It doesn't matter that I've said not everyone had to participate or contribute to any activities the MOH is planning. They all planned the engagement party and are starting to plan the bridal shower and bachelorette party.
These parties are not something I asked for. We are a very tight group of friends and we have themed dinners very often. We also do non wedding activities 2-3 times a month. We also include the kids and some times we do the adult only activities. We basically try to find any time or occasion to do stuff together. For example next weekend batting cages & rock climbing. Next month a show with the kids.
Well, although we do themed dinners and never argue this whole wedding thing has brought out the arguments. My MOH is MIA half the time. However, when two BMs start talking about the bridal shower or bachelorette she surfaces and doesn't agree with what has been planned while she has been MIA. She states they all have to agree.
I have another BM who has a problem with the bachelorette party. That it shouldn't be the few activities the girls are planning that it should only be a night party and that's it. Her husband is a GM too and she has a problem with theirs too, because it will be expensive. She wanted them to charter a boat but the guys don't want that. So she's upset. Then she states that she's been in 6-7 weddings and she never spent so much money on things and that not even when they went away on vacation did they spend so much money. I honestly have tried to keep it at a minimum with the dress ($130) and tux ($170), and even told her everything else is optional. I have told the MOH and BM please please make sure to keep people's budgets in mind and they have tried. No one was forced to do an engagement party for us. They wanted to and everyone contributed $40 for food, liquor and decorations. They even did it at my house to save money. It hurts that she tells me that my wedding is too expensive for her when I am not asking her to do anything.
This also comes from the person who told me my mom is the one who should plan our bridal shower, I shouldn't have bought my garter or cake cutter because someone is suppose to give it to me.
So my mom saw how upset I was this morning and told me to tell them she was doing the bridal shower by herself. This was in order to take the burden or everyone but now all the BMs are texting me separately to tell my mom that they will help her, even the one who said my wedding is too expensive. I just don't get it.
I'm going to crawl under a rock until the morning of our wedding.