So I was asked to be in my best friends wedding (been friends since middle school) and of course I said yes but I'm slowly wanting to completely back out from the wedding and it's in a few months. I might be being selfish but I also feel like she isn't really thinking of the bridesmaids either. It's adding up to being about $300+ for everything (dress, shoes, hair + make-up) and for me it's getting a little expensive I just had a baby and have not returned back to work yet. And I really hate paying someone to do my make-up the way I already do (pointless to spend that $40 when it could go towards 2 boxes of diapers). Then it's the shoes, she's wanting us to spend like $45 on shoes we're going to wear once (well I'll only wear them once anyway) and they are like 4 1/2 inch heels I don't even wear heels at all and if I do they are only like 2in and those I can barely walk in. I might being selfish but I always was under the impression you can have what you want for your wedding but also make sure that your bridesmaids are happy as well and everything is well within their means too.
Sorry just some venting and please no snarky remarks. Any insight on how to address any of this when you kinda feel like the bride doesn't really care and she just wants what she wants and that's it.