Bachelor / Bachelorette party

Gpeeps10

My brother is a groomsman and my sister in law is a bridesmaid in our wedding. My FI has expressed that he would feel awkward with my brother at his bachelor party with all the guy talk and stuff. And my friends find my SIL too type A and have hinted that they don't really like her. Should I tell them they shouldn't come? I don't think they will mind, they just had a baby and probably were thinking of not coming anyway.

Xstatic3333

I definitely wouldn't tell them not to come. I think excluding BP members from those parties is probably pretty hurtful. I'd invite but not push it. If they decline just say we'll miss you, and if they come just be polite and try to have fun. One person shouldn't ruin anybody's time.

audubonbride2013

I completely agree with xstatic's advice.  I know I would be very hurt if I was a BM and didn't get invited to the bachelorette party.  Like you said since they just had a baby they probably won't go anyway.

teachmegs1

You need to invite them.  I'm a little confused. How are they not being invited?  Isn't it the bridal party that plans those parties for you two anyway? I wouldn't even think that an invite would need to be extended to bridal party members.  Maybe a close friend who isn't apart of the bridal party, but you know would like to attend anyway. 

rel1988

I'm a little confused as well. Are you planning your own parties?? If so, please re-consider. You can host a bridal luncheon or something to that extent but it's in poor taste to throw your own parties.

If you aren't and are just giving a list to pass off to the hostess, yes they absolutely need to be included as they are part of the BP. I agree with teach...the host should automatically be inviting all BP members and then asking your input for additional friends.

RailWayWife

I would have to agree with PP and say that they should most definatly be invited. They are part of your wedding party so why shouldn't they be there?