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Picking Maid of Honor.... Help!

chrisamdash2014chrisamdash2014 member
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I'm struggling deciding who I should choose for my maid of honor. I know that standardly it is right to pick family, but I wanted to get everyone’s opinion... 

There will be 5 on each side and the groom to be has his brother as his best man. I will have my sister in law, sister in law to be, 2 friends from college and my cousin. Growing up, I was always super close to my cousin, and the two friends have basically been my two best friends for the last 10 years. As time has gone on... the relationship with one of the friends has become a touch less involved... live far away from each other and going different directions in life. We are still GREAT friends but just not as strong as in the past. The other friend lives close by, and we see each other often and are in very similar places in life and have the same visions for the future... then my cousin, she is far away as well, and recently had a baby. She and I are still close, but her time is obviously focused on her new family.

 I really want to have my friend who lives nearby as the MOH but I'm worried about hurting the other friend, and possibly my cousin. I think my cousin will understand whole heartedly, but I don't know if the other friend will... 

What are your thoughts.....

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    [QUOTE]I'm struggling deciding who I should choose for my maid of honor. I know that standardly it is right to pick family, but I wanted to get everyone’s opinion...  There will be 5 on each side and the groom to be has his brother as his best man. I will have my sister in law, sister in law to be, 2 friends from college and my cousin. Growing up, I was always super close to my cousin, and the two friends have basically been my two best friends for the last 10 years. As time has gone on... the relationship with one of the friends has become a touch less involved... live far away from each other and going different directions in life. We are still GREAT friends but just not as strong as in the past. The other friend lives close by, and we see each other often and are in very similar places in life and have the same visions for the future... then my cousin, she is far away as well, and recently had a baby. She and I are still close, but her time is obviously focused on her new family.  I really want to have my friend who lives nearby as the MOH but I'm worried about hurting the other friend, and possibly my cousin. I think my cousin will understand whole heartedly, but I don't know if the other friend will...  What are your thoughts.....
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    It's 3am and you need to bury a body. Who do you call to ask for help? That's your MOH.
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  • Maggie0829Maggie0829 member
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    I think you should just skip having a MOH completely and just have them all be bridesmaids.

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  • AddieCakeAddieCake member
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    Standard to pick family?  Says who? There's nobody in my family I would have made my MOH. I agree with both Ziti and Maggie. I chose who I chose b/c they are 2 of the 3 people in this world who I could call to help me hide a body. The third was not able to participate. I didn't make either one of them MOH. They all do the same thing, so I don't feel it's all that important to give anyone the title of "chosen one." 
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  • Sierra524Sierra524 member
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    I agree with PPs. I wouldnt even have a MOH if I were you. However, I have the same exact line up as you...2 FSIL, 2 friends & my cousin. I decided to make my cousin my MOH bc I know that of everybody, she is the one that I can count on the most. She was more like a sister to me than just a cousin. My cousin also lives far away (about 6 hours from me) & recently had a baby. She has been a great help so far, even with the distance and the baby. I have no doubt that I made the right decision.
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  • crazypugladycrazypuglady member
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    I asked my best friend to be my MOH over my sister (my sister lives 900 miles away and has two small kids). Heck.. I wasn't even asked to be a bridesmaid in my sister's wedding. Do what your heart tells you- Or don't choose a MOH at all if you feel all the ladies are equally special/important to you in your eyes.

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  • chrisamdash2014chrisamdash2014 member
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    Thanks everyone! Huge help :)


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