I have one friend who asked me to be a bridesmaid in her wedding just over 2 years ago. By the time of my wedding it will be 3.5 years since her wedding. We were college friends and then both lived in NYC for the 4 years that I was in medical school there. We didn't live together. We would get together every so often for a catch up dinner or dance class or something when our schedules allowed. Now that I've moved away from NYC we catch up on the phone about 5 or 6 times a year. I don't feel nearly as close to her as I do to the other friends I'm planning to ask as BMs, but close enough that I'd still invite her to my wedding. Do you think she'll "expect" to be asked as a BM? P.S. She got a little bridezilla-ish toward the end of her wedding planning, not hesitating to tell our mutual friend who was a guest that the dress she was planning to wear was too close to white and therefore unacceptable. She did the same for her future sister-in-law.