I am getting married at an Abigail Kirsch venue and was informed by the event manager that tips are included in the contract for all staff members (valet, waiters, bartender, coat check, etc.) except for the event manager himself. Tipping for the event manager is up to us, but we have no idea what is customary - I've read anywhere from $100 - $200, or $1 - $5 per guest, or 15-20% of the food and drink bill (which would be an order of magnitude higher!). Has anyone who's gotten married at an Abigail Kirsch (or similar) venue share their experiences? What is customary for the NYC area?
Thanks!