I'm going to apologize in advance for the length...
Sooo, my maid of honor and Rob's best man are dating. They have been dating as long as we have. Almost all of our wedding party are mutual friends from summer camp (we really only have mutual friends, very few of our "own" friends, makes things fun and easy). His best man, Andy, is a huge mama's boy. His parents got divorced when he was in high school and his mom is batsh!t crazy. He's her only son out of three kids and makes him feel guilty about wanting his own life, saying he's leaving her just like his father, stuff like that. Well him and Emily are in the process of figuring their life together out. Emily is six years younger than him (she's 23, he's 29). He already has an established teaching job and she's searching for one. She's down in the DC area this week going on interviews down there. She told me last year in a drunken confession that she really wants to marry Andy and spend her life with him. We're (Rob, myself and all of our friends) are all really surprised he hasn't asked her yet. We all thought they'd be engaged before Rob and I. And over the last six or seven months since she finished school she basically said (without being so forward) either let's get engaged or I want to go on some sort of life experience thing (teaching somewhere either abroad, in Hawaii, something like that). And now that she's been stagnant for a while, she's getting antsy. Which I understand. I sucks to sit around and wait for your life to happen.
So now they've been fighting because he won't move away because of his mom. She just wants anything life affirming to happen. We've all been trying to prod Andy to propose for months, but he's very much a "do things on his own terms" kind of guy. Rob and I are nervous that she's going to dump him because he's giving her so much resistance about possibly moving eight hours away. If they break up that's going to make things really awkward and uneasy as far as our wedding goes. Plus my maid of honor will be eight hours away and I won't have her to help me with wedding things (selfish, I know).
Rob knew I was upset last night and tried to help me make some wedding decisions. He's very good at changing subjects to alleviate tension, haha. The four of us are all getting together tomorrow to go to the Aziz Ansari show in Syracuse. Rob and I are devising a plan to each find some alone time with them (me with Emily and him with Andy) so we can get some details.
I'm so nervous about the possible impending doom of their relationship, my maid of honor possibly moving across state lines eight hours away, and the possible awkward and emotional distress that may unfold at our wedding between them should they break up, when it's supposed to be our happy day.
Phew. Sorry. Done.