Unorthodox Honeymoon

bahamutangel

I need some advice on breaking honeymoon news to some family members. We are getting married in October, then going away for just a few days to Vermont or Maine, somewhere close (we're in Boston).

The following summer, we are both taking 3 weeks off for the real honeymoon, which is riding coast-to-coast and back on our motorcycles. I mean, we like laying on beaches just as much as the next couple, but we are pretty sure we'll never get the chance again until we retire. Plus, we'll really have to work together and all that jazz. My issue is that my mother is going to have a fit. We've already told several friends and my FI's parents, who are all excited and think it's the best idea ever. My poor mom is just terrified of the cycles and is convinced they are death machines. I don't expect her to be all excited about it, but how can I break the news without enduring nagging for the next 7 months after the wedding nagging?

Also, what do you think of the honeymoon? 

Summer2011Bride

Honestly, why do you need your mom's approval though? I don't mean that to sound harsh, but as a (soon to be married) adult, you should be making your own decisions.

If she is concerned, I would reiterate that you are wearing helmets (which you SHOULD if you weren't going to) and that you will take all necessary precautions. But regardless of what she says, I do think you should plan your own HM.

J&K10910

I get where you're coming from.  We did a bit of an unorthodox honeymoon (a road trip with lots of hiking), and we had a lot of people saying things like "that's not a honeymoon!"  Um, ok?  A honeymoon is just a post-wedding vacation.  Just because most people go somewhere tropical and lay on a beach for theirs doesn't mean everyone in the whole world has to.  And frankly, it's a really annoying idea and it's really annoying when everyone asks "oh, what are you doing for a honeymoon?" and then giving you that look or comment.

With that said, I don't really think you can keep from telling your mom, or that there's a magic solution to make her not freak out.  I think you just need to tell her, tell her your safety precautions, and then make it clear that it's not up for discussion.

MrsGandthebeag

Why do you need to say anything NOW about your plans for next summer?  Just tell everyone about your immediate mini moon plans and leave it at that.  

dalm0m

Don't tell her.  Tell her about your immediate honeymoon.  Next summer tell her that you are going on a 3 week trip.  Tell her all about it when you get home.  That advice will be much easier to follow after you have been married for a few months & it really makes emotional & intellectual sense that you are an adult who can make her own decision.  Happy trails & be safe out there; too many car drivers don't always respect motorcycles. 

tiny speck

I don't know why it matters to your mom either. I get that she might be concerned for your safety on bikes, but this is your honeymoon, not your mom's. You don't need her approval; if she asks, just tell her your basic plans. I also agree with PPs that there's no need to share your plans over a year in advance...

alithebride

it doesn't matter what I think of your hm. if that's what you and FI want go for it.

"but how can I break the news without enduring nagging for the next 7 months after the wedding nagging?"  you probably cant. dont tell her yet (why would you?) and be ready for it and go anyway.

Uberoom12

Honey moons are made for you to spend the first days alone with your new husband. What you do or what other people like is not relevant.

Go and do what you two like.  Enjoy your time toghether!!

nycrose2013

I think it sounds awesome! Just don't tell your mom! Easier said then done (I know bc I always make the mistake of telling her stuff) but for this one, I think it is really important you just don't say anything for a while. You don't need her approval anymore; one of the great things about being married!

kailan10976

Dont tell her till y'all get back. Sounds like it would be a lot of fun!!! We are going camping on ours and checking out local attractions and historic spots and got the same look of really, thats not a honeymoon but like what was said above its all about what you two enjoy doing together and for some it doesnt include an expensive tropical beach getaway lol. Have fun and Congrats!!!