I know that everyone has their own FMIL stories and mine may seems like nothing compares to others but I just get really annoyed by her. So a little background information, my FI and I have been dating for 6 years and we got engaged last year and moved in together. He is the only son and his mom is basically the head of the household (his dad listen to every thing his mom said). Before we move in together, she has been fixing him food everyday although he is also a good cook himself. After we moved in together, she insisted to buy us grocery everyweek with the same food that she thought her son loves. In fact, those food may be his favorite once a week, but not 5 days a week (think 10 pieces of salmon a week). So we have been trying to tell her that we can go grocery shopping ourselves (and i love grocery shopping) and she doesn't need to worry about us. She just won't listen and continue to buy everytime she stops by to see us (it's 45 mins drive from her home). She just can't get over the fact that her son doesn't need her to baby sit him anymore. Finally i convinced my FI that we will go visit her once a week instead and will pick up the food when we leave. I will then go through the food she bought and take out any that we still have plenty at home (like 10 bulbs of garlic). She then get irritated and said how hard it is for her to walk that far to get our grocery and then we leave them at her house and they go bad. I will try to tell her that then don't buy anymore, i've told you that we still have plenty of food at home and we don't need them. Anyway, that's the grocery part that will never end. She also likes to call my FI every night, just to ask him what he had for dinner, whether or not he needs anymore food, blablabla...There's one time that my FI didn't pick up her phone, she called 3 times and left 2 messages, and i heard her messages because my FI turned on the speaker phone, and she basically said the same thing "why don't you pick up mama's phone huh? you don't call mama anymore now and when i call you you don't pick up the phone. what are you doing and you can't pick up the phone? call me back when you hear this message and why you still haven't call me back? I'll call you again tomorrow and remember to pick up the phone". I was like WTF....sorry about my language but why can't she just let her son go? She also likes to come to our house without notice. Like today, she called us yesterday about our plans for the weekend, whether or not we are going to her house so she can get us grocery. FI told her that we are still working on some wedding plans (we are getting married in June) and will let her know if we are coming by Thursday. Today, she called my FI at noon that they are coming to our house at 4 and we won't be coming home till after 6. My FI called me and it just hit my nerves, why can't they decide yesterday that they are coming today instead of this afternoon? This is not the first time she has done this, she came to our place 3 or 4 times b4 without noticing us until the day of, then she will go through our house sweeping, cleaning out our garbage, fixing our bed...then tell us all about it. She just want to make me feel bad that i didn't clean the house well and she can still sweep out dog hair on our floor. The thing is, we are both working and the only time we can clean up is the weekend, which already took away by going to their house every weekend. We try to clean lightly once a week and deep clean once every two weeks with vacumming and mopping the floor. One time even with us just deep cleaned the sunday b4, she came on wednesday and still say that she can sweep out dog hair on the floor and it's bad for our health. BTW, she has been trying to tell us to give away our five year old lab if we have babies, which will never happen. Why is that her business at all? Now i can't even imagine on what will happen if we have a baby....i guess she will gone nuts about our house and our food and take over our lives.