Wedding Memorial Question

SugarFoote

We know that we for sure want to have a memorial table at our (now outdoor) wedding. We would have memorials from both sets of my FI grandparents, and both of my grandfathers. My question is does it only have to be family or could it be family friends too? And what family members are normally included? because I don't want to offend anyone attending by not having a memorial for their deceased spouse/sibling/child.

Berry327

I think it should be who was close to you and/or your FI. You shouldn't have to worry about possibly offending anyone. Remember, it's YOUR wedding. You can do whatever you want. I have quite a few family members that are deceased, but I am only having a memorial for my stepmother who passed away last year.

SugarFoote

So only doing grandparents is ok?  Thanks

Berry327

Absolutely!

AmandaLeigh1014

My Fi and i will also be doing a memorial table, originally it was for his dad who passed away when he was little, but my grandfather actually just passedlast week so now it will have a generic memorial saying opposed to one geared towards his dad.

Klyn1983

This is what we are going to do: 

In the program, have the names of those that we wish to honor (my step-mom and FI's grandparents) and it will say right after it "The flowers upon our alter are in memory of you. Your love will be in bloom in our hearts, on this special day, and always."

Don't feel like you have to honor absolutely everyone, the list would be outrageous. Just focus on the people who mean something to you and FI. Nobody is going to be upset with you for not mentioning someone they lost. 

SugarFoote

The only issue with my grandfathers is that my mom's dad died when she was 17 and so I never met him. My dad's dad died when I was 3, but I don't remember him. Is it weird to do a memorial for a grandparent you never met/don't remember? It's not like I would be doing a memorial for my mom's uncle's wife's dad's brother lol. They are my grandfathers

Klyn1983

I don't think it's weird at all.

SugarFoote

Thanks

chrryblndchick

You may want to consider doing something a little more subtle/ personal to you and your FI. Your wedding day is supposed to be a happy occasion and I've heard that doing something like this can be a big, glaring reminder of those that have been lost and it puts a damper on the whole evening. I hope that doesn't sound harsh, just another point of view to consider.

Some other suggestions I've read:

Using a piece of fabric from the loved one's own wedding attire and sowing it on the inside of the gown, or using it as a bouquet wrap. Using jewlery they left beind. Having a small pciture of them wrapped into the bouquet wrap, or kept in FI's pocket. The mention in the program is always nice too.

You may want to try the Customs and Traditions, Ceremony Ideas, or Reception Ideas boards.