For everyone's sake, I hope this is temporary Vent

ashlidie · June 2012

I can't put this FB, so I am sharing here and FI obvi isn't too keen on talking about it.

We just talked to his mother, and she is at her parents house. She left FI's dad today, been married 27 years. Something instigated it but she doesn't want to share just yet. I am really hoping this is just her getting away for a little bit to think, I can not see them actually being apart they do everything together. But I mean I also don't want her to stay if she's unhappy with him. He's a good guy he just, he really instigates (stupid things, like poking wars and stuff when she doesn't feel like playing) and he is incredibly stubborn, so she sort of loses her say on things she really wants. But she does sort of like drama (though shes never done this before), so I want to think this is just her way to say hey, im serious you better straighten up but is not actually wanting to leave.

That's what I am hoping for, I don't want them to have issues! This will be so hard for them (and FI) if their 1st born is getting married while their marriage is struggling :-(

anastassiiat · June 2012

Aww, I'm sorry, Ash! I hope it is a temporary thing and they make up soon. Hugs!

cnf2013 · June 2012

Oooh, I'm so sorry! I hope it's just something she's worked up over that can be worked out. My thoughts are with you and FI. Keep your head up lady!

kellyeliz · June 2012

That's terrible! I hope everything works out! My thoughts are with you!

sparkles776 · June 2012

aww Ash I am so sorry, I hope they resolve their issues and I hope this is temporary!

bar10521 · June 2012

Oh no that's terrible! I hope it's just a temporary thing like you said and it get better quickly. Thinking of you.

pedulaney · June 2012

My parents separated a year after I met FI, but I had kind of seen it coming. I just didn't think it would be because of cheating, anyhow, I know how your FI is feeling. After separating my parents still kind of dated on and off but now they are to the point where they are both just moving on. When I first got engaged though in December my mom was very rigid about the whole thing, excited for me but not focusing on the cool parts of planning and getting married like I wanted. It has gotten better.. But I feel for your FI and you in this time. Hopefully they can continue to be civil when around each other and at family functions! Sending thoughts your way!

ashlidie · June 2012

Thanks for the kind words everyone and insight pedulaney. We have a bday party today so I guess we will see if his dad shows up since no one knows what's going on

emilyb213 · June 2012

Oh, Ash, I hope everything works out with this situation. I can relate: my fiance's parents have a totally effed up relationship. His mom has kicked his dad out several times since we've been together (I didn't meet his dad until we had been dating for about 5 months because he wasn't living at their house). It's good that your fiance has you there to support him through this, especially if no one really knows about what's happenining, and I'm sure he appreciates knowing you're there.

ashlidie · June 2012

Well, I believe the minor crisis is averted. She is back home, and has talked to his dad. You can tell things are a little awkward so I imagine more serious conversations are going to happen (he slipped in this morning over something unrelated that "I am who I am you can't change me" which seemed to be a subliminal message) but they got along fine today and seemed almost normal. I am hoping they work through those little things that had upset her, but like I said above, I can't see them actually ever being apart, they are high school sweethearts.