Can I host my own bachelorette?

purcellen15

So, yeah.....can I?
Two of my bridesmaids live out of state, and one is in medical school. I am sure they hope to be a part of it, but I don't think any of them want to actually go ahead and be in charge of it (getting a hotel, inviting others, etc)
I don't want anything big...just to hit up a few bars, go dancing, crash at a nearby hotel. I don't want to burden my busy maids. I don't think anyone else will offer. Can I just go ahead and throw myself a bachelorette party? Too pitiful?

itzMS

Hmm. No. Sorry. Bridal showers and Bachelorette parties are hosted. Sure, you could go out with some friends and have a girls night. Calling it your Bachelorette party is not appropriate. If it means thatttt much to you, is it really that difficult to express your feelings to your bridesmaids? Certainly, they're not obligated to throw you a pityparty, but maybe they don't know how badly you want a B party...

JoanE2012

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[QUOTE]So, yeah.....can I? Two of my bridesmaids live out of state, and one is in medical school. I am sure they hope to be a part of it, but I don't think any of them want to actually go ahead and be in charge of it (getting a hotel, inviting others, etc) I don't want anything big...just to hit up a few bars, go dancing, crash at a nearby hotel. I don't want to burden my busy maids. I don't think anyone else will offer. Can I just go ahead and throw myself a bachelorette party? Too pitiful?
Posted by purcellen15[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>A bachelorette party is thrown in your honor so no, you cannot host your own.

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Summer2011Bride

You can't throw your own b-party but you can call up or text your best girlfriends and say, "Hey, want to have a girls' night out on X date?" Just don't make it wedding-related.

kbaird02

Oh, please. Do whatever you want. Do you really want to look back and wish you had done something differently but ettiquette stopped you? If you want to save face, just ask your moh or bridesmaids to mail the invitations and field any questions, but do the leg work yourself. No one besides your moh has to know that you were the main organizer.

Peledreamsofrain

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[QUOTE]Oh, please. Do whatever you want. Do you really want to look back and wish you had done something differently but ettiquette stopped you? If you want to save face, just ask your moh or bridesmaids to mail the invitations and field any questions, but do the leg work yourself. No one besides your moh has to know that you were the main organizer.
Posted by kbaird02[/QUOTE]

Yeah.....no. 

OP, there is nothing to stop you from having an awesome night out with the girls, but throwing a party to honor yourself won't impress anybody.  You might as well organize your own surprise birthday parties while you are at it.  People WILL know, and people WILL side-eye you, and downgrade your classiness in their minds.