Need Help...

purplegold128

So the Fiance wants a wedding that all of his family can come to where as I want a small ceremony with just our parents and siblings and then a huge party later.  What should I do? We are looking at having everything in Pittsburgh, but thats the other issue of where.  I say that because his family is from Long Island and my family is from Reading, PA. So any ideas on a good cheap wedding location that showcases Pittsburgh? Plus we need a cermony site since neither of us are from the Pittsburgh area... I said I need a lot of help... 

bgfst1

Well, in terms of big wedding vs. small wedding, I can tell you what happened with us:  I wanted to elope and then celebrate with just immediate family upon return from where ever we ended up eloping (both of our families have a lot of drama at times, we don't have a TON of close friends, and I am SUPER shy and hate attention so it seemed like the best thing for me), but FI wanted a wedding with every person he'd ever met! Our compromise:  we're having a ceremony with immediate family only (at a venue that is small enough where only immediate family can fit) and having a massive party with everyone later. But basically, I can't tell you how to solve your disagreement with your fiance - thats a compromise the two of you will have to come to All I can say is explain why you want what you want, and listen when he explains his side.

As for locations that showcase Pittsburgh - there are a ton of options! But it depends - do you have a budget? Do you want something indoors or outdoors? Do you want the ceremony and reception at the same place? How many ppl? Do you need a religious ceremony site? A lot depends on the details!

cgyvhu

Congrats and welcome!  I'm from Allentown, PA originally, and having a Pgh wedding.

I think that if it's important to your FI to have his family there, that it's important to respect that.  You can ask him if your compromise of immediate family only is ok, but if it isn't, I'd really consider just letting all guests go to the ceremony and reception.  The ceremony can take as little as 10 minutes, so even though it's nerve-wracking, it doesn't have to be that bad.

Like bgfst said, let us know your guest list size, budget, and a look you want, and we can try to help.