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I'm a month into the planning process for our September 7th wedding of this year, and I want to try and gain as much wisdom from others as I can!1. What was the most special moment of your wedding? Having my mom walk me down the isle (my dad has passed) and seeing the look on my FI's face when he saw me for the first time.2. What do you wish you had done differently? I love love love my dress, but I wish I had gotten something without so many layers. It wasn't a ballgown, but it had about 7 layers and it was HOT. June where I live is pretty unpredictable, and it turned out to be hot and humid on our wedding day; if it had been about 10 degrees cooler I would have been fine, but I was sweating buckets most of the day. I kind of wish I had gotten a simple cocktail dress to change into after dinner so I could be more comfortable dancing and moving around.3. What is something you regret spending money on? My shoes. They weren't expensive, but I don't wear heels, and I'm not entirely comfortable in them. While they were only 3 inches, I managed, but I wasn't comfortable. I wore them for the reception and walked around barefoot the rest of the night. I ordered them because they were knock off's of a pair of Badgley Mishka's that I wanted desperately (they were pretty...). 4. What is something you wish you would have spent more money on? Better wine for dinner. We had complimentary wine for the evening; every table got red and white but we could only have one selection of each, and it wasn't to most peoples liking. Unfortunately we couldn't do a tasting before hand, but if we had, we probably wouldn't have chosen the type we did. Then again, I'm a bit of a wine snob. 5. What's the best (and worst!) advice you got during the planning process? Best advice was probably consider your guests comfort and enjoyment before your own, which is why we decided on a photobooth over a candy bar. FI and I have a huge sweet tooth, but the majority of our guests did not, so we chose the booth, which was consequently a HUGE hit. Worst advice was to replace one of FI's brothers who dropped out as a groomsmen (he ended up being able to make it after all).
I'm a month into the planning process for our September 7th wedding of this year, and I want to try and gain as much wisdom from others as I can!
1. What was the most special moment of your wedding?
2. What do you wish you had done differently?
3. What is something you regret spending money on?
4. What is something you wish you would have spent more money on?
5. What's the best (and worst!) advice you got during the planning process?
1) Too many to name. Walking with my dad who has been sick. Seeing my groom. At one point, I played ring a round the rosy with my flower girls. That was pretty precious..oh and having MY friend and HIS friend table have contests all night competing on who was the best table..pretty funny actually
2). Asked specific questions about the venue. I had a little minor snafuse but realized it wasn't because I didnt "ask" certain questions. For example, my guests had cocktail hour on the "terrace" but I didn't realize that meant they were FORCED to stay outside...thus wasting my photobooth which was placed inside during that hour..It also made my guests forced to STAND..I felt awful. I thought they would have a choice to stay inside, and they didn't..My fault, I just assumed it was true..
3) Nothing. People told me NOT to waste money on chair covers and bathroom baskets, but I honestl am happy I did both. People were crazily excited about the bathroom baskets and the stuff got used. I loved how the room was setup with chaircovers
4) Videographer. We didn't want to waste money and then our attempt at getting it video's got messed up so I have no coverage of me walking up aisle with my dad. SOO sad over this now...:(
5) Best--don't take advice from everyone
One piece I learned. Don't "not" invite someone because someone else doesn't like them. Ther was several people we chose not to invite to invite conflict with OTHER people..Low and Behold, those "original" people declined invited...I ended up feeling guilty for excluding people
I got married Sept of last year, and it was a great time to do so... Congrats on your upcoming nuptials!
If only I had thought to ask some of those things ahead of planning my day, I could have saved myself a lot of stress. I had a DIY wedding to save on costs, and there was a lot we could have done without that I absolutely freaked over, thinking they were necessary because they were traditional.
1) The most special moment of my wedding was the following realization: Three days prior to our event, the building where we were to exchange our vows went under construction. The rose bushes were dug up, the parking lot was torn up, and it was too late to find another venue at a good rate. The crew was there on our wedding day, working! We had to ask them to take lunch during our vows so our guests could hear us. The realization? If we could make it through that, if we could roll with the punches, then we were going to be okay... We would make it.
2) If I could have done anything differently, it would have been spending so much time and money on things that didn't matter to anyone other than me. Seriously. The pomp and circumstance IS overrated.
3) As a continuation of #2, I spent a lot of money on save the date postcards, personalized stamps and address labels, and favors. Spend less money and truly personalize your event by doing these things yourself instead of ordering them from a company. I used stamps and inkpads on nice cardstock to make my invitations, and no one complained. Favors, truth be told, are a quickly fading tradition. Hardly anyone took them home with them, and I had to figure out what to do with them all. If you want to have favors available, consider a candy buffett or make fans for your guests if your wedding is outdoors... One afternoon is all that is required, and it's a way to really channel your inner child... Have fun with it, and your guests will, too.
4) There's nothing I would have spent more on... Weddings are expensive enough as is, lol! But if I had been smarter with my spending on the wedding, I would have had more to spend on the honeymoon...
5) And that leads right into #5: My aunts' and uncles' advice was to be frugal on the wedding and splurge on the honeymoon, which is solid advice. The wedding lasts for just one day. Don't stress over it, simply enjoy it. Don't go traditional because you think you have to with all of the frills, only if you truly want to. The more frills you get rid of, the less stress there will be, and it won't be any less fun or memorable. Focus on the people there with you instead. This is my best advice