How did you know?

RebekahSnyder

New to chit-chat, and I thought this would work as a chit-chat post.

How did you know your FI was "the one" or "mr. right" or however you want to put it?

I knew about 3 months before we got engaged. It was our one year anniversary and we were eating pizza at the same place we had our first date. We spent the better part of the evening make goofy faces at each other and laughing so much that our stomach hurts and then we went back to his place to watch some TV on Netflix and cuddle with our "furry children" (two rat terrier sisters we adopted together) and I thought

"If everything in my life disappears and all I have left is him, I would still be happy".

I told him that I planned on marrying him someday and that he should know that. He laughed and said "well don't I have to propose first?" He proposed 3 months later with a beautiful vintage white gold and diamond ring.

So when did you know? looking forward to hearing all your love stories!

AddieCake

I knew when he missed his flight to come see me one Christmas. There were no other flights for a few days, so he bought a GPS, hopped in his car, and drove all night from VA to TX so he could be there for Christmas.

MrsGandthebeag

When he helped me care for my dying father, I knew he was the one.

ohmrs2014

We were fresh into our relationship, about 6 months and I was admitted to the hospital for a flu-like virus.  He was there everyday from 8am to 8pm.  I knew then that he was a keeper.

RebekahSnyder

Addie, our anniversary is also March 24th! 2 years this year! Well for dating at least, we will be getting married in the fall of 2014 most likely!

kjlamb

When he said he wouldn't leave me just because I have epilepsy and dont drive becase of it. 

ravenray

There wasn't one moment for me, more like a collection of the good times and the bad time while being together.  I'm a little jealous of people with that once special moment but I probably knew around a year to a year and a half in, maybe two years.  I know at about 2 ½ years I joined TK.

MoonlightSilver

I knew from long before this happened, but it really was cemented into me when he held my hair as I actively puked into the toilet, a day after he had just gotten over the same horrible stomach bug. 

ETA: This definitely makes me feel very romantic.

peekaboo2011

I'm not engaged yet, but I had an inkling he was a keeper on our first date.  He spent a long time researching restaurants, and asked twice as many questions as I did about gluten free.  Since our first date was also the day after my birthday, he got me a gift.  A dozen gluten free chocolate lava Georgetown cupcakes.

For Christmas a couple weeks later, he made sure he got the David Attenborough editions of Life and Planet Earth for me.

The one that sealed the deal for me though was when he visited me the first time in FL.  I was down on an unpaid internship, it wasn't working out with the family I was renting from, so he decided to fly down and surprise me.  The family wouldn't let us stay in the same room, so we got a hotel room. I tried to take him out to a nice dinner, but when we saw the GF menu had dry chicken and baked potato with no butter for $40, he insisted we leave.  We ended up going to the grocery store and picking up microwave pad thai, and watching netflix all night.  He maintains that it was one of his favorite dates.  For me, it was the fact that he put my health and happiness above his own that touched me.

MoonlightSilver

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_how-did-you-know?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:07ca4549-2c0e-463e-b170-f679325367e3Post:d6caf3e5-97dd-4093-a46e-e9d82cddeabe">Re: How did you know?</a>:
[QUOTE]I'm not engaged yet, but I had an inkling he was a keeper on our first date.  He spent a long time researching restaurants, and <strong>asked twice as many questions as I did about gluten free.</strong>  Since our first date was also the day after my birthday, he got me a gift.  A dozen gluten free chocolate lava Georgetown cupcakes. For Christmas a couple weeks later, he made sure he got the David Attenborough editions of Life and Planet Earth for me. The one that sealed the deal for me though was when he visited me the first time in FL.  I was down on an unpaid internship, it wasn't working out with the family I was renting from, so he decided to fly down and surprise me.  The family wouldn't let us stay in the same room, so we got a hotel room. I tried to take him out to a nice dinner, but when we saw the GF menu had dry chicken and baked potato with no butter for $40, he insisted we leave.  We ended up going to the grocery store and picking up microwave pad thai, and watching netflix all night.  He maintains that it was one of his favorite dates.  For me, it was the fact that he put my health and happiness above his own that touched me.
Posted by peekaboo2011[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>My H asked me the other day, "Who has the allergies?" because I worry about his food so so much and always ask a ton of questions, while he's a lot more chill about it. 

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TKzilla

He walked into class on the first day and I was like "Dibs."

Apparently that totally works.

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Six weeks into dating we were in a really bad car accident. He was alright but I fractured my pelvis in four places and sustained a concussion with an open gash on the back of my head. He stabilized me until the ambulance arrived and stuck by my side at the hospital, irritating the staff to no end because he refused to leave. He officially met my family while I was getting x-rays and asked that he stay and help me. He temporarily moved in with me and became my caretaker. He drove me to and from school, wheeled me to class, made sure I had my medication and food, slept on my bedroom floor to help me get to the restroom whenever I needed it and took me to all my doctor and physical therapy appointments until I learned to walk again.

It was kind of a no brainer when he proposed. I can't wait to become his wife.

Peaseblossom55

I don't have a specific moment but it was sometime between Christmas and when went to the bahamas the first time together. It was definitely within 6 months of the start of our relationship.

winelover123

No specific moment. FI moved in with my parents and I after 3 months of dating because he had no place to go. If I had to specify a moment, it would be the first few times that FI held me until I went to sleep then went into his own bed (we were all proper and stuff while living with my parents). It was just so sweet - especially because it takes me 45 minutes to fall asleep.

egeurts

I don't have a specific moment that I can remember when I first knew he was the one. I did find an excellent quote that describes how I feel about love and "the one"(even though I hate the book) from Pride and Prejudice- "I cannot fix on the hour, or the spot, or the look, or the words, which laid the foundation. It is too long ago. I was in the middle before I knew that I had begun."
However, there is one instance that reaffirms why he is the one. My husband and I had an almost 5 year engagement. We have been together since 2005, he proposed in Sept 2007, and this instance happened in Dec 2008. So, it's not the first moment I knew he was the one, because we'd already been together for years, I already knew I was going to marry him, there was never any doubt by this point. But nonetheless, I have to share:
 I woke up in the hospital. The clock on the wall said it was 4 am. I had no idea where I was, what day it was, why I was there, or what was going on. There was a white dry-erase board, and the calendar on it said I had been there for at least 4 days. There were balloons and flowers. I had no idea what was happening. I was terrified. I look over to my right, and there's my FI (now husband), sleeping on the couch, feet dangling off one end, head dangling off the other, snoring. Just seeing him there, too big for the couch, clearly uncomfortable, but there- and obviously having been there for however long I had been- made it all ok. I rolled over and went back to sleep.(It turns out I had a brain infection that was making me have seizures and affecting my memory. I was treated and released after about a week, but as a result have epilepsy and continue to struggle with seizures)

jenajjthr

The moment I knew was a very sad day for H.  We started dating beginning of April a couple years ago.  I was getting out of an abusive marriage, he lost his first wife.  We had reconnected through Facebook (knew each other in high school, never dated) and started talking about a month before our first date.  We discovered we had a ton in common and really like being with each other, but both of us knew it was too soon for anything serious.  His mom flew out to Denver to see a granddaughter graduate high school.   She ended up having health issues and the Dr out there told her to see her Dr when she got back to KC.  She ended up having heart problems and needed surgery which she had in June.  She made it through the surgery fine, but ended up with a clot that went to her brain.  She was on life support for a few days before H and his brother decided to take her off life support per her living will.  She died later that night.  

I spent a lot of time with him during that time.  On the day of the funeral I was with him at the church but didn't try to push my way into anything, I kind of became a wall flower that day.  While standing in one area I watched him sitting and talking to the family priest.  At that moment my heart ached with love for him and what he was going through.  I knew in that moment that whatever life may bring, I wanted him in my life.  

I guess God/Fate/whatever you believe in thought so too.  A year later my sister passed away and I was devastated.  He was there by my side and was my strength when I thought I couldn't give any more.  

QueerFemme

When I woke up the morning after what I expected to be a short fling and could have easily been the "walk of shame" and found my partner curled up with my boxer.

BulgariHeart

The moment I saw him I knew. We had a fairy tale "love at first sight" moment when we met. When I got back home that night I rushed to tell my mom I had just met my other half. That was almost 17 years ago

zantster

When he bought me a Lego set just because I casually mentioned them that I liked them as a kid.  And I could tell he took time to wrap the box in the most beautiful paper and was anxious to see my reaction.

rajahmd

Less then two weeks into our relationship, we went to a bar with some med school friends of mine. A friend and I were walking to the bathroom when I slipped on a puddle and dislocated my knee. He was at my side almost instantly. He practically carried me to his car since I couldn't walk (even though I weighed a lot more than him). He then stayed the night at my house for the next few days to take care of me, bringing me food, helping me to the bathroom, and even helping me shower since I couldn't stand on my own.  When I was still having trouble a few days later, he drove me to the doctor and then to an ER to get me taken care of.  That's when I knew he was the one for me.  And he's been even better since then, taking great care of me when I had surgery in January. Can't wait for November!

BostonGIrl4732

FI's parents threatened to disown him and never speak to him again if he moved to be with me.  He told them to shove it and basically risked his relationship with his entire family.  I was the most important person to him and I realized that he was that person for me too.  We now live together in the area his parents were so opposed to.  His parents were bluffing, so win-win!

glitterunicorn13

When he was my friend and my friend only while I was going through an unhealthy relationship.  He was patient and caring, he was just my sweet "guy friend"... the entire time wishing for me to care for him as more than a friend... 

Then one day (after the other relationship had ended) He said, "You know I think you have a beautiful spirit, and you are the ONLY woman that I would even consider marrying after my wife passed away."  Since I knew his wife, as they had both been friends of mine for years and years, THAT was a huge compliment...(NOTE: his wife passed away from breast cancer, and my ex got very sick with combat related PTSD and began a long set of affairs- the man I had married basically died as well...we had all been couple friends but had not talked in a few years) 

He confided later that he had actually written a date on his calendar and it said "Marry Michelle"..... HE KNEW, well before I did, he said... AND, truly he is/was everything I wanted, but I was trying to just be friends with him, until my 16 year old, said, "Mom, WHY do you not give 'Mr. Texas' a chance?"

So, it was like...... DUH!!!!!  THERE HE IS, you silly girl..... MR. Texas!!!!  I sure love him!

suzie211

I think it was pretty early in our relationship when I realized FI was the person I wanted to marry.   We had been dating about 3 weeks when I was supposed to head to WI on a weekend snowboarding trip.   On Thursday night before the trip, I was heading to Southern IN for a customer meeting and got a phone call from my mom saying my dad was in the ICU and they weren't sure what's wrong with him.  So I turned my car around and drove back a couple hours to my parents.

Friday night FI surprised me with a phone call.  Thinking I was in the car headed to WI he wanted to call and tell me to have a good time.  He remembered that I had limit cell service at the lodge and really wanted to talk to me.   He was horrified when he found out that my family was sitting in the ICU with no answers.  He called everday that we were there to check on my family and I.  He let me vent to him, and was so concerned with my family's wellbeing I knew he was someone special.

The following Wednesday my dad was transfer to another hospital that could handle his care better.   FI and I talked a lot that night.  It hit me the following morning that it had been his birthday and not once did it come up in conversation.   I'm pretty sure it was then that I realized he cared about me more than himself, and I knew I really wanted to be with him.

My mother was already in love with the idea of him being her FSIL, and made it very clear after my dad's hospital stint that she would be very unhappy if he wasn't in my life.  I knew I wasn't going to dissappoint her:)

ally91

The very first moment I saw him.
I was 8 years old, passed him in our church hallway, and literally gasped. I thought "I'm gonna marry him."  I had passed it off as a silly little girl thing, but I never dated anyone else, I was always secretly waiting for him.
14 years later, and we're getting married in June.