Family out of touch, need advice!

karlipregler

So here's the story.

I've only known my mom's side of our family (her 3 sisters), but the last time I saw them was years ago. When I asked my mom if she wanted me to invite them to the wedding, she said they wouldn't come and not to bother. I don't want to make my mom irritated by inviting them since they don't get along, and I wouldn't even know how to get a hold of them without asking her. Also, I don't know how comfortable I would feel inviting them because we haven't talked. My FI and I are paying for everything ourselves, and it just seems silly to invite people that I haven't talked to or seen, even if they are my family. Any suggestions as to what I should do?

Teddy917

Sounds like you don't really want them there. So don't invite them. By the sound of it they probably won't expect an invite anyway.

AddieCake

You don't really know them. Would you even recognize them on the street? You don't know how to get ahold of them. Your mom doesn't even think it's necessary to invite them. Why is it even a question about whether or not to invite them?

karlipregler

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[QUOTE]You don't really know them. Would you even recognize them on the street? You don't know how to get ahold of them. Why is it even a question about whether or not to invite them?
Posted by AddieL73[/QUOTE]

Because I do miss them, and other than them and my parents and brother I have none of my family going.

Sierra524

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_family-out-of-touch-need-advice?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:8b1f71d4-9f77-4934-a4fb-1cf068e82379Post:810a4e3d-5c4d-4bc7-858c-7b48aaab6530">Family out of touch, need advice!</a>:
[QUOTE]So here's the story. I've only known my mom's side of our family (her 3 sisters), but the last time I saw them was years ago. When I asked my mom if she wanted me to invite them to the wedding, she said they wouldn't come and not to bother. I don't want to make my mom irritated by inviting them since they don't get along, and I wouldn't even know how to get a hold of them without asking her. Also, I don't know how comfortable I would feel inviting them because we haven't talked. My FI and I are paying for everything ourselves, and it just seems silly to invite people that I haven't talked to or seen, even if they are my family. Any suggestions as to what I should do?
Posted by karlipregler[/QUOTE]

Sounds to me you already know what you want to do. You dont have to invite them if you dont want to.

efmcc67

It sounds like you don't have a relationship with them. Moreover, inviting them could cause drama with your family who will be there. It seems better not to invite them. You could try making contact with them sometime after the wedding and re-establish a relationship. Sadly, contacting long out-of-contact family members before a wedding runs the risk of seeming gift-grabby (although I know this isn't the case!).

It's not too unusual to have small family attendance. I've invited nearly 30 family members, but FI only has his mother and his brother coming.