I'm having trouble writing about the groom in my Maid of Honor toast. I hate him. He's an arrogant, argumentative, boorish, over-aged frat boy.
Some backstory: they've been together 6 years, and the first several years he was even worse, and even she was questioning their relationship. Since some of his actions were concerning at the time (borderline alcoholic & monopolized her time), I decided to lay it all out for her. I sat her down, told her what I didn't like about him and why, and I pointed out the things that concerned me. I made my points clear, and she understood and even agreed with parts of it.
But I told her that the bottom line is that he makes her happy and I know he does really love her, and as long as that was the case, then she wouldn't hear another peep from me. I've kept true to my word and have bitten my tongue ever since. Although he has improved and matured quite a bit, I'll give him that.
Through the magic of unspoken BFF vibes, I know that she knows that I'm still iffy about him. Because of this, I think it would be very noticeable (to her) if I didn't mention him in the toast.
Finally to my question: What's a good way to give him a generic nod of recognition? I'll do my very best to suck it up for her, I just need a starting point.
I know all of those details weren't necessary; I just needed to vent a bit...sorry about that.