A Visit from June 2008

trickeytricky

"1. Although it's very late in the game, we are still back and forth on a videographer, thoughts? I asked my friend's husband, who is good at that stuff, to video for me.  He captured all the important moments (ceremony, first dance, toasts, last dance) and I love having those clips to watch.  I did not need a true videographer though.  That was totally fine!
2. What was the best (and worst) music you played?..oldies better than top 40? stay away from slow songs? etc A good DJ will mix it up.  I remember the crowd loving Sweet Caroline, then Outkast-we were going nuts to "shake it like a polaroid picture".  ANd there are some men that will only dance with their wives/gfs to slow songs, so throw one in every now and then."

-Cassidy

trickeytricky

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: A Visit from June 2008 : 1. I disagree, actually. I didn't have a videographer, and I wish I could go back and re-watch parts of the day. Speeches, for example. In the moment I thought "I am soaking this all in, I am going to remember this forever" and now, I couldn't tell you one word of any of the speeches. And I'd love to re-watch our vows, too. 2. My other advice here is to let your DJ know it's ok to not complete a song. My dance floor was packed all night except at one point, the DJ put on a song that no one knew, and everyone decided it'd be a good time to grab a drink or another piece of cake. The dance floor absolutely cleared. About 30 seconds later, the DJ just subtly faded out that song and started a new one, and everyone started dancing again. Other than that, we had a good mix of modern stuff, and stuff from our parent's era. They are good resources!
Posted by MrsAllieH[/QUOTE]

Thanks for getting your ass over here. I was tired of C&P'ing. :)

Allie, I had to delete my siggy because I was like WTF is this. Must have been a random siggy challenge left standing.

trickeytricky

"Everyone always tells you that the first year is the best. Sometimes it's just not, and that's okay. We had half our house smashed in by a tree a couple months after our wedding thanks to a nasty hurricane, and took in a friend of ours for six months after he lost his home in the storm. It SUCKED. With all the stress, we fought a lot and I got hung up on the fact that the first year was turning out so crappy. I thought it was a bad omen or something. I can honestly say though that every year has drawn us closer together- and that each year has been better than the last. "

- Lauren, married

trickeytricky

"In hindsight, what is the one thing you could've lived without for the wedding? I can't really think of anything. We made it all work. Favors were a candy bar that the kids and drunk adults loved (big June 08 trend haha) and programs were fans that got the heck used out of them since it was such a hot day.

What was your best splurge? I didn't love my location since my choices were so limited getting married in a small town so I forked over the money for decor/flowers and I'm so glad it did. It turned our reception hall into something that made me happy which was priceless.

What do people rememeber the most about your wedding? Dancing and the reception. Get a good DJ! He's the one that keeps the party going and ours was awesome.

Pre wedding jitters: What did you do to keep yourself chilled out the day before/day of the wedding? Um I was a mess so I'm not the best person to answer this either. When I was hyperventilating I was glad that I had my BFF there to recline my seat and drive me around in the A/C when I had to escape from getting my hair done. Hot mess. Seriously lol.

What changed after you girls got married? I'm especially curious to hear from anyone who lived together/owned a house together/combined finaces pre-wedding. Nothing. We had been living together for 2 years and dating for 7 so we knew each other pretty well. With all of the hecticness from the wedding and honeymoon it was kind of nice to come back to what I knew, if that makes sense

I have a question... I'm getting married June 1, so we're at about two and a half months out at this point. What was the most stressful part of the process at this stage — we're getting so close, but it's still so far away — and how did you handle the potential descent into crazy town? That's a little confusing, so I guess I should say... We've talked about ways to de-stress the day before / day of, how did you handle the final countdown planning stressors? Again, I'm not the best at handling anxiousness lol. I agree with letting the professionals do their job though and have your 'person'. My BFF would step in in a hot second if she saw I was getting stressed or that I needed an intervention between me and another person.

Although it's very late in the game, we are still back and forth on a videographer, thoughts? Do it! Even if it's not a professional. I love our video and our pictures are great but there's so much that is missed in pictures. I loved seeing us dance and my dress swaying and the funny stuff that the camera missed. I love love love it.

What was the best (and worst) music you played?..oldies better than top 40? stay away from slow songs? etc Our music changed as the atmosphere changed and again a good DJ will be good at monitoring that. We had laid back music for eating in the beginning of the night (Bob Marley, Jack Johnson, Jason Mraz, etc.) and then once he saw the older people exiting, he switched the music to get people dancing and then kept it that way as more people started drinking and dancing."

- Renee, married, no kids, but is really  interested in breast pumps .........

APherber418

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[QUOTE]" - Renee, married, no kids, but is really  interested in breast pumps .........
Posted by trickeytricky[/QUOTE]

Best part of your whole post!!

Lisa and Mickey

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[QUOTE]Awe, this is so sweet of you girls to swing by and give us advice, congrats on your upcoming anniversaries!  I have a few questions 1.  Although it's very late in the game, we are still back and forth on a videographer, thoughts? 2.  What was the best (and worst) music you played?..oldies better than top 40? stay away from slow songs? etc
Posted by lexi913[/QUOTE]

Can't say on the music- we let the DJ take care of that, but as far as videographer, it is my one regret. I wish I had video for my kids and I <em>really</em> wish I had video of the blessing and the BM and MOH speeches. I wouldn't have cared if it was great quality. Just to be able to see it would be amazing!

trickeytricky

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: A Visit from June 2008 : Oh come on. You can't say something like that and then not elaborate. LOL
Posted by TheMissusLia[/QUOTE]

She's has a very curious mind. The girl is VERY prepared to have children of her own some day. 

miss*sunshine

In hindsight, what is the one thing you could've lived without for the wedding?  I had a candy buffet for favors and people loved it!  I will say that most got eaten there though.  I sent the rest home with the BP.

What was your best splurge?  My caterer.  She was amazing and worth every penny.  My reception was in the church gym but her setup was so amazing I don't think anyone noticed the basketball court markings.  I skimped on a photographer (long story, family friend) and regretted it.  I cried when I saw my photos and not because I was happy.

What do people rememeber the most about your wedding?  The food.  I also heard many many times how "in love" we seemed and how sweet our vows were.  I worked for hours to personalize our ceremony and I was so glad people noticed.

What did you do to keep yourself chilled out the day before/day of the wedding?  I was a mess.  I had doubts leading up to everything that people assured me were normal cold feet.  Do normal cold feet happen?  Of course.  But that is NOT what I experienced and I should have listened.  I was throwing up in the bathroom minutes before I walked down the aisle.

What changed after you girls got married? Nothing really.  We lived together so we still lived together.  

I have a question... I'm getting married June 1, so we're at about two and a half months out at this point. What was the most stressful part of the process at this stage — we're getting so close, but it's still so far away — and how did you handle the potential descent into crazy town? That's a little confusing, so I guess I should say... We've talked about ways to de-stress the day before / day of, how did you handle the final countdown planning stressors?  I kept reminding myself that the people I had hired were pros and they would take care of everything for me.

Although it's very late in the game, we are still back and forth on a videographer, thoughts?  I say do it.  I did and I actually never watched my video but I am very sentimental so I would say go for it!

What was the best (and worst) music you played?..oldies better than top 40? stay away from slow songs? etc  Our reception was at the church so I'm pretty sure it was mostly instrumental stuff.

-Sunshine, Divorced w/ a new lover  

Berry327

This is fantastic! Keep the advice coming!

Those that started TTC right after the wedding, do you wish you had waited a bit? Or those that waited, do you wish you hadn't?

trickeytricky

"In hindsight, what is the one thing you could've lived without for the wedding? I can't think of anything really.  I guess favors are not a must but we did cookies and they were a huge hit with everyone.

What was your best splurge? Photographer.  I love going back and reliving the day through our pictures.

What do people rememeber the most about your wedding? Dancing and the reception. Our DJ was awesome and people wouldn't leave the dance floor.  We had to pay extra for more hours because the party wasn't stopping!

Pre wedding jitters: What did you do to keep yourself chilled out the day before/day of the wedding? I spent time with my bridesmaids the day before and the day of.  They kept me laughing and having fun which eased my nerves. 

What changed after you girls got married? I'm especially curious to hear from anyone who lived together/owned a house together/combined finaces pre-wedding. Not a ton.  We lived together before gettingWe didn't combine totally combine finances until we were married so that was a little bit of an adjustment.  Two people spending money from one account can be hard to keep track of but we just made sure to always talk to each other while we were adjusting.

I have a question... I'm getting married June 1, so we're at about two and a half months out at this point. What was the most stressful part of the process at this stage — we're getting so close, but it's still so far away — and how did you handle the potential descent into crazy town? That's a little confusing, so I guess I should say... We've talked about ways to de-stress the day before / day of, how did you handle the final countdown planning stressors? My sister was the best for me and this.  She literally helped me with everything that needed done the last few months.  We lived together at that time so we would just make a to do list and she would get things done.  Having your go to person for help is a lifesaver!

Although it's very late in the game, we are still back and forth on a videographer, thoughts? We didn't have one for our wedding but we do have a video of us at the hospital on the day our son was born and I LOVE having it.  So I kinda feel like having a wedding video would be similar. 

What was the best (and worst) music you played?..oldies better than top 40? stay away from slow songs? etc Our music was key to the vibe of the reception.  Our DJ was a real pro and we let him make all the music decisions.  He knew exactly what type of music to play for each point of the reception.  He played a lot of top 40 music once dinner was over and that's when the dance floor was packed. "

- Amy, married w/ kid

montanabounding

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: A Visit from June 2008 : Oh come on. You can't say something like that and then not elaborate. LOL
Posted by TheMissusLia[/QUOTE]

<div>Agreed!</div><div>
</div><div>(Pssst, I liked the Ameda Purely Yours. I found that it worked wayyyy better than the other ones I'd tried.)</div>

mrsjmwolfe

This is so sweet! Thank you ladies

What is your favorite part of being married? Just curious!

trickeytricky

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[QUOTE]This is fantastic! Keep the advice coming! :) Those that started TTC right after the wedding, do you wish you had waited a bit? Or those that waited, do you wish you hadn't?
Posted by Berry327[/QUOTE]

I didn't even realize it until my own mother pointed it out down the road that my husband and I didn't even make it a year before we were pregnant. And I honestly don't feel like I was on the "Let's have a baby NOW" bandwagon right after our wedding. 

Of the girls on the board I don't notice until I really look at our list that I'm one of the first 15 out of what, 100 now, kids.

I'm not happy or sad one way or another. Now that Zachary is in our lives I couldn't imagine waiting longer but could yes, I could have enjoyed sleeping in on weekends with him longer, going out with out having to get a sitter, etc. 

It comes down to know what you are ready for and just doing it. Not allowing anyone to pressure you or change your opinion. Mike and I had been together for 5 years when we got married so I think we just felt ready to expand what we had after the wedding.

trickeytricky

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[QUOTE]This is fantastic! Keep the advice coming! :) Those that started TTC right after the wedding, do you wish you had waited a bit? Or those that waited, do you wish you hadn't?
Posted by Berry327[/QUOTE]

<div>Also, to put time and readiness into perspective .... there is no wrong or right.

One of us has 5 kids, some have 3, some have 2, some have one, some regretfully have none, and others happily have none and don't plan to for awhile.
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alliapistor

1) In hindsight, what is the one thing you could've lived without for the wedding?
The antique Rolls Royce get away car.  We would have been just fine with a normal car with a driver.

2) What was your best splurge?
My venue.  It was waaaayyy more than I ever expected to spend, but so worth it.  It was a historic home with a formal rose garden that we used for the ceremony and ballroom for the reception.  It was exactly the type of place that I had always envisioned and worked out perfectly.

3) What do people rememeber the most about your wedding?       
How much fun they had.  Everyone danced all night until they kicked us out.  I still get comments.    Not once have I gotten a comment about the china pattern we used for serving, or the tablecloths, or the matching menus, etc. Everyone remembers the experience, not the details.

montanabounding

If anyone was anticipating family problems regarding the upcoming wedding (divorced parents, estranged relatives, etc), how did that pan out? Did you have reservations about inviting certain people - and did you regret inviting them/regret not inviting them, whatever you did? 

Thank you! And so sweet of you all to swing by. We really appreciate it.

trickeytricky

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[QUOTE]This is so sweet! Thank you ladies :) What is your favorite part of being married? Just curious!
Posted by mrsjmwolfe[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>For the first few years it was just being with someone, not being alone, having a BFF. After having our son (3) it is watching him be a father, having this equal partner who wants the same things as me. Someone who doesn't judge me at the end of the day.




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MrsJaay

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[QUOTE]This is fantastic! Keep the advice coming! :) Those that started TTC right after the wedding, do you wish you had waited a bit? Or those that waited, do you wish you hadn't?
Posted by Berry327[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>I would be the Renee mentioned about with no kids :) We waited and we're still waiting and I don't regret it at all. We've been together for a loooong time (almost 12 years in total) but we still feel like there's more we want to do as just a couple and we honestly just aren't ready yet. We're having fun right now traveling, developing our hobbies, and working on our home together and I know the time will come but I've stopped worrying about when that will be.</div><div>
</div><div>Our two sets of parents are very funny. My parents got married when they got pregnant with my sister at 18. My husband's parents got married in their 30's and had kids when they were 37 and 39. Both sets of parents say wait which is kind of interesting. His parents are glad they had that time before kids and my parents were stressed out because they were so young and they wish they would've waited longer.</div><div>
</div><div>We were young getting married though and I know everyone's paths are different but I know I'm kind of in the minority on my board so I thought I would speak up. I turn 28 this year and my husband will turn 29 in case that matters :)

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trickeytricky

"Be a team from the beginning, be a united front when it comes to family, ILs, friends, your future children etc. Remember that you are in this together and you'll be able to handle whatever comes your way.

Spend the money on a good photographer and videographer. I still love watching our wedding video... of course we skip through most of the reception because we never did get around to taking those dance lessons before the wedding.

Everyone made fun of me for my "crazy" wedding packet that I made- it included schedules for everyone, the wedding party's "jobs" (like who was responsible for making sure the priest showed up, etc.), phone numbers for everyone... anything and everything that I thought anyone might need to know the day of (I promise I wasn't a bridezilla, I just thrive on organization and lists). Everyone teased me for it but, almost everything went according to planned, no one ran late, and it was a lot less stressful. One of my family members got married recently... no one knew where the heck they were supposed to be or when, everyone was late, and everything was very disorganized and stressful. Everyone was BEGGING for my "crazy" packet then! "

- Colleen, married w/ twins

trickeytricky

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[QUOTE]If anyone was anticipating family problems regarding the upcoming wedding (divorced parents, estranged relatives, etc), how did that pan out? Did you have reservations about inviting certain people - and did you regret inviting them/regret not inviting them, whatever you did?  Thank you! And so sweet of you all to swing by. We really appreciate it.
Posted by montanabounding[/QUOTE]

My husband's parents were somewhat recently divorced (~5 years). I was worried but they put their adult panties on that day and did what we needed them to do to get along.

If you have reservations about inviting someone, don't. Are they worth it? 

Same with BM, don't feel obligated to have someone in your wedding for the sake of a body, or a freindship that was great 10 years ago ....

montanabounding

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: A Visit from June 2008 : My husband's parents were somewhat recently divorced (~5 years). I was worried but they put their adult panties on that day and did what we needed them to do to get along. If you have reservations about inviting someone, don't. Are they worth it?  Same with BM, don't feel obligated to have someone in your wedding for the sake of a body, or a freindship that was great 10 years ago ....
Posted by trickeytricky[/QUOTE]

<div>That helps, thank you. I'm dealing with divorced parent dilemmas. I've gone from "FU we're eloping" to "maybe we should have something with family there so they don't hate us when we move across the country" (they're champs at holding grudges/not getting over things). Glad that you/r husband had a positive experience when it came to his parents and their behavior.</div>

Lisa and Mickey

My advice is more about the marriage than the wedding. Someone said these things to me a long time ago and over the last five years I have learned how true they are.

1. "It was never going to be what you thought it was going to be". A good friend said this to me when I realized I was in love with my husband and not only was he married (pick your chin up off the floor, they were separated and in the process of a divorce) and had a 1 year old daughter, he had 8 tatooes! She talked me off the ledge about the whole thing with that one statement, but it applies to life to. When you are geting married you have this vision of what your life will be and well, chances are it isn't going to be what you thoguht it was going to be. There are going to be lots of bumps along the way- this marriage thing is HARD, but that doesn't mean it isn't right or it isn't worth it. Just please, please don't be too disappointed when it isn't what you thought it would be.

2.  "Never quit on the hardest day". This is actually advice I got about breastfeeding, maybe from one of the girls on our board-we can't really remember where it started, but it stands for life too. When the days get hard, and there is a good chance they will, don't ever quit on the worst day. I'm not saying don't get divorced, obviously it does happen, what I am saying is, on your worst day don't say things you can't take back. Don't decide your done (and actually mean it). Take a step back, take a break if you need it, then revisit when emotions aren't quite so high.

I wish you girls all the happiness in the world and I wish you the chance to make the friends I have made on this board. I do not know where I would be without them!

~~Lisa, married with one son, one stepdaughter and a whole lot of insanity :0)

678Sara

Hello Sara here, checking in from way when from June 2008.

Regarding whether or not to get a videographer - if you can swing it, DEFINITELY DO IT.  DH and I have watched our video about 100 times, and we have lost 3 grandparents since we got married - and it's lovely to have those memories.  As another poster mentioned, so much happens - you will forget a lot of it.  So, I would say that was our biggest splurge.

My other splurges were the photographer and the honeymoon, neither of which I regret.  I think the memories are what you want to invest your monies in.

I would say the things that made our wedding memorable were the little touches, and those mostly didn't take a lot of $$$.  We had a Cincinnati Bengals bus that we used to transport the wedding party, we had an antique car to transport DH and I - total of those ended up being cheaper than a limo.  Also, we had a sports mascot come to the reception.  Also, our readings during the ceremony.  Just litle things.

trickeytricky

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[QUOTE]My other splurges were the photographer and the honeymoon, neither of which I regret.  I think the memories are what you want to invest your monies in. 
Posted by 678Sara[/QUOTE]

For the record she stole my photographer. :)

cnf2013

I don't have a lot of time to read everything right now but I definitely will later. 

I love that I found this board and have become so close to the girls on here. Like mentioned earlier, we all plan to remain in touch and friends after the weddings are over. We have a very active group elsewhere and have had a number of get togethers so far with more in the works. It's so wonderful to hear that these are in fact genuine friendships. 

Thank you for all the advice and taking the time to care about us. It is amazingly wonderful to know others are so caring to those of us being where you were five years ago. And congrats to you all for all the milestones you've reached in five years. May we all be as blessed. 

amybyrd

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[QUOTE]This is fantastic! Keep the advice coming! :) Those that started TTC right after the wedding, do you wish you had waited a bit? Or those that waited, do you wish you hadn't?
Posted by Berry327[/QUOTE]

We waited almost a year and a half, it was worth it for us--we both moved to a new place, started new jobs, and started living together and we needed that time.  We also didn't honeymoon right away so we wanted that experience too.  It was right for us--only you know what will work for you--but as many of the girls on our board can attest you never know if you are going to have fertility issues to work though so sometimes waiting isn't the best.

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I agree with Allie on the videographer. At the last minute I decided I should record it. I just gave one of my friends a cam corder and her record the ceremony, dances and toasts. I've only watched it twice, but the first time was the best. It let me actually hear what was said during the toasts. 

trickeytricky

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_june-2013-weddings_a-visit-from-june-2008?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:f30b0bfc-508d-415c-bf59-ab83e327da37Discussion:57fde61e-ee6d-4595-a1d3-e1961818b7c0Post:cae1c0e9-66c5-41e0-9f5f-0161ef8d2848">Re: A Visit from June 2008</a>:
[QUOTE]I agree with Allie on the videographer. At the last minute I decided I should record it. I just gave one of my friends a cam corder and her record the ceremony, dances and toasts. I've only watched it twice, but the first time was the best. It let me actually hear what was said during the toasts. 
Posted by 613marriedlady[/QUOTE]

F/U on this ... I agree to have a video, but the whole $$$$ videographer I don't find as a necessity. Mike's crazy Aunt really did record our ceremony, and that was nice because like many have said I couldn't tell you what was said (mostly because I was a blubbering mess) so it was nice to watch ... a hand full of times. But if $ is tight, I'd still spend more to have great photos vs. okay photos and a video.

trickeytricky

"1) In hindsight, what is the one thing you could've lived without for the wedding?

Favors

2) What was your best splurge?

CAKE!!!

3) What do people rememeber the most about your wedding?

The weather.  It was perfect: upper 70s & blue skies.  Too bad I can't take credit for it, LOL!"

- Stephanie, married TTC

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I just wanted to pop in and say how sweet it is that all you girls came to check in on us! I ditto some of the others that I feel like our group has a great bond and I hope we will have a similar experience as you 2008 gals! I can't wait to see everyone's pictures from "the day" and then to get to see what comes next for everyone!!