Most of the E board knows the story, but to CN it, my grandmother passed rather unexpectedly nearly a month ago. There was no service and I had to stay in home in VA to take care of things here while my parents went to NJ to say last goodbyes and whatnot. So no closure for me. I haven't seen any of my extended family (grandfather, aunt and one remaining uncle) since it happened. Of course, in times such as these, everyone bands together and promises to keep in touch more, try harder to form relationships and maintain them, etc. At that point, all were planning to come to the wedding, and my mother was thrilled about it. Especially because before my grandmother passed, they weren't going to be able to come because she couldn't travel.
Since then, my grandfather has fallen a few times and now needs his knee replaced. At first it sounded like the doctors thought his heart wasn't strong enough for surgery, but they have apparently run a lot of tests and deemed him fit for a knee replacement. The surgery is scheduled for ten days before the wedding. Obviously he won't be able to attend. I won't lie to you; I cried over it. I even asked (in the heat of the moment) "Couldn't they just wait another two weeks?" I later asked FI to smack me upside the head if I ever said anything like that again. Of course I want him to be better. I just wanted him at the wedding, too.
With my grandfather having surgery, my aunt (mom's sister) will be traveling to NJ to help him during his recovery. So the line is "as long as nothing unforeseeable happens" she will attend. I have to be honest, it keeps coming off to me like "as long as he doesn't die, she'll be there" which is freaking me out. But again, I understand.
Today, my mom called her brother to see if he was coming to the wedding. After my grandmother died, he told my mom that he had written a song and would like to perform it during the wedding ceremony, and I said that was fine with me. I just needed to let the officiant and wedding musicians know. Today, he told my mom that he wouldn't be able to attend because he and his wife can't afford to take time off from work. I know that their financial situation isn't the best right now, so I understand.
But DAMMIT this sucks and I cried over it which made my mom upset and made me feel selfish because I can't expect everyone to drop their lives to come to my wedding. But I am so disappointed. I can't get perspective right now. I just keep thinking that no one from my mom's family is going to be at this wedding. It breaks my damn heart.
So someone tell me to suck it up or something.