understand your frustrations! I went through a phase like that a while ago, so I had to take a break from everything wedding for a while! Once I got back on my feet & started at it again, I was much more relaxed & everything is going a lot smoother now!! It'll all work out for you in the end & everything will come together perfectly! Just try not to stress

bpphoto785

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[QUOTE] I just want to be frickin' married already and be DONE with all of this.
Posted by gpapale1[/QUOTE]

THIS!!! You are not alone! I agree w/ PP take some time off, spend the weekend with your FI, have a girls night, lay in your PJs for a day, anything to relax and take your mind off of wedding things.

lnvane00

I know its all overwhelming! I feel like I have all this wedding crap and I'm like how is this ALL gonna go together on my wedding day. Centerpieces have me stumped and I haven't done anything with them. But I do have to say! That I am SO jealous of your peacock theme and no matter what, your wedding is going to be BEAUTIFUL!!! Your wedding is one of the top ones I cant wait to see pics of! So keep your head up. Take a wedding planning break weekend or something!