Weight Woes

JennLax

Hey ladies,

I was wondering if anyone had a similar experience and can ease my worries!  A bit of a long background story - sorry.

Growing up I was always extremely skinny.  Over the last few years, I have gained quite a bit of weight and I have been very uncomfortable and unhappy.   Since February, I have tried 2 or 3 times to get into a good healthy eating/workout routine, but kept "falling off the wagon."

Since my e-photos are coming up, I finally got motivated and found a schedule that worked for me (doing P90 in the mornings before work, even though it meant getting up at 4:00 am).  I lost some weight last year with P90 and found that nothing happened for 3 weeks and then all of a sudden at the 3-week mark, weight came off very quickly over a short period of time.   I was hoping this would happen again, so that I could feel more confident for my engagement photoshoot on July 15.

The three week mark was 2 Monday's ago (June 11).  On Tuesday the 12th, I fell at softball and busted my knee... I have been unable to workout since.  I have gained back the small amount I did lose in the first 3 weeks of working out, but the worst part is that I never made it to my "magic date" where the weight loss speeds up.

I am so frustrated and unhappy with myself.  I have never had this kind of self loathing when looking in the mirror before and it is really affecting my wedding planning.  My MOH, BMs, and all of my friends at work keep asking me when I am going dress shopping, but here's the thing.. I don't want to.   When I look in a mirror, all I see is my arm chub and tummy and love handles and pudgey face.  I know I am very hard on myself, but I can't get past it. 

Originally I planned to dress shop mid-July because I felt like I would be in shape because of the hard work I was putting in for the e-photos.  Now I have engagement photos with a date that I can't reschedule and everyone is bothering me to go dress shopping, when all I really want to do is crawl into a hole.

I fear I will hate my photos when they come back and only be able to see the negatives - which would be a huge waste of money.  I also fear I can't keep making excuses not to dress shop for much longer.

Should I just bite the bullet and go dress shopping for the first time?  I don't want to be so self conscious that I hate everything and it spoils the whole experience... but I also don't know how long I can put it off for because we're already coming down to the one year mark.

Has anyone been having similar struggles?  How are you pushing through?
 

n3rdl3t

I am definitely on the "i hate my body right now" boat.. but after seeing some wedding photos of some of my same-sized friends I feel a LOT better about where I am at, as they looked ABSOLUTELY STUNNING on their wedding day. I'm still definitely going to be sticking to my diet/exercise (even though its torturing me and doing nothing grr) but I wouldn't let your injury and set back make you hate yourself. You will look gorgeous no matter what

blferguson1s

I was also skinny growing up and could eat whatever I wanted with no weight worries. Over the last year, I've gained about 30 pounds. (I blame college and alcohol). I'm bigger than I would like to be, but I've more or less accepted my new body and am leaning to love it for what it is. If I happen to lose some weight, great, but I'm not going to let myself stress out about it. I hope you can learn to love your body for what it is as well and that your knee is feeling better soon!

NikishaMcFall

It sounds to me that you're pretty active (softball and being able to do intense workouts) so my question to you is do you feel unhealthy?  Are you unable to do activities that you used to be able to do? 

I have a huge problem with our society in regards to weight.  We look at magazines and pictures of women and think that is the ideal.  We think that in order to be "beautiful" we have to be a stick.  This is not true!!  You're beautiful.  Period.

We're not all supposed to be the same size!!  I have curves, and I love them, and so does my FI.  Your FI proposed to you because he loves everything about you, and you are going to look absolutely gorgous on your wedding day even if you wear a size 50! 

If your goal is to be healthier, then good for you!  I think a lot of people can stand to make healthier decisions. Do what you can when your knee improves, but not before otherwise you risk permenant injury.  But don't risk your happiness on a number that you think is "perfect".   

emilyb213

Oh boy, can I ever sympathize...

For starters, you are going to look radiant in your engagement pictures no matter what. Wearing something that you feel like hot stuff in will make a big difference, because you'll be able to relax, which will come through in the pictures.

I went through a similar thing about a year and a half ago. My low point was on our way to a Greek festival, and I was crying and trying to convince my fiance to go home because I was so miserable with my weight. It took about another month so after that for me to decide that I could either keep crying about it, or start doing something about it and stick with it.

Once I decided that enough was enough, I started out by doing a 3 day fruit fast (I know how the Getting in Shape board views these, however, it's part of the Baptiste 40 Days to Personal Revolution program). It helped to have a line in the sand where I could say "Okay, this is when things change."

I also started working out hardcore. Four or five days a week, I would go to a hot power yoga class. I made myself get up early on weekends, turned down happy hour invites, etc., whatever it took. I just stopped letting myself make excuses, basically.

It took about a month before I started seeing results. And once my friends and family started to notice, that gave me the extra boost I needed. There have been setbacks- I had to slow things down for 3 months while I rehabbed a knee injury, but now, it's like "Okay, I know I can do this, and I will".

You said that in the past the P90X has worked for you- so just remind yourself that you can and will do it again. Also, with the knee, are you still able to bike or anything? Biking was one of the few things I was allowed to do while rehabbing. Swimming is also a good workout if you can't stay on your feet.

As far as dress shopping, you should go. Wear a corset bra that snugs everything in, so that when they put a dress on you, you're not focusing on your tummy or anything. And keep in mind, the dresses aren't going to fit exactly how you want anyways, because they're samples. Trust me, once you start putting them on and seeing how pretty they look, and thinking about your fiance's reaction, you're not going to be worrying about your arms so much (I went dress shopping the day after Christmas, when I was lugging around a considerable post-holiday food baby. I forgot about it as soon as my aunts and grandma started oohing and ahhing.).

Take a deep breath, remember that your fiance loves you no matter what, and that regardless of the number on the scale, you're going to be a beautiful bride!!

Edit: PM or FB message me if you ever need to vent about this more!!

SB1512

Although I don't struggle with weight, I have had many friends in similar situations to what you describe.  I think one of hte biggest things I notice being a factor in weight gain/loss is this idea of "i'm going to loose weight/get in shape for XYZ occassion" rather than the approach of "I'm going to adopt a more healthy lifestyle because it's beneficial for my health and my body."  I find that a lot of people that work really hard to loose weight and get in shape for a particular occasion (wedding, e-pics, beach season, vacation, etc) tend to fall off hte bandwagon as soon as that event is over.  Even though I do not have weight issues, I have a family history of heart disease and high blood pressure, so my motivation to exercise and eat heathy everyday is to hopefully prevent those same conditions from happening to me down the road.  Perhaps if you take the approach of making lifesytle changes to improve your health outcomes, rather than looking to do it for a particular occassion, you will have an easier time staying on the wagon?  Also, remember that muscle weighs more than fat, so you may not see a dramatic weight change when you are working on and improving muscle tone...........you should instead look to see changes in inches, because muscle is leaner than fat.  Since you have the knee trouble right now, I would suggest keeping a really close eye on what you're eating and how much, and as long as your not in any pain, try to get a long walk in everday/evening to burn off some calories.  And any opportunity you have to walk, take it.  Choose parking spots further away from stores for example.  Lastly, if you can afford it financially, think about joining a gym maybe?  I've never been a go to the gym and lift weights on my own kind of girl, but I love the group fitness classes (spinning, bootcamp, bodypump, etc).  I find that being with other people really motivates me to puch and try to get the best work out I can and the instructors are great about holding you accountable for your workoout!  Lastly, remember that the foods you love that may not be so healthy are OK in moderation.  For example if dessert/sweets are your vice, it's ok to have it once a day and an appropriate portion.  I find that the more I deny myself a craving, the more likely I am to binge on it later, so I'd rather have a small serving of ice cream once a day than avoid it like the plaque and then end up eating half the carton in one sitting.

cnf2013

I can totally empathize with you to some degreee. I was very skinny growing up, but I also struggled with an eating disorder for a number of years, so some of my skinniess blame goes there. 

I gained about 15 pounds throughout my college career, which is pretty normal. But after college and I took a teaching job in a horrible district that I depsised. I had a two and half hour commute on a good day with nice weather, sometimes as long as five hours in the snow. It was horrible. I ballooned up to my highest weight ever, about 162. I'm 5'3.5" and built pretty athletic and bottom heavy. It's hard for me to see when I gain weight since I gain it all in the hips and legs. It's not til I go to pull on pants that suddenly don't make it over my ass that I realize it. I used to weigh myself everday, which is very motivating for me personally. I don't right now because I'm pretty ashamed of where I'm at. Though I've lost 11.5 pounds now. I was hoping to be down in the 130's by dress shopping on July 14th and my triathlon on August 5th, but it's unrealistic now. I'm shootign for 145 at this point. I plan on doing a 3-4 day raw fruit and veg fast the week leading up to it, similar to what Emily mentioned. 

My cousin's FI just tagged me in a picture on FB from her baby shower a month ago. I nearly cried when I saw it. I haven't had a full body picture of me taken in a few years and it was shocking to see myself. 

My natural weight is in the 118-125 range and I'm hoping to be back there for the wedding. That's what I weighed when FI and I started dating four years ago. 

Because I've been an athlete my whole life I know what works for me both food and workout wise. But I also have to be incredible conscious of my actions becuase I walk a fine line between being healthy and slipping into old ED territory. I have a tendency to sabotage my weight loss sometimes if I get nervous that I'm being too unhealthy about it. It's really frustrating. 

I'm also an avid believe in writign down everything you eat. You don't have to calorie count, though I do, but just seeing everything you eat on a day to day basis is pretty eye opening. I'd say try that a few days, see where you can make some changes and start making small adjustments. If you're eating healthy and low calorie or low fat, the weight will come off, albeit slowly, without working out. Then once your knee is better start getting back into workouts. 

Sjmiller418

I know exactly how your feeling, I started doing insanity a little while back and 3 weeks when I was finally feeling like I was getting somewhere with going to start seeing results I fell and sprained my ankle. As soon as my ankle was feeling better and I was going to start insanity back up I got really sick for a week again keeping me from working out which was really discouraging. From what I have heard P90x is a great workout for toning up but that if you really want to see a quick weight loss results Insanity is an amazing workout. After only two weeks I could already tell that I lost inches by the way my jeans fit even though I only lost a few lbs.

A huge problem for me with losing weight is not that I'm not im in horrible shape I just would eat way too much. I started using myfitnesspal app on my phone to track my calories and have been able to lose 1.5 a week over the past month even without being able to workout. I highly reccommend using something like it becuase it really helps put things in perspective on is eating that really worth it versus how much mroe Ill have to exercise to burn those calories off.

Also go dress shopping! I was hoping to have lost weight before going dress shopping and made my appointment two months out in advance but it didnt really happen. It was still a lot of fun trying on dress adn the dresses are designed to make you look your best. I ended up finding a dress I loved that looked great on me now so I know whether or not I lsoe the weight I want it will still look amazing. Also dresses with lace up backs tend to be suggested if planning on losing weight becuase then its easier to adjust it tighter to the smaller size

JennLax

Thanks for all the support ladies!  I was nervous writing about it because I didn't know if I'd be out there all alone.  I've always had trouble talking about this with my friends...  I have brought it up to my MOH/BFF, but she has never had a weight problem and doesn't understand.  FI and I discuss it because he does not like to see me sad or put myself down.  He is extremely supportive thank goodness - I just wish I could see myself through his eyes!  

I'll try to cover everything:

- Nikisha: I do live a very active lifestyle, but that never seems to help my weight troubles.   Although I am active, I do not feel as healthy as I used to.  I get winded easier and notice a difference while playing sports.  I agree about society's view on weight, but I don't feel like I am a fit girl who just isn't a stick.  I have a lot of weight on my small frame and it's hard to get used to when I lived 25 years being skinny with muscle and tone from all of the sports I played.  I see girls who have more weight than me who I find beautiful and carry it very well... my body just doesn't carry it well. 

- To a few of you (sorry, everyone wrote such long and nice messages, but I know a couple different people touched on this): I actually don't weigh myself.  I know that the number on the scale isn't a good marker for my fitness level/health/body shape.  I gauge my "weight loss" on the physical changes I see in the mirror, as well as the endurance level I have during my workouts and playing sports. I think I worded my OP poorly, as it sounded like I was completely focused on a number, when I'm more focused on muscle tone and lack of rolls/double chin 

- Em: Yup your story sounds indential to mine - thanks for the encouragement!  As soon as I start to have people say they notice changes, it really helps me stay motivated.  Sometimes you can't always see them in yourself.  I just wish I could have gotten to that point before I hurt my darn knee!   I can't bike because of the knee (it hurts when I bend it), and I unfortunately also can't swim.  When I fell, I got a huge wound from dragging across the gravel and my doctor said I can't submerge it in water (no swimming/baths) until after that heals.  The knee is getting better, just not fast enough. I will definitely return to P90 as soon as it's better.  And I hope that you're right about picturing FI and forgetting about everything else when I try on dresses.  Maybe I'll book an appointment for the end of July. 

- SB: I actually already live a pretty healthy lifestyle.  I play sports a few times a week and do at least one active thing a day (long walk, an hour of Just Dance on the Wii :P, etc.).  I always take the stairs and park far away and I walk or bike instead of taking my car at every opportunity.  I don't drink or eat out a lot and don't like pop, coffee, or chocolate (I am a weirdo).  About the time I turned 23, my metabolism seemed to just... die.  I was unable to keep weight off even though I am active and eat fairly well.  I had my thyroid checked and a few other things looked at, and my doctor was unable to discover why I keep gaining weight since I eat well and am active.  Since I was feeling low and needed motivation, it was far easier for me to have a specific goal (i.e. e-photos) to keep me focused and ensure that I stick to a more regimented workout routine - aka waking up at 4 am to hang out with Tony Horton to help push the weight loss along faster.  I also cut out snacking at night, which was always my one very bad food habit.  Other than that, I do always strive towards a healthy lifestyle, but the impending dress shopping and engagement photoshoot have just been the mirror that has made me realize my unhappiness/self consciousness.  Unfortunately I'm not financially able to join a gym, but I used to love going to classes when I had a membership.  

cnf: I'm glad to hear that you have your ED under control and thank you for the tip to write down my food.  I will definitely try it!  Sometimes I worry that the food I think is healthy is making things worse - particularly my fruit smoothie.  I keep getting conflicting information on if it is good for me or not because of the "natural sugars."  (Sidenote: If anyone is a nutrition expert, it has: 1/2 a banana, 1/2 cup orange juice not from concentrate, 1/2 cup frozen berries (pure berries, no sugar added), and 1/4 cup of 0% Astro yogurt).  Are there any good food tracking programs? I don't have a data phone - so I can't use an App.

sj:  I did insanity for about 3 weeks earlier this year and actually really enjoyed it.  I found Shawn T super motivating and looked forward to my workouts.  On my second fitness test, I ended up having an asthma attack from a combination of it being pollen season and pushing myself too hard.   That's when I decided to go back to P90 because the cardio is not as intense and I felt I could sustain it longer.. plus I know from last summer that it works for me.  My plan right now is to do P90 for the 90 days (once I'm not hurt anymore at least :P) and then try Insanity if I feel like my lung capacity and cardio are in better shape.  That'll be more for my long term goals for the wedding. 

I think that's everything!  Sorry this is a novel and a half.

cnf2013

I have a couple health education degrees! I'll critique your smoothie because I also like fruit smoothies. It's all good except the orange juice. Most juice, even the "good" brand Like Tropicana, have lots of addative that aren't good and are typically high in calories.I mostly use water in my smoothies because I personally think the fruit is sweet enough on it's own. But FI makes his with light vanilla soymilk. It's actually pretty healthy, more so than the orange juice. And it makes anything with strawberries in it taste just like strawberry ice cream. 

Sjmiller418

myfitnesspal also has a website you can use to keep track of it on that same as the app.

Good luck!

rmp4996

I think a lot of people can relate to how you feel. I am at my heaviest, and have FINALLY said I am dieting and exercising and have been sticking to it.....so far. But I went dress shopping even though I am not happy with my weight, and I have to tell you, you will not leave there feeling crummy. The dresses just make you feel pretty, no matter what. Opt for the corset too, as mentioned above, if you think your tummy will keep you from enjoying the picture. A lot of dresses have a corset closure, and I found that I felt great in those. Also, ask your Fi to help you out- don't buy any soda and both of you drink water for dinner. Make really small portions of carbs with dinner so you can't have seconds. Buy snacks that he likes, but that you don't like. I'll buy FI a cake he loves that I don't care for, and it doesn't tempt me when he eats it. Little changes like that will maybe motivate you to do other things to help your weghtloss, I know that has been working for me. Just try and stay positive, you will look beautiful in your e-shoot and on your wedding day.

emilyb213

Jenn, I forgot to mention this...you can download a TON of free workout podcasts on iTunes. Sometimes I download them when we're on vacation or traveling for work to keep myself on track.

Also, I love your engagement ring!! Amythest is my birthstone.

sparkles776

Everyone else has touched on what I would say, but I have to add, you definitely are not alone! I gained a lot of weight in college and am hoping to lose about 30 pounds before the wedding. I was terrified of going dress shopping. I was engaged for 10 months and had no desire really to go dress shopping because I was so scared I wouldnt like what I saw in the mirror. My mom finally forced me into going and I loved every second of it! I learned that wedding dresses do amazing things for the figure, my waist looked tiny and I am NOT tiny! I would recommend trying on a corset back dress, they looked way better on me than one with a zipper.

ktwed1

I'm going to throw this out there because I am a die hard gym rat and do anything from running, boxing, to heavy weght training and I've also been a competitor in fitness and have gotten very lean for shows. Although I do not have weight issues i do have issues with my own body image and am alot harder on myself than most people are. You ladies are going to think I'm nuts but when I don't have a six pack I hate how I look. Yep crazy!
Anyway I do know that any type of weight loss goal comes down to about 80% nutrition and I've had 2 surgeries where I was out of commission for over 6 weeks each time and broken ribs and was out of the gym yet again and that was really hard for me. My biggest worry was gaining weight during that time. But what I did was set my mind to eating really healthy and watching my carbs and leaving out junk food 90% of the time and I did not gain one ounce. I actually lost a bit of weight and that was with no exercise only walking when I had the ok from the DR.So with that being said if you really put your mind to it and eat really healthy you can do it and believe me you will feel so good eating more veggies and lean protein.
Other things you can try is maybe some pilates or do upper body weight training routines to at least get some form of exercise in. I hope this helps and by all means go dress shopping. It can always be altered later.

belle7fl

I think everyone has body issues in one way or another. I was at my heaviest right before I met my FI. I changed my diet and stopped eating fast food and I started working out three days a week and I lost some weight then I met my FI and moved to Connecticut with him and stopped working out. I've gained some of the weight back and I really want to lose another 15 pounds before the wedding but I can't seem to find the motivation to work out. I still try to make healthy choices but I love my sweets so I don't deprive myself I just limit myself to one piece of chocolate or one cookie just to satisfy my sweet tooth. I was always athletic as well and because I'm only 5ft I feel like the weight shows up more. Since I just went dress shopping for the first time last week I've realized I really want to lose the weight (since I carry it all in my tummy and behind) because getting measured was shocking to me. I'm going to make one of the dress pics my wallpaper on my phone so I see what I hate whenever I look at my phone, which is like all the time, hopefully it will motivate me. Don't worry, you're definitely not alone and you'll look great in your e-pics!

SB1512

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_june-2013-weddings_weight-woes?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:f30b0bfc-508d-415c-bf59-ab83e327da37Discussion:ba7bd787-01a7-4302-af6b-0e269166b6fePost:ce90e444-fff3-4525-bd43-5875f79ea784">Re: Weight Woes</a>:
[QUOTE]I have a couple health education degrees! I'll critique your smoothie because I also like fruit smoothies. It's all good except the orange juice. Most juice, even the "good" brand Like Tropicana, have lots of addative that aren't good and are typically high in calories.I mostly use water in my smoothies because I personally think the fruit is sweet enough on it's own. But FI makes his with light vanilla soymilk. It's actually pretty healthy, more so than the orange juice. And it makes anything with strawberries in it taste just like strawberry ice cream. 
Posted by cnf2013[/QUOTE]

I also have a background in health education.  I would have to disagree about the OJ.  I don't think it's bad if used in moderation.  I put OJ in my smoothies, but unlike the OP I use about 1/4 cup as opposed to a 1/2 cup.  according to my Florida's Natural OJ container, there are only 3 ingredients.  A serving size is 8oz and has 110 calories and 22 grams of sugar.  The 1/4 cup I use is 2 ounces, meaning there is 27.5 calories and 5.5 grams of sugar.  I don't find that to be super unhealthy or bad for you.

bar10521

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_june-2013-weddings_weight-woes?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:f30b0bfc-508d-415c-bf59-ab83e327da37Discussion:ba7bd787-01a7-4302-af6b-0e269166b6fePost:ed9d2185-d93e-41a3-8a95-8e260fdc7509">Re: Weight Woes</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Weight Woes : I also have a background in health education.  I would have to disagree about the OJ.  I don't think it's bad if used in moderation.  I put OJ in my smoothies, but unlike the OP I use about 1/4 cup as opposed to a 1/2 cup.  according to my Florida's Natural OJ container, there are only 3 ingredients.  A serving size is 8oz and has 110 calories and 22 grams of sugar.  The 1/4 cup I use is 2 ounces, meaning there is 27.5 calories and 5.5 grams of sugar.  I don't find that to be super unhealthy or bad for you.
Posted by SB1512[/QUOTE]

<div>I'm with cnf on this one. As someone who has had weight problems my whole life I've seen a few nutritionists who told me OJ wasn't a great choice because there is so much sugar in it. That if I really wanted a juice I should do apple and do 1/2 juice 1/2 water or more water than juice to cut the sugar and calories. So I think that soy milk would be a great substitute for the OJ. </div>

cnf2013

It's not terrible for you if used in moderation. Any competent nutritionist will tell you anything is okay in moderation. But if you looking to lose weight in a healthy manner, there are smarter choices than orange juice. Even if you cut it down to 1/4 cup OJ your still getting slammed with sugar from the rest of the fruit too, so it ends up being way more 5.5grams. OJ is typically not recommended for fruit smoothies for those trying to drop weight. If you're just having one to be healthy and enjoy it, juice that sucker up. But if you want weight lose, the added sugar, regardless of moderation, is unnecessary and there are better choice. Not all of us are skinny naturally and can drink that much sugar. We can't all be sans weight problems. Must be nice. 

I have an undergrad degree in health ed, a Masters in health ed and promotion, a k-12 health ed teaching certification and I'm sitting the national Certified Health Education Specialist exam in October. I've also been a competitive athlete for 12 years. I'd like to think that by now I'd know a thing or two. 

SB1512

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_june-2013-weddings_weight-woes?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:f30b0bfc-508d-415c-bf59-ab83e327da37Discussion:ba7bd787-01a7-4302-af6b-0e269166b6fePost:f7a1e7be-e109-462f-a14f-e7d44cd681cf">Re: Weight Woes</a>:
[QUOTE]It's not terrible for you if used in moderation. Any competent nutritionist will tell you anything is okay in moderation. But if you looking to lose weight in a healthy manner, there are smarter choices than orange juice. Even if you cut it down to 1/4 cup OJ your still getting slammed with sugar from the rest of the fruit too, so it ends up being way more 5.5grams. OJ is typically not recommended for fruit smoothies for those trying to drop weight. If you're just having one to be healthy and enjoy it, juice that sucker up. But if you want weight lose, the added sugar, regardless of moderation, is unnecessary and there are better choice. <strong>Not all of us are skinny naturally and can drink that much sugar. We can't all be sans weight problems. Must be nice. </strong> I have an undergrad degree in health ed, a Masters in health ed and promotion, a k-12 health ed teaching certification and I'm sitting the national Certified Health Education Specialist exam in October. I've also been a competitive athlete for 12 years. I'd like to think that by now I'd know a thing or two. 
Posted by cnf2013[/QUOTE]

That comes across a little rude, but since it's the internet, maybe you didn't mean it that way.  I was never trying to say that you didn't know a thing or two, I was merely offering a disagreeing opinion.  Although yes I am naturally skinny, I take careful notice of my sugar intake, and I don't consume that much.  In fact, breakfast probably comprises the most of my sugar b/c of the fruit smoothies with OJ I have.  My other meals/snacks are either very low in sugar, or non-existant in sugar so for me personally I find it acceptable to have the OJ in the smoothies, whether or not I was trying to lose weight.  And I actually measured how much OJ I use this morning and my estimate of 1/4 cup was off, I really only use about 2.5 tablespoons, so again, in my opinion, not a huge deal.

cnf2013

Weight and body image is an incredibly sensitive topic. We're all on here talking about our weight and distorted body images. Then you come along start your interjection into the thread about you have no weight problems. Then throw your friends under the bus for not being skinny or healthy. Then throw out unsolicited advice. People with weight problems require different nutritional and exercise needs than those who are naturally skinny. You're original comment ruffled a fair amount of feathers as it came off incredibly pretentious of you to comment about how you don't have any problems with your weight while we're all talking about our weight woes. Your other side of the perspective approach to a conversation is all well and good, but in this case it just wasn't appropriate.  

anastassiiat

SB, I have to agree with cnf on this. I don't think she is trying to be rude, but it is a very sensitive subject. I, like you, am very very fortunate to be thin, but that's why I didn't think it would be my place to comment on here, even though I post on this board almost daily.

bar10521

SB, I'm with the other ladies here. I don't think that she was trying to be rude intentionally. But I think that the way you post is rather insensitive and rude. Weight issues aren't easy to deal with, and you've made it clear that you don't have any. As someone who has had weight issues my whole life I felt as though you were more rubbing in how thin you are rather than just giving advice. You wrote more than once in your first post that you don't have weight issues and that you're naturally skinny and made sure to repeat it in the next post. You're lucky because it blows dealing with the negative body image day in and day out and you should count yourself fortunate that you don't have to. Instead of reiterating how you have no problems and have always been skinny maybe next time just give the advice without making sure everyone knows how thin you are first, it would come across nicer and less pretentious.  

sparkles776

Completely agree with the PPs. SB, this thread is titled 'weight woes'. If you dont have any, it is really insensitive to come post unsolicited advice and stating several times how thin you are, when the OP was asking if any had a similar situation, obviously since you are naturally thin, you arent in a similar situation. There is a huge difference between maintaining body weight and losing weight. If I am trying to lose weight, there is no way I would go anywhere near orange juice, there are better alternatives with less sugar.

rmp4996

I too have to agree. CNF was trying to point out that while yes, OJ can be good for you, if you are trying to lose weight that is not the way to do it. I understand that you were trying to give advice SB, but as mentioed above, if you havn't ever been through it, and haven't felt what it was like to be trying to lose weight and have so much trouble doing it, or have never felt what it is like to be overweight, then you can't possibly understand what OP is going through. We need encouragement, and someone who is trying to lose weight has different dietary needs than someone who has never had to worry about weight before.

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[QUOTE]myfitnesspal also has a website you can use to keep track of it on that same as the app. Good luck!
Posted by Sjmiller418[/QUOTE]

I was going to say the same thing!!
a coworker of mine overheard me complaining back in November that I really wanted this year to be the year I lose weight, and he introduced me to <a href="http://www.myfitnesspal.com/" rel="nofollow">www.myfitnesspal.com</a>. I have a blackberry and they have an app for it too! (not JUST Iphone and android!)

I am IN LOVE with my fitness pal and I HIGHLY recommend it to EVERYONE!!

From January 1 to end of April, I lost 30lbs! (still have a considerable amount to lose!) and I am a 'single' mom, working 2 jobs, 7 days a week... if I can do it, ANYONE can!!

yes, I know I sound like a commercial, but I tell you, this is one of those things worth checking into... you count calories (just by putting in what you ate), exercise subtracts calories, you weigh/measure yourself, all that good stuff all in one...and their online community is SUPER supportive!!

okay, I promise I'm done sounding like an ad <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-wink.gif" border="0" alt="Wink" title="Wink" />, can you tell I love it?