Difficulty figuring out theme

lilcutekino

I'm new to this whole wedding planning bit. And I'm having a very difficult time finding the right venue as well as finding a good theme. The colors I want are some sort of with silver accents. Thats as far as I have come and I cant seem to figure anything out I know once I find the place and figure out the theme everything will come together. My wedding is in June of next year. And I dont like the themes of beach weddings or anything like that. Any help would be very greatful. Thank you

PrettyInPearls23

What kinds of things are you and your FI interested in? What brought you two together? Do you have any kind of special things you do together? Anything you definitely know you DON'T want?

For my first wedding, we both knew we didn't want the traditional "cookie cutter" church wedding and wedding venue reception. Instead, our venue was an antique car museum, where we had our reception in a huge 3-story restored historic red barn. This was perfect for us because we're both laid back and into the country lifestyle.

For my second wedding we're having it on FI's grandparents 200 acre agricultural farm. The farm has a very special meaning to him, and I love the country lifestyle so it's perfect for us.

KplusA

I agree.  What do you guys like to do for fun?  Do you like the city vs the country?  I originally wanted a really rustic barn venue, but my fiance said no.  We knew we didn't want a hotel or a banquet hall, and we wanted something unique.  We also love hiking, and he proposed in a state park, so we wanted to get married outside.  I randomly found out that our closest state park has a beautiful victorian mansion that hosts weddings, and it was perfect!  The venue totally set my theme.  It's still a bit rustic (since the ceremony is in the woods) but it is also a little elegant.  Start looking at websites of venues in your area, and see which ones you like the most.  If they are mostly big ballrooms, then you know that your theme will be more elegant and modern.  This can help you narrow it down.  Good luck!

ashlidie

I agree with KplusA that the venue sort of sets the tone for your theme.  I, much like these ladies, knew from the get go that we wanted a barn.  I grew up in the country, hes a country boy with his big pickup and cowboy boots and goes hunting every weekend from sept 15th til jan 30th when he doesnt have to work haha.  It very much suits us.  

Now his brother is more like the laid back boating type.  (his family hunts and fishes/crabs in the bay)  So he has a boat and him and his girl are on the water ALL summer (and we get to go along for a free ride :-p) so for them they wanted a wedding by the water.

Now maybe you don't have a discrete lifestyle that is so obvious as a theme, but where did he propose?  Where did you go on your first date?  You know, if he took you to the fair for a first date that can be your theme, or proposed on a nature walk in the park, chose a local park.  What is a typical night out for you guys, going to the movies?  Then theatre could be your theme.  OR do a destination wedding since everyone loves a vacation :-)  My cousin got married on their favorite vacation spot down in NC.

sparkles776

I agree with PPs. For me it was more the time of year that set my "theme". I just wanted a beautiful summer wedding, I knew I didnt want dark colors. I love the color pink. FIs favorite color is green. They are a great color combo ( we are either thinking of adding purple or peach, or just doing many different shades of pink and green. I love the colors I just dont want it to come off like a baby shower.) If I was getting married in the fall, I would have chosen a completely different color scheme.

lilcutekino

Thanks for everyone's suggestions. I tried thinking about those but everytime I did nothing seemed to work. We got engaged on the fourth of July. I couldnt go with that theme because neither of us like pariatic colors and having a wedding on that day would just be asking for trouble. Our first date was just at a resturant and because of our current living situation, when we do get to spend time together we like to cuddle and watch movies. I know this is complicated, my friends have tried helping me to and they watch me go in circles as I argue with myself.

ashlidie

nycrose brings up a perfect point, for us it was just natural and obvious, we are rednecks so might as well do what we think is perfect (and against my very uppity mother's side lol oh well).  But a theme is NOT necessary.  I have been to many weddings where I actually can't pin down a "theme" aside from colors really.  My friends was really perfect, the thing I remember most was they had friends playing acoustic guitar and singing at their ceremony, it was an awesome touch.  But I mean, it was a church, and then we went to a hotel for the party, had normal favors, I had a BLAST dancing, it was great!

Just roll with the colors you like, and it will be beautiful.  In a sense we limited ourselves by having our style because only so much looks right in a giant tan barn, I couldn't really get silver candelabras with damask linens lol even though I think it's very pretty.

Meghannsix

We didn't start with a theme, we knew we wanted something outside, near water.  We chose our colors, sapphire blue and pale green, kind of randomly, we looked at a lot of magazines and really liked the combination.  As we started looking at decorations, we've been choosing more circular items, so our "theme", very loose theme, has evolved into "whimsical, circular, blue and green".  So basically, don't be pressed to choose a theme, look around and figure out what you like, and let it choose you.  Good luck!

Chels&Jimmy

We don't have a theme either. I'm kind of just going with the flow and seeing how things pan out with our venues first. We want to have our ceremony on a cliff overlooking the Pacific Ocean. The view is so nice that we're not planning to have any decorations - just chairs set up for our guests. Our reception will be at whatever reasonably affordable banquet hall, event center, or community center we can book, that isn't hideously ugly. Hehe. Once we book that space and I have an idea of what I'm working with, it will be a lot easier to find something to tie everything together - not necessarily a theme, but maybe a certain group of colors, a flower, something like that. That will be the fun part!