Wedding Nightmares

bahamutangel

So, I'm getting married in October, and I'm already getting the wedding nightmares. Nothing's been planned, we don't have an officiant, I'm freaking out at my FI moments before the ceremony, no one knows where they're supposed to sit or stand... I wake up in absolute terror and my FI is starting to think I'm a bit nuts. Last night our venue was the Bruins locker room... during a game.

Please tell me this is normal! Similarly, what is your worst wedding nightmare?

misssunshine17

I don't really know, but I'd guess it's because you're getting married in six months and have nothing planned. When are you planning on booking this stuff? I'm getting married 10.26.13 and I have the ceremony and reception venue, dj and photog booked. To save yourself stress, I suggest starting to book things if you have the funds.

ETA: OMG, reading fail. You mean in your DREAM nothing is planned. Ignore me while I go drink my coffee

bahamutangel

misssunshine, haha! I guess I worded that pretty poorly. We have the venue, photographer, caterer, and DJ booked. We have an officiant in the works and a back-up if we don't like that one. I have my dress, we picked out the tuxes, just sent our Save the Dates, I feel like we're in good shape, just starting to panic a little bit.

swimmy1988

My worst wedding nightmare so far is that my fi didn't show, so I had to call him on a payphone - long distance,  so in my dream I put about $4.00 worth of quarters into the phone - and he was just walking around the city where we live, completely oblivious to the day and what was supposed to happen lol.

Now since I told him that nightmare, he jokes about it. But I know he will be there lol

[Deleted User]

HaHa..our wedding is a week away and I have wedding nightmares every night! The funniest one so far is that FI showed up drunk to the ceremony and we couldn't get married because he couldn't stand up. ..he's not a big drinker I don't know where this came from lol. I just try to laught about it!

kellamity

The wedding nightmares started for me pretty much as soon as we set a date. I'd say I get one every couple weeks or so. Most recently I dreamt that I was taking pictures with my bridesmaids and our photographer couldn't think of any poses or places and was completely clueless and unimaginative. I've also dreamt where in the middle of the ceremony I realize I forgot to put my wedding dress on, and that I woke up the day after the wedding and couldn't remember anything about the reception. The most common nightmare is that the whole wedding (usually the ceremony only) is just total chaos and completely unorganized.

KoriB2013

I have almost a year and a half still and just started having nightmares. I dreamt that it was the day of and I didn't have ANYTHING done. I was trying to find a dress and my mother had a serious 'whatever' attitude (very unlike her...) 

It was terrifying though. lol. But it sounds like I should get used to these crazy dreams?! 

AddieCake

I don't remember mine b/c they were not that bad. For me, it wasn't just nightmares, but I was also dreaming non-nightmarish stuff about the wedding sometimes. I didn't like those either b/c that's like working alll day and then dreaming about work, you know?  It's like you can't get away from it. They stopped when I made a policy of no talking or thinking about the wedding in bed.

gypsylynn2005

I'm not having actual nightmares since I tend to not remember my dreams, but I do have this awful worry with not finding a singer in time. Mine bailed last minute, 2 days ago. Now we are on the hunt with 18 days left! Eek! To top it off, we will be in Palau for 5 days starting tomorrow so I just gotta hope my coordinator is scrambling!

tjah

I keep having nightmares that I wake up the day of, start to get ready, then realize I never booked a hair appointment, and that I'm standing there with teh gorgeous dress with frizzy hair. Then it's always suddenly super late (like 5 minutes before ceremony and I"m still in my pajamas) and I panick rushing to get ready.

That being said, though, whenever I wake up, I realize instantly it was a dream and a pretty silly one at that. I always laugh to myself, then find myself wishing it really was the big day already

Loopyseven

I didn't have any before the wedding, but I rarely remember my dreams.  And then about a month afterwards I had one where I wasn't ready on time, but they were starting anyway so I got married with only half my hair and make up done.  As in, right side = updo, full make up, lipstick, eye shadow, false lashes, whole 9 yards and left side = greasy unbrushed loose hair, no make up, no lipstick, no nothing"  And I just kept saying - "But I'm the bride - they can't start without me"  But then they were playing my entrance song and everyone was looking for me and I got shoved down the aisle half ready.

fperez7542

I had a few this weekend.

1. Some how FI was the one walking me down the isle and there were so many people I didn't know and didn't invite there that I was worried about food and tables.

2. I am in process of losing weight and had a dream that I lost so much weight my dress kept falling. It was so big on me that I could turn 360 degrees without a problem.

3. The JP was drunk, didn't marry us and told everyone to join her for the cocktail hour.  I cried about not really being married.

There have been more but I can't remember.

hacked

This reminds me of being in college and having nightmares about sitting there about to take a final exam and freaking out because I have never showed up to that class and have no idea what they taught there. . .  I talked to my friends and discovered that they all had the same dream.  Years late, found out my husband had the same dream.

I think it is stress related.  When I was pregnant, I dreamed of having my baby in the middle of a mall and not making it to the hospital in time.  (since my labor was only 20 minutes, I guess I had good reason to be worried.  I was already at the hospital when I went into labor).  

I wish I could give you some great advice, but I think it is the nature of the big event.  It just exudes stress.  Cut down on the caffeine and take a relaxing aroma therapy bath before bed.  You know you have it under control!  

krizzo17

I've been married almost a year now and I still have these dreams even if it's really something else I'm stressed about - I guess it's sort of replaced the school based dreams for me. They usually have to do with me being on my way to the ceremony and not having done anything with my hair.

Wife Kitty

I was having constant wedding nightmares starting at the beginning of March. The two worst by far were:

1. My fiance told me he wanted to hang out with the guys for the first half of our honeymoon, so I could just go ahead without him and he'd catch up with me later... and when I protested and said our honeymoon was supposed to be a romantic time for the two of us, he said, "Well, you know I only like you as a friend, right? I mean, we're just getting married for the health benefits and because our parents expect it." OUCH!

2. We'd been married for a short time and obviously had screwed up something royally (or maybe several things royally) because we had no utilities in our apartment or even furniture anymore. The only thing left was the couch, which my fiance was sleeping on because I'd gotten mad at him and kicked him out of the bedroom. I told him I wanted a divorce and he just shrugged his shoulders from the couch and said, "Fine," without even looking up at me, and I looked down at my ring and sadly thought to myself, "Well, this USED to mean something..." I woke up devastated.

What's funny is that now that the wedding is six days away, I'm not really having nightmares anymore... but my fiance is! He had his first "weddingmare" a couple of nights ago. He said he couldn't remember what it was once he was awake, but I'll bet anything that it had to do with his tux. The shop hasn't called him yet and he's getting super worried about it.

tlc35

I have had a few.  One where the hair and makeup people didn't show and we didn't know what to do, and one where the bouquets were left at my parents house 3 hrs away.  There have been more but that is all I remember right now.

WolfPanic

I felt that way 2 months ago too! I had a similar situation, where I had 6 months to plan a wedding. You know what you should do? Focus on gettig a venue or venues. That is a MOST IMPORTANT THING. Securing a venue secures a place for your wedding and also a date for your wedding. After that, you are pretty much half way done. I know the 100+ list on this site makes the task of planning an entire wedding in 6 months seem pretty daunting, but after you secure the venue, everything else falls into place. You know the feel of your wedding, the look everything should go with, ect. It will really help you be able to visualize it. You will feel so much better!

MayDay513

I had a stress nightmare that no one used the photobooth and that people were wasting food. In my dream people were just throwing away slices of pizza, we aren't serving pizza, but it's one of my favorite foods, I woke up mortified. And have since reminded my family to use the photobooth a lot

QuintonsMummah

I had my first wedding nightmare the other night. I dreamt that I send out a mass Facebook invite for the wedding instead of paper ones and everyone was staring at me and saying things behind my back! LOL.

ginter27

UGH I started having nightmares as soon as we got engaged. I've had every bad senerio. I've had one that my fiance called and told me he was gonna to skip the ceremony and meet me at the reception. He always knows when I have a dream because I start planning more the next day. I hate them cause I always have a horrible gut feeling for the next day or so. I can only imagine they will get worse the closer we get! It must me a normal thing!

ginter27

UGH I HAD ANOTHER ONE LAST NIGHT! THIS ONE WAS BAD: MY FIANCE WAS GOING TO CHOOSE BETWEEN MYSELF AND ANOTHER GIRL AT OUR WEDDING. THE FINAL DECISION WAS GOING TO BE DURING THE CEREMONY! NOT COOL!

hacked

There is a lesson to be learned here- check with your venders a day or two before, or have a trusted friend do it.  When I was about 10 (this would be the late 60's) we went to a wedding and the flowers in front of the church looked strange.  My mother had helped the bride make head pieces for the bridesmaids, and she knew the color scheme was a dark rose color, but the altar flowers were spring bouquets with yellows and purples and a lot of lilies.  The wedding finally started, and the groomsmen had no boutonnieres.  The women did not have corsages.  The bridesmaids came down the aisle and they each had a yellow rose, and the maid of honor had three yellow roses.  When the bride came down the aisle, she had what obviously was a red silk rose bouquet.  We later found out the florist had failed to show.  The altar flowers that looked so odd were from a funeral home next to the church.  The bridesmaid's roses were from a dozen roses given to the MOH from her boyfriend for her birthday the day before, and the bride's bouquet was one the photographer had in his truck, to use for formal wedding portraits.  Lesson learned- call the venders, and keep in touch with them the weeks before the wedding, so they remember you!

jlfesf

I've only had one so far. I had it the weekend we booked our venue, caterer, DJ, and photographer all in one day. I dreamt that it was the day of the wedding, I was with my mom and FMIL getting into my dress, then I suddenly realized that I had only ever booked THOSE things! I was freaking out because I had never booked an officiant, didn't have a cake, and hadn't even sent out invitations! I woke up up with a panicked feeling and like,"must plan all the things now!"

alisabbw

LOL no it's not weird!  I'm getting married in just under 3 months and man oh man oh man!!!  Nightmares about the dress being too big, then too small, nightmares about my MOH driving around aimlessly the day of the wedding.  Nightmares about so much that I'm like what the???  But I realize that it's stress and excitement and natural worry.  But as people close to me say it's one day...it will be fine regardless.  My MOH told me that her job that day was to make sure no one bothered me about anything bad and to make sure that my FI and I were happy.

Tell someone you trust to not think you're cracking up about your nightmares and they'll help you feel somewhat better. 

Good luck!!!

ketonra

I'm getting married in October and I've had them, too! Like showing up to the ceremony late, with my hair and make-up not done. You're fine! I think we just put so much thought into this stuff that it haunts us a bit... lol