I think I am about to change colors again

SugarFoote

The blue is killing me. It makes me depressed and reminds me of a winter wedding. Blue, silver, and white, to me, is wintery. I want pink. Well more of a blush or dusty rose pink with oh say some green and ivory...that sounds and looks awesome. FI could wear green since he is so against wearing pink.
Oh I don't know. I just feel like I'm going crazy or something. None of the plans for this wedding are me. They just don't suit me. I feel like I'm been trying to please my family as well a matron BM who is like a second mother to FI. Her ideas for this wedding are more of a classy grand event and that's just not me. She is more heels, and I'm more boots. She's planning big vases and all I want is mason jars. She's not pushy with it, so this is all my fault and I own that. 

Sorry...I just had to get that out

kellyeliz

My best friend is getting married this June and is doing a lot with mason jars! I'm actually a little jealous because we are so close that I will not use mason jars since she did! Seriously though it's your wedding - If you want to wear cowboy boots with your dress do it (another thing I'm secretly jealous of becuse I think it's super cute when the BMs wear them with short dresses but since I live in Boston it wouldn't really fit with my wedding).  Maybe show the woman who plans on big vases some pictures of what you can do with mason jars - they can be classy too!

Talk to your FI - If he is dead set on blue then talk to him about adding another color. I have seen a few weddings that used Navy in the summer but offset the dark blue with orange, bright green, or hot pink. You're wedding should be about you and your FI.

SugarFoote

He isn't dead set on anything. He liked the blue, but he isn't really involved in the wedding. He actually get aggravated when I try to talk wedding with him. He says I talk about it to much and it gets on his nerves (which is most likely true). Everything I ask him is followed by his reply of "I don't care" or "It doesn't matter". I asked him about  changing the colors and he said that was my choice, that it didn't matter to him. So (as of right now) our colors are pink, green, and ivory.



^^^^^These colors.

lodonnell616

My vote is that you do what you want with your colors, and not worry about what someone else (except you and your FI) wants--its your wedding!!!!

SugarFoote

Thanks ladies

kellyeliz

Sugar - I do like the green, pink, and ivory colors!

My FI will talk to me about wedding stuff but his answers are all pretty brief. He has gotten really weird about the whole baby thing though saying things like "it's going to be so funny when you have a baby in your belly". I am so not ready for that haha!

MrsKaiser - Your FI wants a comedian during your reception?! How are you handling that one?

Klyn1983

I agree with everything PP said, but also wanted to say for you to focus on what makes you and FI happy-not everyone else. You don't have to do anything just to please others. If you want mason jars and boots-girl, have them! It's YOUR wedding. It's not your Matron of Honor's or your families. Be firm, but polite and let them know that their vision isn't your own. 

Also, my FI does the same darn thing. I've learned it's more effective if I don't talk about it unless it's a decision that is vital for his opinion. Otherwise, he could care less. All the little details

@MrsKaiser-I would be so ticked if my FI wanted a comedian at the wedding! He mentioned having an impersonator after seeing one at a Bridal Expo and I told him if people wanted a Vegas show, they could hop on a plane and go see one. 

SugarFoote

@kelly- FI is the same way! He want's babies like right after marriage. He hates his age and freaks out about it saying "I'm going to be grandpa instead of a dad!"...He'll be 26 in May...I'm like dude, no. He really loves kids. 3 out of 4 of his brothers have kids and I think it bothers him that he don't. He adores his neices and nephews

@MrsK- I would choke FI if he even mentioned a comedian. Thats just kinda odd. Like seriously, that warrents a man junk punch lol...well maybe not...but you get what I mean lol.


My dad is the only one on board with my ideas. My mother says its "too different"...since when is mason jars "different"? My sister had flippin hay bales as her seats at her wedding and they were fine with that. I, personally, would consider mason jars one step up from hay bales, thank you very much.
 I feel like I've pinned so many new ideas for this wedding and I'm actually feeling more confident in it. At first I did like the blue. I loved the color. But then I couldn't really tie in the stuff I wanted with it...so I kinda got tired with it...

kellyeliz

Klyn and MrsK - I am so glad my fiance hasn't seen/suggested anything like that! I am also more glad that FIs don't have boards like this where they can all collaborate on their terrible ideas! haha. So far the only person I have throwing ideas my way is my FMIL. She wants us to have a shrimp dish at the wedding when I am severely allergic to shellfish!

Sugar - My FI is going to be 27 and I just turned 28. I keep telling him I want to wait until I'm 30 or 31 to have kids. I work with adults with intellectual disabilities alllll day I don't want to have to go home and take care of more people (YET).

I have pinned so many mason jar ideas for my best friend's wedding that I wish I could use for my own! I like those different unique touches. I'm glad you are feeling more confident!

emilyb213

@MrsK, I was eating a Hershey kiss when I got to your post about the comedian and I nearly choked because I was laughing so hard.

And Sugar, I love the pink and green color combo...I was actually considering it for my wedding. And mason jars are a cute idea and I think they'd go better with the vibe you're going for.

Don't feel bad about the reaction you're getting from your fiance. I get the sigh, and the eye roll, and all that jazz about "why do we always have to talk about wedding stuff?". But I really don't think most guys realize how much planning goes into something like a wedding. I do my best to keep my fiance in the loop as to what ideas I've had, and I ask him if he has any, but he just says off the wall stuff to amuse himself...like how he suggested that the bridal party walks in to "Get Low" by Lil Jon at the reception. Seriously. Although after reading MrsK's post, I guess I should just be happy he's not pushing for a comedian!!

bananas1309

@Sugar, screw everyone... Pick whatever colors YOU want! If FI is acting disinterested, he's being a typical dude: they don't tend to care about stuff like wedding colors. Once he sees it all come together on the wedding day, THAT is when he'll appreciate all the little details. Plus, blush pinks and ivory are lovely... they are also my colors. ; ) . My mom thinks all my ideas are crazy -- she can express her opinions all she wants, doesn't mean I'm gonna listen to them! Lol You have a lot of time to decide on colors... You're allowed to change your mind! Everyone keeps asking how soon Craig and I plan on having kids... Seriously, that is the LAST thing on my mind! I would like a good 5 years of traveling and being in my 20s!

kellyeliz

FSIL already bought us baby onesies! With her FB default picture on the front! Seriously she got us those a year before we even got engaged! Oh and FMIL wants grandkids like tomorrow. FI and I told her we were gonna wait until our early 30s and she got all upset wondering what was gonna happen of it takes us awhile ugh

sparkles776

sugar- do whatever you want! seriously, if your FI is indifferent, choose whatever colors you want. I am such a pink girl, FI knows this and told me I can have pink, but the whole wedding cannot be pink. His favorite color is green. I love the pink and green color combination, and thats why those are our colors. I am trying to add a third color in because someone mentioned to me that they are "baby shower colors" which definitely ticked me off, but not enough to change my colors. I love love love pink, green, and khaki. FI refuses to wear a khaki colored suit though so there went that idea. So now we are most likely doing pink, green, and some peachy colors.

In terms of babies- geez your FI is still super young! I HATE when people ask me when we plan on having kids. Uh I am 24 and want to enjoy my 20s and babies are not on my radar. Thats what I tell people. Luckily, our parents are super cool and not the ones who have made comments to us. We will most likely wait until I am between 28-30, and FI will be 33-35.

sopraffina

My flowers and paper lanterns are pink, but nothing else. The boutonnieres will be white, and I assume a black or white tie.