First time posting on this board. Figured this is where to go to rant when things are stressing you out. So, here're the wedding frustrations. My friend is getting married in Sept, I'm getting married in June. Her FI was going to be one of our GM, and my FI was going to be one of their GM. A cpl months ago, friend's FI called my FI to tell him my FI is no longer in their wedding party. A little annoying, but no big deal, less money we have to spend on not having to worry about renting a tux for my FI at their wedding. So, I had sent out texts to all GM end of Jan telling them the info on where we're renting tuxes from & when to get fitted. No one got fitted by the date I gave. So, I sent out a reminder text for GM to get fitted. My friend texts me back, saying she thought her FI wasn't going to be one of our GM (since my FI isn't one of theirs anymore)... but we never discussed that... I'm not a mind-reader. Anyway, she says she can't afford it. Okay, so one less GM I guess. Still kinda annoyed that they just "assumed" her FI was out of GM duties. If that's what they thought, they really should've mentioned something sooner, like when I sent out the first text about GM info... Oh, well, moving on.
Second grievance is my FBIL. He is the Best Man & his daughters (ages 5&6) are supposed to be our flower girls. So, I worked hard to find a really deal on FG dresses. The cheapest ones at DB were $110. I found some cute tutu-style dresses on Etsy for $55 (this took some searching to find them this cheap). We're having the BMs wear TOMS, so I thought it'd be nice to have the FG wear TOMS shoes too. These are $42, so less cheap, but it's a good cause, since a pair is donated to a child in need for every pair bought. I sent him the info on dresses & shoes & asked if this was okay. He said yes. (I would've understood if doing the shoes too would be too expensive for him, and other shoes would have been fine). So, I asked him to order the dresses by March 15, since they are being hand-made, and order the shoes by April 1. A couple days past the dress deadline, I haven't heard anything, so I reached out to remind him. At this point, after the deadline, he tells me he's not comfortable with the dresses, since they are halter-style (ties behind the back of the neck). If this is the case, he really should've mentioned that BEFORE the deadline... So, I talk to the seller on Etsy, explaining the situation, and she said she can add some cap sleeves to make FBIL happy. I send him a pic, FBIL says that's fine. I also told him I need their measurements to give the seller, since she is creating a special listing for him. When he got back to me, he didn't give me the measurements, just said he's just waiting to have the money. He still could've gotten me the measurements, as the wedding is 2 months away... So, another wk or so passes, and now it's 2 wks past the original deadline, and we haven't gotten the measurement or heard anything, so we reach out again. This time he says he was waiting on giving the measurements since the girls are growing a lot. Come on. It's 2 months away. The dresses are hand-made and take a while to come in, so if you really think they're gonna grow, add an inch or something, but we need to get this stuff ordered already! Of course, we aren't rude or anything, but FI is just kinda done with it at this point, just like, "whatever." Then FBIL texts him saying, "Just so you know, you guys are having me spend $300 on this wedding." If it's a money issue, let us know, and maybe your girls don't have to be FG, but if that's the problem, COMMUNICATE it with us, not just way past deadlines. Ugh. Sorry, I know this was a long rant... I'm just sick of ppl being flaky.