open bar and cash bar

marip123

He said he would be offended If he went to a wedding and it was a cash bar.  I felt the same way.  It was my daughter and fiancé that wanted a cash bar.  Since our vendor doesn't offer package deals my daughter was trying to save him some money. 

QueerFemme

aliciadunn01 said:

YES, you should drop it! You said the book was called "PROPER ETIQUETTE." You probably had to google for 30 minutes to find this  ridiculous book. The author is obviously over 65, she used the word "dignified." BWAH HA HA! Unless you live in Arkansas with your cousin Jethro and cousin Jed NO one wants a "dignified" wedding. Classy, YES, but dignified just makes me laugh out loud when I say it.   Let this lady do what she wants #GAMEOVER

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In Response to Re: open bar and cash bar : So... I'll just drop this here, shall I? http://www.amazon.com/Manners-Guide-Surprisingly-Dignified-Wedding/dp/0393069141
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somehow, dignified means old?   Are you planning on having strippers at your wedding or something?

Dreamergirl8812

MandyMost

aliciadunn01 said:

I'm so shocked that most of the commenters on here are being so rude! OMG. If she wants to have a cash bar, then it's her choice. There is no written rule on what should be done when it's YOUR wedding. There are so many traditions that are not followed today. You guys are hilarious.  Lady, don't let these folks act all snooty towards you. Do what you want.

It's also her choice if she wants to throw her own shower, and invite way more people than are invited to her wedding, and then tell her guests that she only wants cash. And it's her choice to have a big lavish wedding every year on her anniversary and have a mock ceremony, and expect her guests to bring her gifts. And it's her choice to not invite anyone's significant other's, and to only provide seating for half her guests. 

It doesn't mean it's not tacky and rude. 

sonthirathb

marip123 said:

We don't want to be held liable if one of the quests had a car accident.

I am not sure where you are located but here in Ontario I am able to purchase liability insurance if something were to happen to a guest after leaving my reception.  It was $188 for 320 people and was actually required by my banquet hall because I choose an open bar.

Is it common to have a cash bar in your area?  It is very common where I live but I still feel it is rude and am providing a host bar.

sonthirathb

marip123 said:

The groom's father decided on an open bar. 

Wonderful!  Your guests will have a great time!

AliBe24

You guys are HARSH.  We're doing an open bar for beer and wine only.  If people want cocktails, they are more than welcome to pay for them.  I would love to be able to have cocktails free as well, but it's just not realistic within our budget.

NYCBruin

AliBe24 said:

You guys are HARSH.  We're doing an open bar for beer and wine only.  If people want cocktails, they are more than welcome to pay for them.  I would love to be able to have cocktails free as well, but it's just not realistic within our budget.

Beer and wine is perfectly acceptable, but you should remove the option to have people purchase cocktails.  Only host what you can afford.