C & V Thursday

emilyb213

It's Thursday...time for confessions and vents!!

cnf2013

Confession- I missed two pills this month. You'd think that after eight years I could remember to take my damn pills everyday.

Vent- Because of missing pills, my hormones are all ragey. I feel like a horrible person right now and everything FI does is getting under my skin. I don't mean to be so ornery, but I'm all ragey and cranky and the last thing I want is someone being short and terse with me. Gah. 

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Confession: I bought an entire Hershey Pie last night at the grocery store. I did NOT eat the whole thing by any means...but I feel sick this morning.Why do I give into temptation every.single.time?

Vent: I'm sick of meetings at work. I realize having multiple managers and VP's means re-explaining things multiple times...but isn't there any way to streamline this process???

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confession - I still haven't picked our colors or theme. I don't really have a whole big "vision" of what I want the whole day to look like.  and it's kind of stressing me out.

vent - we are planning our CA wedding from WI. this means any vendor meetings have to be over skype or we have to fly in. Our venue is an all-inclusive deal and they assured us that all the vendors would work with us so we could come in for a long weekend and get all the meetings/tastings/etc done in one shot. The caterer, however, did not seem to get this memo and they are absolutely refusing to budge on their tasting times. Tuesday / Wednesday evenings do NOT work for a long weekend plannning trip and I can't exactly skype a tasting. ugh

Melokiel

C: I don't want to have a wedding anymore.

V: WTH is wrong with vendors?? Why can't I get a simple phone call back or actually get the information I requested instead of some stupid PR crap that I could have (and did) read on their website? How do they run a business like that?

lovefuzzies

Confession: Last weekend I failed at being a good partner.  I forgot how my mother can manipulate and allowed her to get under my skin which ended up causing FI to get mad at me.  Then I got mad at him for not telling me why he was mad at me.  We had a huge fight which could have been avoided if he would have just told me why he was mad.  I totally would have apologized for my massive fail.  Which leads to my vent:

Vent: I really wish my mother would grow up.  Last Saturday we were at a conference together and FI was supposed to go over to her house and break a bolt loose so she could get her brakes changed.  FI has a bad habit of being on his own time schedule even after committing to doing something for someone else.  He didn't make it to my parents house until late afternoon and by that time my son was already over there working on the brakes.  My mom called and talked to my son and as soon as she got off the phone with him she turned on me and started accusingly questioning me about where FI was and why wasn't he the one doing the work on her car and she didn't know if she felt safe driving the car that my son was in the process of changing the brakes on.  I can usually let that stuff roll off my back or find out what's going on so that I can calm my mother down but no one was answering messages and in my frustration I allowed my mother to get under my skin.  I went off on FI about not getting the bolt broken loose and found out when my mom called my son he was actually over there helping my son and that he'd done about half the work. I felt awful and apologized as soon as he told me that but he still ended up getting mad at me over getting after him.  He didn't tell me that's why he was mad at me until the next day so I ended up getting mad at him for getting mad at me and not telling me why and not calling or coming over to talk about it.

I feel completely stupid for the whole situation.  I know my mother doesn't get all the info before she goes off on people and instead of taking a step back I jumped to conclusions.  Lesson learned but wow it sucked.

emilyb213

Confession: I am waaay too excited about sending out our save the dates yesterday. I guess it's because my wedding was back-burnered for the first 14 months of our engagement because my sister was getting married. Now that her wedding is over though, it's like "oh hey, hooray, I get to have a wedding now!!".

Vent: No vents this week.

APherber418

Confession: I spend way too much time on pinterest.

Vent: I feel like FI says everything will be fine everytime we talk about and when I look at the numbers it just doesn't feel fine.  I wish he not be so easy going sometimes.

ciligirl

C:  I really really am a bee-och.  Love Fuzzies...back me up on this..hee hee!

V1:  (some) of The Second Wedding posters are out of control!  Seriously, I don't think some of them have jobs.  HOW DO THEY HAVE SO MUCH TIME ON THEIR HANDS?????  OK, so I may get kicked off TK for some of the things I said, but I don't care. 

And Love Fuzzies, none of it was directed at you, at all.  I love your posts, I have even checked out your website because I was so interested when you talked about your venue and Scottish heritage, the whole nine yards.  And I really do try not to judge people, even if I do know their situation, because it is not my place, I have not been in their shoes.  Heck, you can imagine some of the doosies that people, even friends, have thrown at me and some of my other widowed friends about choices we have made when they had no clue what we were going through.  So I know what its like, maybe thats why I keep things to myself.

V2:  I have damn pneumonia!  I am asthmatic so I get it often for some reason this time of year, probably because of my allergies  And the meds the Dr. put me on aren't making me feel as good as I was when I was self medicating with Nyquil.  THAT's why I have had so much time to be on the boards!!!  Can I balme it on the codeine???

cadamus

Confession: I feel like I am competing with another wedding.....

Vent: This vent start a coupel monthes ago...A girl that I was friends with in high school/college got engaged recently. This is her 3rd engagment. I was suppose to be in the first two. But they didnt happen. The first one she called off bc she cheated on him with the second one. And then for some reason the second one "didnt seem right to her" she cancelled the wedding a month before the wedding and I had already spent a lot of money on it at this time and i didnt have much money to spend bc i was in college. First off why get engaged at all! Now fast forward like 2 years. This "friend"decided that she wanted to have a baby (i think bc a lot of ppl were pregnant around her) so she ended up getting pregnant and had her daughter. I was the first one she told that she was pregnant but i was the last one to find out she had the baby but she wanted me to be the first one to see her (doesnt make sense) We then started to grow apart. She would only contact me if she needed something for sophia. Well she had been cheating on her boyfriend the whole time they were together even when she was pregnant with his child. Her boyfriend decided to propose to her. but a month or so before he did that he asked her mom for her hand in mariage. Well her mom told her about it and she went snooping for the ring and found it and took photos and sent it to a bunch of ppl. (me not being one of them). I sent out my save the dates in Sept and she fb's me telling me she was pissed that she wasnt inivited to my wedding (our wedding is mostly family and a small amout of friends). Mind you we havent spoken since March. Personally a friend is someone that speaks to you every so often. I would text her and i would get nothing back. Well her boyfriend proposed to her about 2 weeks ago and she decideds to get married one month after my fi and i. Her colors are similar to mine. I dont know if i am thinking to much into this. but it seems aweful fast. She cheated on him the night before she found out that her fi was going to propose. To me that doesnt seem right.  but i guess ppl are going to do what they want to do! It makes me feel like i am competing with her wedding now! Sorry it was so long. And im sorry if i sound like a b*tch but i just needed to get it off my chest.

montanabounding

C: I've been so exhausted lately that I haven't really wanted to have "dates" with FI. We live on opposite sides of the country and are separated by time zones, which means that I need to stay up late for him. I work (I don't want to say that it's "full-time" as my job is more task-oriented and I make my own schedule provided that I accomplish my necessary work) and I have our tiny human, who is wonderful but utterly exhausting. I baked apple cake and made bagels today, worked for about six hours, went outside and dealt with the animals as needed... I want to go to sleep. FI is understanding, but he's dealing with a difficult family situation and needs my support and love, and I am being horribly selfish.

V: I've been sick since the beginning of October. Enough, already.

lovefuzzies

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_june-2013-weddings_c-v-thursday-30?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:f30b0bfc-508d-415c-bf59-ab83e327da37Discussion:ceb02089-208f-4301-9f4a-cfed1741232dPost:0ac8ce9d-bc93-463f-9466-3b2c0aa5a677">Re: C & V Thursday</a>:
[QUOTE]C:  And Love Fuzzies, none of it was directed at you, at all.  I love your posts, I have even checked out your website because I was so interested when you talked about your venue and Scottish heritage, the whole nine yards.  And I really do try not to judge people, even if I do know their situation, because it is not my place, I have not been in their shoes. 
Posted by ciligirl[/QUOTE]

No worries ciligirl.  Seriously if we can't have adult discussions then none of us need to be on here, LOL.  I don't take offense to many things.  I like a good debate  <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-smile.gif" border="0" alt="Smile" title="Smile" />  Everyone's entitled to their opinon and I try to not judge anyone or fault them for their opinion or beliefs.  I fail miserably at times but I guess that's part of being human.