Small wedding vs. big wedding

Strv2perfection

I want something small FI wants something bigger. I don't wanna spend a lot of money getting married. He doesn't mind. I'm thinking 35 guests tops he is at 150. Not sure what to do. I've never been a huge wedding girl so it's not really my thing. Small wedding nice dinner an I'm cool. Family also wants. Big wedding both sides. I'm just venting! I have been stressed over this!!!!

Klyn1983

Have you tried sitting down and talking to your FI about how you feel? Maybe he'd be willing to compromise if you explain to him how you want a small, intimate wedding. Come up with a number in the middle, say 75? It'd still be intimate for you, and he'd have a few more people to invite.

kellyeliz

I was just about to suggest coming up with a number in the middle! So I agree with Klyn try talking to him and agree on a number that is comfortable for both of you!

PrettyInPearls23

My situation is a little different since it's a 2nd wedding for both of us, but here's how we compromised.

FI really wanted a small, intimate ceremony and a big party where people can come and go and they please. Me, I wanted a traditional ceremony and reception.

Our compromise? A small, family-only ceremony on Friday, complete with me in a dress and him in a suit. We'll take everyone (30-40 people) out to dinner after to celebrate. Then, on Saturday, we're having a big casual BBQ party to celebrate our marriage with 130+ guests. The perfect compromise! We can still have a big shin-dig, but it's less expensive because it's not 'wedding themed', if that makes sense at all...

Strv2perfection

I have told him 75 before he looked at me crazy. His side of the guest list is 68 already!!!!!

RWhitesell

I agree do a small wedding with the bigger reception. It will most likely be the best thing for both of you and it's an easy way to compromise.

iloveu4ever

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[QUOTE]Have you tried sitting down and talking to your FI about how you feel? Maybe he'd be willing to compromise if you explain to him how you want a small, intimate wedding. Come up with a number in the middle, say 75? It'd still be intimate for you, and he'd have a few more people to invite.
Posted by Klyn1983[/QUOTE]

I was gonna say that.