I am newly engaged, however my fiance and I have been freinds for 8 years, and we dated for four and half years. While we are happy and everyone is happy for us I really have only one problem. Like most girls I had a general idea of what I wanted for my wedding small, sweet and elegant. I wanted just close family however when I asked my parents they gave me a list of 79+ people they would like me to send an invitation to and I have not yet gotten her to sit down with me to tell me who she would like for me to invite. When I ask if she would mind sitting down with me later and telling me she just starts rattling off names as if I am supposed to remember. My fiance and I are paying for our wedding, and we are fine with the first draft of the list, as I call it, as we will sit down when we have a full list and decided who to really invite. My m-i-l also seems to think that since I have two brides maids(my friend and my cousin) and two mohs(my best friend and my little sister(13)) that my wedding is no longer small. I would not have asked these girls if they did not mean the world to me. She thinks it should simply be a moh and a best man, me and my fiance, she also believes that my father-in-law should be the best man(my brother-in-law is the best man and he is over the moon about it)even though my f-i-l and my fiance don't have the best relationship and I am not the biggest fan of the way my f-i-l acts sometimes, and my brother-in-law a grooms man. I understand that her definition of small is different than mine but I have heard of people who have had 18 bridesmaids. She keeps telling us to make it small and simple and save the money for the honeymoon. I get this but I only get one wedding and this is the day I will marry the man I love. How do I get her to understand this, as I have told her that I only get one wedding and she still mentions this any time someone brings up the wedding. I don't know how to get it across to her that I love her but this is my fiance's and my wedding and while I would love her help it hurts my feelings that she keeps at me about the choices I make for MY WEDDING! Am I wrong to feel this way? Should I just suck it up and let it be?