NWR: Feel like i'm in this alone :(

SAW2008

So, I feel like no one is as excited about this wedding as I am. My sister is cancelling appointments on me because she's ready to get married and her boyfriend hasn't proposed so she's feeling a certain way about this. My best friend, who was acting excited about this wedding last year, is pregnant now and just really couldn't care any less. She didn't show up for wedding dress shopping...has not gone to see any of the reception venues with me...just so NOT supportive. I understand she is pregnant and I want to give her time but to just not come to anything? My mom....my mom....she is not interested in this wedding AT ALL! Its so disheartening. My husband tries to understand and he gives me so much love but I don't think he can understand...he is a shoulder to cry on if I need it though. I don't know ladies....just needed to vent. Sorry.

SAW2008

well, I guess this is wedding related

sparkles776

Well, not to sound harsh, but no one is going to care or be as excited about your wedding more than you are. I did not have any of my friends or bridesmaids come with me to look for a reception venue or wedding dresses. Choosing a reception venue should be between your FI and yourself. As for your mom, I am sorry and I hope she comes around. I think when I first got engaged my mom was just kind of indifferent about it. She was happy for us, but didnt seem like she was estatic. I dont know how long you have been engaged, but it takes some getting used to for parents. My mom has come for circle, I think she just needed time for it to sink in and realize that she is not losing me, but gaining a son in law. Good luck and you came to the right place to vent!

Lissa1213

Agree with PP here, I was upset too when I was doing my original planning.  No one seemed to care and I thought that everyone was against me.  Then it hit me, it's not anyone elses wedding but my own so of course they aren't going to care as much I do, especially when it comes to small details (that will seem huge to you) such as what color to make your monogram on the cocktail napkins.  Thats what is so great about TK.  it's full of other brides who know what you are going through and seem to care. 

cnf2013

I agree that most of the decisions should be solely between you and your FI. I would never think to invite my friend to go look at venues as I don't care if they like it or not. What matters is that FI and I liked it and could afford it. As for things like dresses, you don't need every person under the sun to go with you. Go ask around on other boards. Loads of girls admittedly went alone. 

I know it sucks that others don't care, but that's just how it is sometimes. I don't expect my friends who have lives and other things going on to drop everything to go do wedding chores with me. And at least your FI (your husband..?) is understanding and loving. Have you asked if he'd like to go do wedding related things with you, since it's also his wedding? I am sorry about your mom. I imagine that would be disheartening. 

rmp4996

I think that your mom will come around, and you sister too. Once it starts to get closer, pepole will become more involved. My mom has been really excited from the start, because FI and I had been together 7 years (I htink she was worried I was wasting time and he would never do it lol) and I'm an only child. But that gets a little overbearing also. I really havn't asked any of my friends or BM's to come with for for anything yet, because i just feel like they have so much going on, I can't take up a full year of their time having them follow me around everywhere.

Only take a few people dress shopping, otherwise it's way too many opinions. See if you can just get your mom to go, or your sister, and that should be enough.

Give them some time, and hopefully they will come around. Until then, talk to your FI about wedding stuff, and come here! We are all excited to hear details, share ideas, and support eachother.

SAW2008

You all are absolutely right. My FI and I talked last night and I feel so much better. I am going to have fun planning this wedding. At the end of the day it is all about the two of us! Thank you ladies!!!!!!

ashlidie

This is a beautiful thing you just haven't realized it.  You can do whatever you want, with no tacky/mean/unwanted input from the peanut gallery (and have to find tactful ways of explaining that balloon arches are a thing of the past).  I have no one helping me with anything except for FI.  I know the vision I have and people make suggestions, but maybe 30% of them I am actually very interested in, so I do gladly accept any input but usually its not quite what I was looking for.

I won't have any outside input until the bridesmaids pick their dress.  I am pretty lenient on this, it just needs to be navy, the church requires some sort of sholder (halter, tank-top like v-neck, etc) and looks good with cowboy boots lol.  They just need to come with shoes, jewelry, makeup and hair done however they wish.  If they want to match jewelry and shoes, that's up to them really.

Now Im lying a little, our parents gave their additions to the guest list but mostly its been myself and FI making all calls.  Oh, and my mom is MIA as well so there really isn't anyone quite as excited as I am.

AllieS421

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[QUOTE]So, I feel like no one is as excited about this wedding as I am. My sister is cancelling appointments on me because she's ready to get married and her boyfriend hasn't proposed so she's feeling a certain way about this. My best friend, who was acting excited about this wedding last year, is pregnant now and just really couldn't care any less. She didn't show up for wedding dress shopping...has not gone to see any of the reception venues with me...just so NOT supportive. I understand she is pregnant and I want to give her time but to just not come to anything? My mom....my mom....she is not interested in this wedding AT ALL! Its so disheartening. My husband tries to understand and he gives me so much love but I don't think he can understand...he is a shoulder to cry on if I need it though. I don't know ladies....just needed to vent. Sorry.
Posted by SAW2008[/QUOTE]

I'm sorry you're feeling this way... but we still have a year to go and in my experience, even when one of my closest friends got married, I didn't get super excited until the official wedding stuff started (showers, bachelorette parties, etc.). No one is going to be as excited as we are, but that's why this board is so great...WE WILL BE EXCITED FOR YOU!

And as far as your mom goes, my mom wasn't super excited about the wedding until this week, maybe because we are closer to the one year mark now. My younger sister got engaged three months after I did so anytime I talk to her about wedding stuff, so tries to compare mine to hers (hers won't be until May 2014), so I get people not being as pumped as you are. I promise that people will get excited. Who doesn't love a party?