What traits do you hope your children will inherit?

TKzilla

This is coming from Pele's thread about family traits, and also the jokes between FI and me about what we think our children will be like.

I hope at least one gets his eyes. They're blue-grey and awesome. I always wanted blue eyes when I was a kid. But I hope they get my lips. I got fat lips and FI doesn't have much lips at all. Maybe it'll average out to normal lips.

I hope ALL of my children will love to read, but I hope one turns out to be good in math. I'm stupid with math (pretty much can't count lol) but FI is really good at it, and I know he wants to help with math homework and stuff. 

I think most of all, I hope our kids get our quick wit and big heart. I know they won't be perfect (because they have half my DNA, duh) but I hope I will raise some decent kids.

rel1988

Definitely FI's athletic abilities. He is a great basketball player and ammmmazing golfer. He's been asked to try out for PGA, he's that good but it's way too expensive. I definitely lack in that department but I'm musically inclined and can play a couple instuments so I hope they learn how to read music too.

I hope they take after me and love to read and write. I'm not good at math either so I have they take over FI's skills in that category.

We look pretty different so I think our kids are going to have to look more like one or the other. I have blue and he has green eyes so I know I'll be lucky in that category because I love light colored eyes.

As far as personalities I hope they are funny and witty...I'm more outgoing so I hope they are too. FI is much more calm and easygoing so I hope they inherit that from him.

wittykitty14

What a fantastic thread!

From me: I hope my children inherit my blue eyes (passed down through the family), my motivation and need for organization, my musical skills (FI has 'em too!), self-awareness, my spontaneous ability to get happy and amused by anything.

From FI: His patience, his ability to see the positive in everything, his sense of humor, his dedication and love of others, his love of reading, his adorably awesome sci-fi geekery, a passion for martial arts (FI and I both do this).  He has awesome complexion and hair because of his heritage (Vietnamese/Puerto Rican/White).  His level of respect is amazing.

What do I NOT want to get passed down?

From me: Being stubborn, my struggles with mental illness. I pray that they don't go through what I've had to go through.

From FI: He doesn't like to accept help from people, or ask, even if he knows it might be necessary.  His desire for ridiculously long showers.  Schoolwork habits.  I want my kids to do their homework!

Peaseblossom55

I hope our children get FI's eyes they are such a bright blue.  He is also really smart so I hope they inherit his brains.
I hope our children inherit my love for the arts, dancing, singing, and theater.  I hope they are kind caring and good people like the both of us are.

I don't want passed down FI's procratination, that's really the only thing from him I could think of.

I tend to be a bit high strung and easily overwhelmed so I wouldn't want that for our children.

daubachsgirl23

My taste in music and H's athletic abilities.  I also hope he/she gets H's loving nature and my sense of humor.

BostonGIrl4732

FI and I are both amazing at math, so I really hope our kids are good at math too.  I love to read, so that's be nice.  I hope they get FI's amazing green eyes.  They are pretty much guarenteed to have dark hair (no questions there).  I hope they get his health (not his moodiness though), my matabolism (not my anxiety though), and that they are a mix of his best parts and mine.  Oh, and I hope they have FI's musical ability.  He's amazing at whatever he plays.

thejucheidea

I hope they get his luscious hair. Seriously, I have no idea where the man gets his hair. It's absolutely insane. I have extremely fine hair and wish I could have the copious amounts he has.

He hopes that they get my green eyes because he doesn't like his brown eyes.

I hope they get our joint nerdiness, my Wanderlust, my affinity and love for foreign language, the ability to read music easily and his calmness. I hope they don't pick up on his love of puns because I can only handle so much of that :x.

OliveOilsMom

Red hair!  We have it on both sides of our family, so there will be a good shot at having red headed babies!

Jessa617

Putting my brain to work this morning...

Hoping our child has my creativity, his ambition, his work ethic, our combined intelligence (my book smarts, and his street smarts), his eyes.

What I don't want my child to have: my short temper, my shyness, my chin, his nose (not that there's anything wrong with it, but he hates it).

Maggie0829

I always joke that if H and I have a kid it will come out looking like Cousin It with really broad shoulders LOL!  I have a lot of hair on my head and my H is just a hairy guy and we both have huge shoulders, so that should be fun to push out

But without being silly, I do hope my kid gets my hair and skinny ankles.  I also hope that my child gets my creative/artistic nature while getting H's sense of humor and whitty comebacks.

I really hope they don't get H's procrastination/hoarding tendencies.

I do hope that our kids will have more energy and get-up-and-go attiude then either H or I have...we are lazy people LOL!

Peledreamsofrain

This is going to sound all boo hooey, but I am crossing my fingers that my kids take after me as little as possible. The only thing I would wish upon my kids from me is my rack if it's a girl, and my family's genes for height if it's a guy.

Jessa617

Pele funny you say that...my rack (or lack thereof) is what I hope my child, if a girl, does NOT get.


Maggie reminded me that I want my child to have H legs: long and slender!

NYCMercedes

I'm a Mom with brides and grooms so it's sort of too late for me. I see my bad traits in my kids already. However, I just had to share that I really wanted little ear lobes for my kids. My H has giant ear lobes and I have tiny (none), so that is what I wanted for my babies. Also, nobody in my family can sing, so I didn't wantthat for them. One fortunately got a singing gene from H's side.

MuppetFan

Hm. I hope my kids inheirit my geekiness and love for Muppets.

I have no physical traits I'm dying to pass on.

Jessa617

I do hope my child inherits my skin. I have really good skin, as does my mom so hopefully my child gets that too.

Peledreamsofrain

Actually, it's pretty funny, but H and I have already joked quite a bit about our kids inheriting tallness from both of us. My family has more than 7 guys over 6'5. One of my cousins is 6'8. H is 6'3. We figure our retirement is taken care of as soon as we produce an NBA star or NFL linebacker.

artbyallie

I want twins. There have been sets on both sides, so maybe I have a chance.

We both want at least one kid to get my blue eyes instead of his brown, to keep some kind of legacy from my family going. His brother has green, so it's a possibility, I think. I'm sure he wants them to get his family's height, though. He's 6'3" and the shortest person in his immediate family is his 5'9" sister. My family is relatively short.

We're also both hoping our kids are nerds rather than jocks. Not that there's anything wrong with sports, but I'm not sure either of us would know what to do with an athlete unless they play basketball like he did.

glitterunicorn13

I already have all the kids I am going to get, with the exception of my lovely steps I am about to get.... and I hope I pass on my MOXIE..... Yeah.

harper0813

ahstillwell, I love the phrase "his luscious hair". I laughed at that. I hope they get luscious hair, too!

I hope at least one of our kids inherits my love of music. My dad has perfect pitch but stopped playing piano a while ago (I bet he could still play Canon in D if he tried, though - he used to sit down and play it about once a month until I was around 10). I don't know if perfect pitch is inherited, but I have to too, and I would be so happy if one of our kids had it. And if one of them sang. I will be singing to them all the time (I sing to our dog, for heaven's sakes) so I hope they're never afraid to sing, too. Hopefully they inherit HIS brain, though, because he's very mathematically inclined, as an engineer. I studied languages and I rarely use what I learned.

I'd like them to inherit FI's blonde hair. I want blonde babies. FI jokes that I'll drown them if they come out brunette (like me), because his own mom made that joke to scare her mother in law. I'd like them to inherit our freckles, too.

I do NOT want them to inherit my eyebrows (I have thick, BLACK eyebrows which clash with my light brown hair) and I would prefer that they didn't have ADD like FI. But I will love them, support them, and help them if they do have ADD. And I don't want our hypothetical daughter to have scoliosis like me.

bunni727

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[QUOTE]ahstillwell, I love the phrase "his luscious hair". I laughed at that. I hope they get luscious hair, too! I hope at least one of our kids inherits my love of music. My dad has perfect pitch but stopped playing piano a while ago (I bet he could still play Canon in D if he tried, though - he used to sit down and play it about once a month until I was around 10). I don't know if perfect pitch is inherited, but I have to too, and I would be so happy if one of our kids had it. And if one of them sang. I will be singing to them all the time (I sing to our dog, for heaven's sakes) so I hope they're never afraid to sing, too. Hopefully they inherit HIS brain, though, because he's very mathematically inclined, as an engineer. I studied languages and I rarely use what I learned. I'd like them to inherit FI's blonde hair. I want blonde babies. FI jokes that I'll drown them if they come out brunette (like me), because his own mom made that joke to scare her mother in law. I'd like them to inherit our freckles, too. I<strong> do NOT want them to inherit my eyebrows (</strong>I have thick, BLACK eyebrows which clash with my light brown hair) and I would prefer that they didn't have ADD like FI. But I will love them, support them, and help them if they do have ADD. And I don't want our hypothetical daughter to have scoliosis like me.
Posted by zoberg[/QUOTE]

Oh goodness, do I have some wonky eyebrows. They are pointed. So pointed that old people I don't know have licked their fingers and tried to smooth them down. Ewwww. I wouldn't wish that on anyone, especially my kids.

I hope they get our patience and desire for knowledge. Generally, I just hope they are happy.

cwaggoner07

H and I are shockingly healthy, (knock on wood). Even though he was born at 24 weeks, we both have strong immune systems, rarely get sick, and just in general have very few health issues. I realize since we're both 30ish that could change, but we have been free and clear of medical problems since we were born. I've been to the doctor even for just antibiotics maybe twice my whole life.

I would love to have strong healthy babies.

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I want the kids to have FI's great hair and tiger eyes. His calm demeanor as well. He says that he wants a mini-me. I was a pretty sweet kid, not bragging, I just remember when I was little making consious decisions about being polite and quiet. Babysitters loved me. I have a temper now which I would love to NOT pass down to the kids. FI also wants the kids to have my eyes. They were ice blue when I was little, hazel when I was in middle school, now they range mainly on what I'm wearing. We compromised on the kids having his darker skin tone (he's Portugese) and my eyes. 

Peledreamsofrain

Hrm... can I change my answer to "I hope I have a kid like my sister" without being creepy?  That girl is an obnoxiously perfect human.  She just had a perfect kid too, check out this uber-Gerberness:



Ok yes, I just did that to brag about my neice, but it's true!

perfectisboring

What a good question!

From FH: His eyes (they're the most beautiful blue), his intellect and his sense of humour. He's so quick-witted. We'd have hilarious family dinners if our kids turned out ot be that clever.

From me: My optimism, patience and...that's about it. Haha, I'm not saying there's anything wrong with my physical traits, but I'm short with big hips and unmanageable hair. I don't think my children would benefit from any of those characteristics. I would also hate to pass on my health. I have severe asthma and allergies up the wazoo.

From both of us: Our love music and playfulness. We're not planning on having children but if we did, they would have the most fun ever.

From neither of us: We have quite a few mental health issues in our family histories and our own medical histories, and we've agreed that we'd rather not pass them on.

Peledreamsofrain

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[QUOTE]She's adorable Pele.
Posted by MrsGandthebeag[/QUOTE]

Thanks :).  I knew my sis would have a gorgeous kid because she was a gerber baby herself.  I was a weird looking kid with a penchant for making hilarious faces.