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E Ring During Ceremony

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Re: E Ring During Ceremony

  • My wedding band is a ring guard (the engagement ring fits inside it). It looks funny on its own but I was trying to figure out how to go about this as well.
  • My e-ring and wedding band are interlocking, so both with be on the ring barer pillow and will be placed on my hand at the same time during the ceremony. Even if your rings don't interlock, you could still do this.
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  • I think it depends...my fiancee will be putting both my engagement ring and wedding ring on me simultaneously, but that's because of my particular bridal set.  The wedding band "hugs" the ring...the engagement ring does not snap inside, the wedding band goes down under the engagement ring and comes up on the other side, so its shape and design makes it look very bizarre as a wedding ring by itself, and wouldn't feel very comfortable either.

    ctgallardo
  • My bridal set is a bit strange, the wedding band fits around the engagement ring and it doesn't look right by itself. I plan to have my engagement ring and wedding band put together at the jewelers, so at my wedding, the whole set will be slipped on at the ceremony. I don't know if that's an odd thing to do, but it will work. The hard part about getting the rings put together is I need to do it probably 6 weeks or even more before the wedding. I have another ring, like a promise ring, that I can wear in the weeks before my wedding though. I agree with the others, too, there's no wrong or right way to do this. Just whatever is easier for you.
  • I was thinking about wearing it on my left hand and then discreetly taking it off right before the wedding band goes on and placing the e-ring back on...
  • My wedding ring and engagement ring will already be soldered together so my fiance will be putting them both on my finger at one time.
  • My engagement ring fits on my pinky on my left hand so I plan on wearing it there for the ceremony. As soon as he puts the band onto my ring finger I will move the ering on top. I agree and don't believe there is a proper way. It's just what you are comfortable with.  
  • decembergrl2014decembergrl2014 NYC!!! member
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    I think I'll wear mine on my right hand and then move it to my left hand with my new wedding ring afterwards. I plan on getting a matching band anyway so they will look nice together.

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  • lgiornolgiorno member
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    Mine were soldered together already.

  • Ven&Radio said:
    I guess I'm in the minority on this, but I'm seriously leaning towards wearing my wedding band on top of my e-ring.  To me it feels wrong to switch them.  I got the e-ring first, and my FI will be placing the wedding ring on top of it at the ceremony.  In my mind, that's how they should stay.  I know this is not traditional, but it's what makes the most sense to me.
    I like this idea!! I have always thought the "right" way seemed odd and I agree the "wrong" way makes more sense to me as well... 
  • I was wondering about this before I got married (earlier this month) but when the wedding day finally arrived, the question got pushed to the back of my mind and I never made any decisions one way or the other. So what ended up happening was what everyone else said, my husband put the band on the far side of the e-ring, which was fine. Right after the ceremony we went for a walk down the beach for a few mins, and I switched it then. Honestly, so many things I had thought were important faded into the background that day. It really didn't matter to me one way or the other.

    as for what side to finally wear the wedding band, I was told that it goes on the inside, "closest to your heart," which I really like. It makes sense to award that position to whichever of your rings belongs there, according to you. 
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  • My engagement ring and wedding band are already soldered, as my engagement ring is my grandma's wedding set. I won't have the ring for a couple of weeks prior to the wedding because we're getting it re-set in white gold, so I'll just be getting the one ring placed on my finger during the ceremony.

    my engagement ring was also my grandmother's...my fiance had the rings separated so that I could have a traditional engagement ring...that is always a possibility if you want to go that route.

  • I've always heard that you put the wedding band on over the engagement ring and you switch it once you consummate the marriage. It's a little more risqué of an explanation but that's what everyone keeps saying to do. Hope this helps!
  • Jules226Jules226 member
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    edited May 2013
    Ven&Radio, and hartwauford, this makes the most sense to me too -- I haven't really thought about it before, and it appears that wedding band first is the tradition, but it sounds a little backwards! I like the idea of e-ring first.
  • Jules226Jules226 member
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    edited May 2013
  • do whatever you feel comfortable with.  There are no rules!
  • @lyndausvi I'll also be getting my grandmother's wedding rings and am not sure what to do with my current e ring as hers are soldered.

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  • >>There is no "proper" way.  Personally, I wore mine and then switched the band and e ring after the ceremony.

    There IS a proper way, and in The South, people insist on these traditional rules. 

    You are supposed to wear your e-ring on your right hand, so that your groom can put your wedding band on a naked finger.  Then there is a part included in many ceremonies where the groom will take the e-ring from your right hand and put it on top of the wedding band.  If that's not included in the ceremony, then the bride can slide the e-ring on top of the wedding band.

    >>'m seriously leaning towards wearing my wedding band on top of my e-ring.  To me it feels wrong to switch them.  I got the e-ring first, and my FI will be placing the wedding ring on top of it at the ceremony.  In my mind, that's how they should stay.

    Well, it's your choice of course, but in my area, brides just don't do that.  The wedding band needs to be closest to your heart, placed on your finger by your groom in the wedding ceremony, and you just don't take it off.  Ever.  The e-ring you can slide off if you are doing dishes or gardening or whatever.  But the wedding band stays on.  Forever.

     

  • >>There is no "proper" way.  Personally, I wore mine and then switched the band and e ring after the ceremony.

    There IS a proper way, and in The South, people insist on these traditional rules. 

    You are supposed to wear your e-ring on your right hand, so that your groom can put your wedding band on a naked finger.  Then there is a part included in many ceremonies where the groom will take the e-ring from your right hand and put it on top of the wedding band.  If that's not included in the ceremony, then the bride can slide the e-ring on top of the wedding band.

    >>'m seriously leaning towards wearing my wedding band on top of my e-ring.  To me it feels wrong to switch them.  I got the e-ring first, and my FI will be placing the wedding ring on top of it at the ceremony.  In my mind, that's how they should stay.

    Well, it's your choice of course, but in my area, brides just don't do that.  The wedding band needs to be closest to your heart, placed on your finger by your groom in the wedding ceremony, and you just don't take it off.  Ever.  The e-ring you can slide off if you are doing dishes or gardening or whatever.  But the wedding band stays on.  Forever.

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    Um, what?  Why?  Is this in the rule book? 
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  • Maggie0829Maggie0829 Ravens & Bohs & Crabs & O's member
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    OP, there is no right or wrong way to do it.  Whatever feels most comfortable for you.

    I just wore my e-ring normally and H put the wedding band on top.  After the ceremony I quickly switched them.  H noticed and said "did I do it wrong?" in a worried tone.  I just giggled and told him no.  He was seriously scared that he did it wrong.

    As for how you wear your e-ring and wedding band once you are married it is really up to you.  There are no rules to follow.


  • From TheKnot:  Most people move their oengagement ring to their right hand so that the wedding band will not be "upstaged" and can be placed first on your finger, in its traditional position "closest to the heart."

    From TheKnot:  Look up "engagement ring vows" on the knot boards (it's under ceremony ideas). This is a way to do both. The engagement ring is done after the wedding bands. The officiant says "The engagement ring is a symbol of promise and intention. Now the intention is realized and the promise fulfilled. Please place your engagement ring on "bride's name" finger over her wedding band to symbolize that the love that brought you together will always protect and sustain your marriage."

    From MyWedding.com:  wear your engagement ring on your right hand, and move it to your left hand at some point after the wedding ceremony (since, traditionally, the wedding band goes first on your finger

    From WeddingWire.com:  Have the groom put the wedding ring on first, then the engagement ring, perhaps with some language about the engagement ring being the promise and the wedding ring being the fulfillment of that promise.

    From WeddingBee.com:  During the cermony I wore my e-ring on my right hand and after the traditional exchanging of the rings our minister read a little something about the meaning of the engagement ring and the promise that it holds and how that promise is filled, etc. Once he was done with that DH was promted to remove the ring from my right hand and place it on my left, over my wedding band. This was actually one of my favorite parts of the ceremony

    From Emily Post's EtiquetteDaily.com:  ust before the ceremony, the bride switches her engagement ring from her left hand to her right. At the ceremony, the wedding band is placed by on the bride’s left hand. After the ceremony, the engagement ring is returned to the bride’s left hand on top of the wedding band. Therefore, it is considered more appropriate to wear the engagement ring on “top” of the wedding band.

    From WeddingChannel.com:  It's customary to switch your engagement ring to your right hand for the ceremony so your ring finger is bare when you receive the wedding band. However, many brides move the engagement ring back to the left hand after the wedding ceremony, so both rings are photographed together.

     

     

    Jules226
  • Maggie0829Maggie0829 Ravens & Bohs & Crabs & O's member
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    Wow, Kristen#'s how long did it take for you to compile a post full of suggestions, cause not one of those things you listed says that if you do not move your e-ring to your right hand that your marriage will be invalid and the wedding police will come and arrest you because guess what?  It doesn't fucking matter!

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  • lovesclimbinglovesclimbing Alaska member
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    Honestly, I never even thought about what to do with the engagement ring.  I just left it on my hand and my husband slid the wedding band down on top of it.  And that's still the way I wear them.  I know the wedding band is supposed to be on the inside of the engagement ring but my engagement ring is too big even after being resized and I haven't gotten around to resizing it again.  So, my wedding band stays on the outside because it feels better and keeps the engagement ring from slipping around.
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