No One Buying Off Registry?

Ryan&Ashley2013

My shower is in 2 weeks, my wedding is in 6.  We have a decent sized guest list.   about 250 invited, 150 attending.  But hardly anything has been bought off of our registries yet.   What gives? 

KatWAG

It is because your shower is in 2 weeks and your weddings is in 6 weeks. Slow your roll. Who buys a shower gift 2 weeks early? I normally buy mine the day before.

itzMS

We got very few registry gifts (though I didn't have a shower).

Most people just give cards/cash because it's easier.

Summer2011Bride

Many people buy gifts last minute, as in the day of or the day before the shower/wedding. Two weeks and 6 weeks, respectively, are still VERY far in advance for many people when shopping for gifts.

You may also get a large amount off-registry or a large amount of checks/cash, which is fine as well. A registry is simply a suggestion for guests and not something they have to follow.

antibride2013

Gifts are not mandatory.  Maybe your guests feel like their presence is gift enough.  I agree, slow your roll.  A lot of people also do not like buying off registries. 

nycrose2013

I for one think its weird. My shower is this weekend and we had many gifts purchased off of the registry before the 2 week mark. Maybe registry information wasn't included on the shower invite so guests don't know where to look? I mean, I am not saying this is a problem or you should expect gifts, or (god forbid) hound your hostess about it, but I do think it is a little weird. I'd be confused too. There isn't anything to do about it, though. Just one of those things. i guess you will find out about it at the shower?

Pookieson

My shower is in one week and we have a handful of things bought.  Not a big deal.  People buy gifts the day before, not 2 weeks and 6 weeks out.  I think you need to chill.

lyndausvi

I'm one of those people who buy gifts a few days before (or even the day of)  the event.  I know a lot of other people who do the same.  NBD

gabriel0915

I most definitely bought a friend a gift the day of her wedding and a shower gift the day before. I totally regisitry stalked and iyou get antsy but people take their time. We are doing to a wedding in June and I alread scheduled to leave work early to buy their gift the day before the wedding.

krizzo17

About half the gifts for my shower were purchased that morning. Most of the wedding gifts that weren't shipped to us were purchased the week before the wedding.

flojo973

I wouldn't worry about it.  Most people buy stuff on the weekends.  I noticed that the weekend before my shower about 75% of the gifts were bought.  Most people buy right before the shower.  And we received a good amount of gift cards.  If they don't buy off of your registry hopefully they'll include a gift receipt!

Summer2011Bride

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_registering-gifts_no-one-buying-off-registry?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:34Discussion:5571633e-3ce6-4844-a245-17095aab0b62Post:9c193d75-2081-4aa8-bcfc-dc9182009672">Re: No One Buying Off Registry?</a>:
[QUOTE]I think that's odd, too, especially for such a large guest list. I hope the shower hostess told the guests where you registered! <strong>Yes, we know gifts aren't required, and no, guests aren't required to use a registry..... but random white elephants are a pet peeve.  Why get the couple something they may not be able to use????</strong>
Posted by RetreadBride[/QUOTE]

My favorite wedding gift was something I did not register for. Buying off-registry does not always equal a horrendous gift. If I know someone very well, have known them for years, and know their taste, and while out shopping, see something I know they will love, I'm going to buy it for them whether it's on their registry or not.

KDM323

Individuals may be buying gifts that are listed on your registry and simply not "checking" them off. 

I've, personally, never gone and physically checked a gift off a registry.  I look at the registry and then go and purchase whatever item that I want to get for the person.  

I'd be willing to bet that you have folks that are doing the same thing.

emeejeeayen

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_registering-gifts_no-one-buying-off-registry?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:34Discussion:5571633e-3ce6-4844-a245-17095aab0b62Post:7885e350-05ff-4ff2-ac60-44b78a3d0242">Re: No One Buying Off Registry?</a>:
[QUOTE]If I know someone very well, have known them for years, and know their taste, and while out shopping, see something I know they will love, I'm going to buy it for them whether it's on their registry or not. That's fine.....IF you truly, 100% for-certain-know they will love it. So many people only THINK they "are absolutely certain" Bruce and Betsy will love the Amazingly Authentic Ambulance Siren Alarm Clock with the flashing lights.
Posted by RetreadBride[/QUOTE]

<div>Agreed. FI and I know each other better than anyone else knows us, we've been together for over 5 years and known each other for longer, and I still think we're hit and miss about surprise gifts. </div>

efmcc67

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[QUOTE]If I know someone very well, have known them for years, and know their taste, and while out shopping, see something I know they will love, I'm going to buy it for them whether it's on their registry or not. <strong>That's fine.....IF you truly, 100% for-certain-know they will love it</strong>. So many people only THINK they "are absolutely certain" Bruce and Betsy will love the Amazingly Authentic Ambulance Siren Alarm Clock with the flashing lights.
Posted by RetreadBride[/QUOTE]

<div>Ugh, this exactly. I couple years ago for Christmas, my father (who knows me extremely well) bought me a horrendous painted tin Saint Nicholas. He was very excited to give it to me, but it is not to my taste AT ALL. It's a frequent gripe in my life that people always ask me what I want, I tell them, and then they ignore me and buy me something terrible that they're convinced I'll like. On the plus side, I have fantastic gifts for white elephant parties.</div>

Ella and Pedro

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_registering-gifts_no-one-buying-off-registry?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:34Discussion:5571633e-3ce6-4844-a245-17095aab0b62Post:7885e350-05ff-4ff2-ac60-44b78a3d0242">Re: No One Buying Off Registry?</a>:
[QUOTE]If I know someone very well, have known them for years, and know their taste, and while out shopping, see something I know they will love, I'm going to buy it for them whether it's on their registry or not. That's fine.....IF you truly, 100% for-certain-know they will love it. So many people only THINK they "are absolutely certain" Bruce and Betsy will love the <strong>Amazingly Authentic Ambulance Siren Alarm Clock with the flashing lights</strong>.
Posted by RetreadBride[/QUOTE]


That sounds hawt!

kcurt833443

I think that generally a gift is a gift, you should be gracious... But as a bride I received so much stuff I do not want, cannot use and is just sitting there collecting dust, I think that guests should try to be better gift givers and buy requested registry gifts. I always do when I am a guest... I mean sure when im shopping,i might see the cutest towels... But just because I like them doesnt mean the bride will. I think if you feel you just have to go off registry, include a gift receipt!