Has anyone else has a self uniting ceremony? We are going that route but don't really have a person to "emcee" it so we are thinking we will write our vows and maybe pick one or two family members or friends to say a prayer/read a poem/participate in some way. What other things can we add so that it's a bit longer than 5 minutes?!? I'm not really into the unity candle thing - alternatives? Ideas? Thanks!!