Early Checks

jordanm27

So with the wedding only 3 weeks away and 2 showers already completed we have been getting a lot of gifts both in person and in the mail. We have not been using any of our physical gifts and plan and starting to use them after the wedding. However, we have been given many checks recently. I am unsure what to do with them. Should I wait to deposit these too? I don't know why but I just feel really silly having a stack of checks sitting around for almost a month. And I know some people would rather have a check deposited soon after they give it instead of someone waiting and surprising their bank account with the deposit. Maybe I'm thinking too much about this, what have you all done?

Summer2011Bride

There was a post like this on E today and the responses were pretty split. Technically you shouldn't be using/cashing any gifts before the wedding (definitely send TYs ASAP though). I do see your point about people wanting to balance their checkbooks.

if the wedding is soonish, I would hold off on cashing them until after the wedding. I think 3 weeks would be short enough. If you really felt uncomfortable hanging on to them, you could cash them but not spend the money. If, God forbid, the wedding were to not happen, you'd have to give them their money back.

JoanE2012

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[QUOTE]So with the wedding only 3 weeks away and 2 showers already completed we have been getting a lot of gifts both in person and in the mail. We have not been using any of our physical gifts and plan and starting to use them after the wedding. However, we have been given many checks recently. I am unsure what to do with them. Should I wait to deposit these too? I don't know why but I just feel really silly having a stack of checks sitting around for almost a month. And I know some people would rather have a check deposited soon after they give it instead of someone waiting and surprising their bank account with the deposit. Maybe I'm thinking too much about this, what have you all done?
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</div><div>Cash them.   I hate writing a check and having it left uncashed for weeks.  Not only does it throw my balance off, but if it sits uncashed for longer than a couple weeks, I begin to think the recipient didn't think too much of my gift since they're not bothering to cash it.

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jessicabessica

I would deposit the checks as soon as you've written the TY note, but don't spend the money until after the wedding.

kristinanddan

Absolutely cash them now and send the thank yous now. 

gabriel0915

I agree to at least cash it. I can't stand writing a check for any reason and then it not being cashed for weeks. I tend to forget about it and then get mad that it took so long. I wouldn't mind if I sent a check before a wedding and it was cashed right away.

wittykitty14

Cash it now, send a thank you, and don't spend the money until after the wedding.  I also get frustrated if checks aren't cashed within a few days after I write it out.  I don't like knowing that it's "lurking" around, not knowing when it will be cashed-especially if I had to send it by mail, it makes me worry more!