Need MOH Advice

missyjp94

I've been off and on friends with SE. We were friends growing up, then lost touch for some years, and became friends again in college. We've talked about her being my MOH once I get married.

I also have an older sister that I've always been really close to. I've looked up to her since I was little, and she's my role model to this day.

This past year I've been through a lot of hardships. It's really shown me who I can rely on. SE wasn't supportive through everything like I needed her to be. It really took me by surprise and hurt. My sister, however, was supportive from the start and still is. 

I've been doing a lot of thinking during this past year, and I'm not sure if I want SE as my MOH anymore. I know we had talked about it, and so that's why it's making it really hard. I think that I should have someone I can be honest with and that supports me and loves me no matter what as my MOH.

Help!

Maggie0829

Talking about it and actually asking are two different things.  Who you have as your MOH is a personal choice.  If you would prefer your sister then ask her.  You shouldn't feel obligated to ask someone just because the idea was thrown around willy nilly.  Now if you have actually asked her to be your MOH then that is a different story.  But even if you have asked her to be your MOH does not mean your sister couldn't be your MOH as well.

My question is, are you going to ask SE to be a part of your wedding party at all?  You should really consider your level of friendship with her before hand and know that her demeanor and they way she is will not change just becasue you asked her to be in your wedding.

missyjp94

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_moms-maids_need-advice-6?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:357Discussion:c8e7de78-b525-4d27-8ce1-34f6f48a2100Post:2d9adf47-0033-4da4-a498-722b77c6b83b">Re: Need Advice</a>:
[QUOTE]Talking about it and actually asking are two different things.  Who you have as your MOH is a personal choice.  If you would prefer your sister then ask her.  You shouldn't feel obligated to ask someone just because the idea was thrown around willy nilly.  Now if you have actually asked her to be your MOH then that is a different story.  But even if you have asked her to be your MOH does not mean your sister couldn't be your MOH as well. My question is, are you going to ask SE to be a part of your wedding party at all?  You should really consider your level of friendship with her before hand and know that her demeanor and they way she is will not change just becasue you asked her to be in your wedding.
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</div><div>Thanks for your help! To help save on money we're only going to have one bridesmaid and one groosman in the party. 

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missyjp94

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_moms-maids_need-advice-6?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:357Discussion:c8e7de78-b525-4d27-8ce1-34f6f48a2100Post:1d4d8936-6270-4289-808e-8229ba961537">Re: Need MOH Advice</a>:
[QUOTE]Your wedding isn't until June of 2014.  You shouldn't select a wedding party at all until January of next year at the very earliest. Relationships, as you have seen, can change. Once you ask, you can't go back on your word without dealing a serious slight to the friend or relative. You can ask anyone you wish.  Long-ago promises aren't binding.  You can also not select an MOH at all, and tell your wedding party you love everyone to much to elevate someone from among them. Please don't use it as a reward or punishment for the one who does the most for you.
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</div><div>You're right, and I understand that. It's just that for me, I want someone that's supportive of me as my MOH. So that's why I'm considering my sister. 

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