I think BF went ring shopping on Saturday... :)

AprilH81

So I think my BF went ring shopping on Saturday.  We have both talked about getting married this year and he is moving in to my house next month.

Friday evening he told me he had something "very important" to do at 11:00 on Saturday but he wouldn't tell me what it was (I didn't pry very much, I had my suspicions).  So Saturday morning he is still there at 11:00 so I ask, "Don't you have somewhere to be?" then he slightly changes his story to the thing was "around 11:00".  lol

When we first started talking about getting married I showed him a picture of what I liked and told hime that a few of our friends had the picture.  That way if he wants it to be a complete surprise he can still get guidance from them.  

I had a nightmare last night that he bought a ring that I absolutely hated.  I need to calm down and trust that he listened to what I told him months ago and that he knows my taste.

s-aries8990

That's exciting! Just remember, it'll happen when it happens

Peaseblossom55

He also could have been shopping for a pony...
Don't dwell on it, just relax.  MY FI held onto the ring for 3 months before he proposed, I know some women on here waiting even longer knowing their BF/FI had the ring.

buddysmom80

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[QUOTE]<strong>He also could have been shopping for a pony...</strong> Don't dwell on it, just relax.  MY FI held onto the ring for 3 months before he proposed, I know some women on here waiting even longer knowing their BF/FI had the ring.
Posted by danser55[/QUOTE]

This made me laugh out loud.

Peaseblossom55

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: I think BF went ring shopping on Saturday... :) : This made me laugh out loud.
Posted by buddysmom80[/QUOTE]

I try :-)

Hummingbird125

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[QUOTE]He also could have been shopping for a pony...
Posted by danser55[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>I'd <strong>totally </strong>take a pony in lieu of a ring.

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bethsmiles

That's great! Now convince yourself that he wasn't ring shopping or you'll drive yourself mad trying to figure out when he's going to propose.

AprilH81

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[QUOTE]That's great! Now convince yourself that he wasn't ring shopping or you'll drive yourself mad trying to figure out when he's going to propose.
Posted by bethsmiles[/QUOTE]

<div>I've driven myself crazy since we agreed we were going to get married.  lol  We had the initial discusion of "yes we are going to do this" back around New Year's and our original timeline was for us to be married by early summer.  I was pretty bummed that he hadn't proposed and we were going to miss that self imposed "deadline" (wrong word, but I think you know what I mean).</div><div>
</div><div>Another Knottie posted a picture of her ring recently and it is very similar to what I showed him back in February or so.  I'm hoping for an oval cut with a halo on a thin band.  <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-smile.gif" border="0" alt="Smile" title="Smile" /></div>

bethsmiles

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: I think BF went ring shopping on Saturday... :) : I've driven myself crazy since we agreed we were going to get married.  lol  We had the initial discusion of "yes we are going to do this" back around New Year's and our original timeline was for us to be married by early summer.  I was pretty bummed that he hadn't proposed and we were going to miss that self imposed "deadline" (wrong word, but I think you know what I mean). Another Knottie posted a picture of her ring recently and it is very similar to what I showed him back in February or so.  I'm hoping for an oval cut with a halo on a thin band.  
Posted by AprilH81[/QUOTE]

You're setting yourself up for disappointment when you have deadlines in your head. Trust me, I've done the same thing. You'll be a lot happier if you stop dwelling on the engagement. It will happen when it's supposed to.

kjtollefson

I'm in almost the exact same boat. We went ring shopping for the first time the week before Valentines Day, found THE ring by the end of February, and now I'm dying of nerves! We even went on vacation together in March (where I was *certain* he was going to pop the question), but my BF loves to see me squirm, so he kept almost-proposing the whole trip (like saying he had a question to ask me, getting down on one knee, then just tying his shoelaces)! Now, I don't think it's going to happen in the next few weeks--he's finishing up a semester of his grad program, so finals would be a terribly stressful time to get engaged--but knowing that it's going to happen is driving me insane (good insane, of course, but I can't help but feel weird for wanting to plan a wedding that I don't have a ring on my finger for!)

Belle2188

Congratulations.  I hope you're right, but you really need to force this out of your mind.  Like one of the previous posters said, convince yourself he had something else to do.  It will drive you crazy thinking about it, especially if you're wrong and/or still have a long time to wait.

bethsmiles

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[QUOTE]I'm in almost the exact same boat. We went ring shopping for the first time the week before Valentines Day, found THE ring by the end of February, and now I'm dying of nerves! We even went on vacation together in March (where I was *certain* he was going to pop the question), <strong>but my BF loves to see me squirm, so he kept almost-proposing the whole trip (like saying he had a question to ask me, getting down on one knee, then just tying his shoelaces)! </strong> Now, I don't think it's going to happen in the next few weeks--he's finishing up a semester of his grad program, so finals would be a terribly stressful time to get engaged--but knowing that it's going to happen is driving me insane (good insane, of course, but I can't help but feel weird for wanting to plan a wedding that I don't have a ring on my finger for!)
Posted by kjtollefson[/QUOTE]

I hope that's something your okay with but I would be pissed if my BF acted like a jerk our whole vacation just so he could get a laugh out of it.

kjtollefson

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: I think BF went ring shopping on Saturday... :) : I hope that's something your okay with but I would be pissed if my BF acted like a jerk our whole vacation just so he could get a laugh out of it.
Posted by bethsmiles[/QUOTE]



I'm okay with it because we love to joke around with each other and we had already discussed that getting proposed to at a restaurant just isn't my cup of tea (I'm a low-key gal, so public proposals--while I like watching videos of them on youtube!--aren't ideal for me) so when he pulled that at dinner, I knew something wasn't quite right haha. What's killing me is that I know he has the ring, it's just a matter of when!

thejucheidea

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[QUOTE]He also could have been shopping for a pony... Don't dwell on it, just relax.  MY FI held onto the ring for 3 months before he proposed, I know some women on here waiting even longer knowing their BF/FI had the ring.
Posted by danser55[/QUOTE]

I think I hold the record with the year and a half my fiance held onto my ring.

kelley198721

That's awesome news! But like others said, try not to think about it too much or you'll drive yourself crazy

Shiroyasha

I agree with the PPs.  Don't keep dwelling on it or you'll drive yourself nuts. And even if he did get it, there's no guarantee he'll pop the question right away.  For right now, just enjoy learning to live together.

AprilH81

Wow...  A lot of you guys are real downers.  I realize that IF he did go ring shopping on Saturday and IF he actually made a purchase that it can still be awhile before he proposes.  

I realize this is an internet forum and not everyone is going to agree with me, but I am surprised that so many posters are so quick to say "Don't get your hopes up." or "Live in the moment." or another similar sentiment.  Can't I just be excited that I *think* my BF went ring shopping?

I understand why it is wrong/not a good idea to pre-plan a wedding, but I see so many posters who get completely blind sided by negative posts when they are excited or just need to vent (like my post a few weeks ago).  Some of the regulars are just so quick to tell a newbie to chill out and I think maybe some of you may want to take your own advice.

Hummingbird125

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[QUOTE]Wow...  A lot of you guys are real downers.  I realize that IF he did go ring shopping on Saturday and IF he actually made a purchase that it can still be awhile before he proposes.   I realize this is an internet forum and not everyone is going to agree with me, but I am surprised that so many posters are so quick to say "Don't get your hopes up." or "Live in the moment." or another similar sentiment.  Can't I just be excited that I *think* my BF went ring shopping? I understand why it is wrong/not a good idea to pre-plan a wedding, but I see so many posters who get completely blind sided by negative posts when they are excited or just need to vent (like my post a few weeks ago).  Some of the regulars are just so quick to tell a newbie to chill out and I think maybe some of you may want to take your own advice. :/
Posted by AprilH81[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>Yes, you can be excited at the possibility. However, many of the regulars here know (from personal experience!), that even once the ring is bought - and you don't know that it has been - it can be a long wait. No one has been negative, they just want you to manage your expectations so that you don't drive yourself crazy (and drive your boyfriend crazy).</div><div>
</div><div>Personally, I'm waiting to hear back from a job I interviewed for last week. I have been mentally driving myself crazy for the past few days, and it gets worse almost every hour. I'm imagining the potential new salary, planning out my schedule, and salivating at the thought of quitting my current job. If I thought my BF had bought an engagement ring - I cannot even imagine how psycho I'd be. I think it would have to be at least 3 times what I feel like right now.</div><div>
</div><div>All this is to say - no one here has to tell you it's okay to be excited - you're going to do that all on your own. We're here to remind you to relax, and to focus on the relationship you have right now!</div><div>
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beanbot2002

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[QUOTE]Wow...  A lot of you guys are real downers.  I realize that IF he did go ring shopping on Saturday and IF he actually made a purchase that it can still be awhile before he proposes.   I realize this is an internet forum and not everyone is going to agree with me, but I am surprised that so many posters are so quick to say "Don't get your hopes up." or "Live in the moment." or another similar sentiment.  Can't I just be excited that I *think* my BF went ring shopping? I understand why it is wrong/not a good idea to pre-plan a wedding, but I see so many posters who get completely blind sided by negative posts when they are excited or just need to vent (like my post a few weeks ago).  Some of the regulars are just so quick to tell a newbie to chill out and I think maybe some of you may want to take your own advice. :/
Posted by AprilH81[/QUOTE]

Well, if you had lurked, you'd know that this is what we tell all the gals when they think that BF may have purchased the rings. We say it to the new gals, and the ones we've developed incredible friendships with.

No one is trying to be a Debbie Downer. Everyone is trying to make sure that you don't lose your mind during this time.

I know my BF was looking at rings about a year ago. Guess what? No ring yet. We've been talking about marriage for over a year. No ring yet. I know we have certain goals that we would idealy like to meet before the ring appears, but in the end it has to be up to him as to 'when'.

Just take a deep breath and enjoy this exciting time, while not focusing soley on "when's the ring coming?!?!?" That's all anyone here is saying.

peekaboo2011

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: I think BF went ring shopping on Saturday... :) : Well, if you had lurked, you'd know that this is what we tell all the gals when they think that BF may have purchased the rings. We say it to the new gals, a<strong>nd the ones we've developed incredible friendships with.</strong> No one is trying to be a Debbie Downer. Everyone is trying to make sure that you don't lose your mind during this time. I know my BF was looking at rings about a year ago. Guess what? No ring yet. We've been talking about marriage for over a year. No ring yet. I know we have certain goals that we would idealy like to meet before the ring appears, but in the end it has to be up to him as to 'when'. Just take a deep breath and enjoy this exciting time, while not focusing soley on "when's the ring coming?!?!?" That's all anyone here is saying.
Posted by beanbot2002[/QUOTE]

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</div><div>I think I spent a month telling Bean to calm down.  We're basically BFFs.</div><div>
</div><div>April,  I just went back and pulled your post from a few weeks ago.  Did you talk to your BF?  Did you guys talk about the issues you were having?</div>

AprilH81

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: I think BF went ring shopping on Saturday... :) : I think I spent a month telling Bean to calm down.  We're basically BFFs. April,  I just went back and pulled your post from a few weeks ago.  Did you talk to your BF?  Did you guys talk about the issues you were having?
Posted by peekaboo2011[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>My post from a few weeks ago was purely meant as a  vent.  BF and I have not had any specific wedding related conversations but a lot of "when we are married" comments relating to our future together.</div><div>
</div><div>Those comments from BF go a long way towards "calming me down" because for a few weeks I was feeling like I was being strung along since the proposal had not happened on the timeline I thought we had both agreed on.  He is sooooo super laid back and just does things on his own schedule which even on day-to-day items is not my schedule.</div><div>
</div><div>I have been lurking here for several months and I am starting to post every now and then.  I understand the regs trying to talk people off of the ledge about having weddings pre-planned, but I just feel bad when I see newbies being told to just "calm down" or "it will happen when it happens" or other similar phrase.  Sometimes we all just need a place to vent that won't make our BFs or friends view us a a potential brizezilla.  When we vent it is impossible, no matter how long the post, to give the boards every singe little detail of why we are frustrated so I think a little sympathy and encouragement would be helpful along with some real life experience of "Hey, it took my BF a year to propose after he bought the ring."  KWIM?</div><div>
</div><div>At the risk of sounding like a two year old throwing a temper tantrum, I just don't think this is the friendliest board for newbies.  </div><div>
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beanbot2002

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: I think BF went ring shopping on Saturday... :) : My post from a few weeks ago was purely meant as a  vent.  BF and I have not had any specific wedding related conversations but a lot of "when we are married" comments relating to our future together. Those comments from BF go a long way towards "calming me down" because for a few weeks I was feeling like I was being strung along since the proposal had not happened on the timeline I thought we had both agreed on.  He is sooooo super laid back and just does things on his own schedule which even on day-to-day items is not my schedule. I have been lurking here for several months and I am starting to post every now and then.  I understand the regs trying to talk people off of the ledge about having weddings pre-planned, but I just feel bad when I see newbies being told to just "calm down" or "it will happen when it happens" or other similar phrase.  Sometimes we all just need a place to vent that won't make our BFs or friends view us a a potential brizezilla.  When we vent it is impossible, no matter how long the post, to give the boards every singe little detail of why we are frustrated so I think a little sympathy and encouragement would be helpful <strong>along with some real life experience of "Hey, it took my BF a year to propose after he bought the ring."  KWIM?</strong> At the risk of sounding like a two year old throwing a temper tantrum, I just don't think this is the friendliest board for newbies.  
Posted by AprilH81[/QUOTE]

But, um...you did get that. From what I read most gals said "That's exciting! Keep calm and enjoy this time. So and so's BF (or my BF) had the ring for 3 months/ 1 year/ 1.5 years, before he proposed."

So I'm not exactly sure what you have an issue with. You're complaining that we said what you wanted us to say?

peekaboo2011

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: I think BF went ring shopping on Saturday... :) : <strong>My post from a few weeks ago was purely meant as a  vent.</strong>  BF and I have not had any specific wedding related conversations but a lot of "when we are married" comments relating to our future together. Those comments from BF go a long way towards "calming me down" because for a few weeks I was feeling like I was being strung along since the proposal had not happened on the timeline I thought we had both agreed on.  He is sooooo super laid back and just does things on his own schedule which even on day-to-day items is not my schedule. I have been lurking here for several months and I am starting to post every now and then.  I understand the regs trying to talk people off of the ledge about having weddings pre-planned, but I just feel bad when I see newbies being told to just "calm down" or "it will happen when it happens" or other similar phrase.  Sometimes we all just need a place to vent that won't make our BFs or friends view us a a potential brizezilla.  When we vent it is impossible, no matter how long the post, to give the boards every singe little detail of why we are frustrated so I think<strong> a little sympathy and encouragement would be helpful along with some real life experience of "Hey, it took my BF a year to propose after he bought the ring."  KWIM? </strong>At the risk of sounding like a two year old throwing a temper tantrum, I just don't think this is the friendliest board for newbies.  
Posted by AprilH81[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>Be that as it may, you brought up some serious issues that you were having - that you weren't comfortable moving in together before you were at the very least, engaged.  Sweeping those under the rug isn't going to magically make him propose.  </div><div>
</div><div>And you got exactly what you wanted.  People told you that it could take a while.  There used to be a woman who posted here (Acrosthec) whose now H had the ring on their dresser in plain sight, without a proposal, for over a year. </div><div>
</div><div>As far as this being or not being a friendly board for newbies, after your first post, several posters suggested you get some wine and hang out with us and talk about non-wedding related things.  If that's not friendly, I don't know what is.</div>

thejucheidea

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: I think BF went ring shopping on Saturday... :) : When we vent it is impossible, no matter how long the post, to give the boards every singe little detail of why we are frustrated so I think a little sympathy and encouragement would be helpful along with some real life experience of "Hey, it took my BF a year to propose after he bought the ring."  
Posted by AprilH81[/QUOTE]

It took my boyfriend a year and a half after getting my ring. It was hard, but I knew the engagement was coming. It sucked, but the ladies here kept me sane. Don't get your hopes too far up. Yeah, he might have bought a ring and he might propose today, who knows. Keep in your mind that it could also be a long damn time until you get the ring and enjoy your relationship as it is now because you will grow as a person if you embrace the current state of your relationship.

Is that enough real life experience for you?

Belle2188

I truly don't believe that anyone is trying to rain on your parade.  I'm new here too, and quite honestly, I appreciate that the regs on this board don't just smile and send virtual hugs.  I know for a fact my boyfriend is in the market for a ring, and the last thing I need when I come here is to hear how exciting it is.  I already know it's exciting, and if I want a hug and a list of reasons to pre-plan, my mom is there for that.  What I need/get/appreciate here is a good reality check so I don't drive my crazy train right off the tracks.

The advice given on this board is not intended to hurt or discourage new posters--it is intended to give us a little perspective and keep us from going off the deep end.  Consider that before you attack people that are trying to help you...

paigalx20

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_i-think-bf-went-ring-shopping-on-saturday?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:0a7770f3-bb96-49bc-96a6-d7f71d669cccPost:834e0d0c-3602-4901-8a8a-ccf3526e5a81">Re: I think BF went ring shopping on Saturday... :)</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: I think BF went ring shopping on Saturday... :) : My post from a few weeks ago was purely meant as a  vent.  BF and I have not had any specific wedding related conversations but a lot of "when we are married" comments relating to our future together. Those comments from BF go a long way towards "calming me down" because for a few weeks I was feeling like I was being strung along since the proposal had not happened on the timeline I thought we had both agreed on.  He is sooooo super laid back and just does things on his own schedule which even on day-to-day items is not my schedule. I have been lurking here for several months and I am starting to post every now and then.  I understand the regs trying to talk people off of the ledge about having weddings pre-planned, but I just feel bad when I see newbies being told to just "calm down" or "it will happen when it happens" or other similar phrase.  Sometimes we all just need a place to vent that won't make our BFs or friends view us a a potential brizezilla.  When we vent it is impossible, no matter how long the post, to give the boards every singe little detail of why we are frustrated so I think a little sympathy and encouragement would be helpful along with some real life experience of "Hey, it took my BF a year to propose after he bought the ring."  KWIM? At the risk of sounding like a two year old throwing a temper tantrum, I just don't think this is the friendliest board for newbies.  
Posted by AprilH81[/QUOTE]

First. I have to agree with you 100% on this not being the most friendly of pages for newbies...i think ill just stick to browsing due to some peoples rude remarks.

second. I think that when a guy knows he wants to marry you he should man up and ask. if he waits around for a year after buying the ring maybe he needs a kick in the behind (or more of an ultimatum, and yes i think those are ok) and maybe hes the one thats doing the asking but its your life too..and if you have been together for 4 years and know you want to be together...what the heck is he waiting for?

and as for the excitement? I think its so normal and okay to be excited and anyone who can actually come down from that excitement by choice has some kind of super human power...