My FIs bday is 2 days after the wedding (which is this weekend). I ordered a birthday cake for him decorated with his favorite sports team and am bringing it out with dessert at the rehearsal dinner. He really wanted an ice cream cake at the wedding and since we weren't able to have one, I know he will be so excited. Also, his team is playing on our wedding day so he will be SUPER excited about the cake! I can't wait to bring it out and sing happy birthday to him with his closest friends and family in one room (because how often does that happen??) I told his mom my plan a few weeks ago.
Anyway, I just emailed her to tell her something about his bday, and mentioned the cake again.
She replied, "Cousin 1 called me last night to see if he and Cousin 2 could bring a cake for FI – I said yes – so you won’t have to worry about this –ok??"
ok....
1st of all, I told her a while ago that I was planning to do this, and have already paid for it.
2nd, while she's paying for a portion of the rehearsal dinner I feel like it was out of bounds for her to just make a food decision without consulting me and my family (also paying portion). (**note, i included her when i made the decision to get him a cake, even though she apparently has forgotten?) Had I not emailed her would she have even told me?
3rd, do I not have the right as his future wife to be involved in a discussion about his birthday cake at our rehearsal dinner before she "approves" it??
Maybe this seems ridiculous (and it probably is... we are 5 days away and tension is high)but FMIL has this habit of "telling" instead of "asking" and it's driving me nuts!!!!! She has a very high powered job and manages a lot of people, and a lot of times I feel like she brings that power into her relationships with us.
I don't really have a question, I just needed to vent about this so I can move past it and focus on the important stuff, like marrying the man of my dreams! I have such a bad habit of letting things get to me and I reallllllyyyy need to let this go...
