light music, no dancing

Chipmunk415

Hi Ladies!

We've picked a date and an all in one venue, woohoo! We're planning a late morning wedding with a light cocktail hour, followed by a lunch buffet reception. We are going for a smaller wedding, close family and friends, and I'm leaning towards a string quartet and/or pianist to play during the cocktails and reception. No heavy music, just some light background noise.

I'm already getting some questions from FI's side of fam regarding dance music. Now, I love to dance. I'm a big fan of swing dancing ( I used to teach beginner lessons in college at the Swing Dance Club). FI is not a dancer at all. I'm teaching him, but he's very shy about public dancing and being center of attention. Plus, my Dad's physical disabilities (Vietnam war spinal injuries combined with congenital stenosis) make walking a chore for him. I'm not going to ask him to be in pain for 5 minutes so everyone can stare at us in the middle of the room.

How would you politely state that there will be light music, and no dancing? I'm familiar with the bean dip concept if folks get pushy about it, but I'd like suggestions on ways to say "there will be no dancing" without family feeling awkward.

AddieCake

Part of the reason we did a morning ceremony and lunch reception is b/c we don't dance, and although we don't care if others dance, we didn't want anyone trying to pressure us at our own wedding. We felt that going with the daytime event would lessen the expectations of dancing, and I bet that will be true in your case as well with most people.  We had a string trio that played a variety of music from classical to modern. For those who do ask, just be honest and tell them you're not planning on having dancing.